To start off I'm only 21, so I'm sure most of you will say that I shouldn't really care since I'm so young, but here's the story I met this girl my junior year of high school, I am a year older than her. It took us about a month for us to begin talking and we eventually became really close friends, I was never really a big talker and she would call me non-stop and want to talk for hours and hours and I was not used to this at all. To say she was obsessed with me would be a understatement, she would even come over to my house unexpected and just be like hey wuts up. Well this really creeped me out so I ignored her for about three months. Well I finally apologized for ignoring her and we became close again. She called me her best friend and all that. Well that summer between my jr and sr year I asked her out and of course she said yes. We did all the normal high school boyfriend girlfriend things like going to dances and so on. I am the type that is really mellow and have a good head on my shoulders. She is wilder. We both never drank or did anything you would call inmoral. Well about 8 months in we broke up. She said we were going too fast and that she wanted to know what other guys are like (I was her first boyfriend). Going too fast? Eight months and we never had sex, we were both virgins, and I didnt really care because she was such a great girl and I really loved her. Well even though we weren't together I still asked her to my sr prom and we went and that was about it. Summer came and almost to the day I asked her out, she got asked out by some other guy. The fact is she changed so much since I went out with her. She now drank, partied and all that. At the beginning when her boyfriend would leave town she would call me to hangout, pretty much hangout with the ex behind his back. I stayed friends with all of her friends so I knew how she was doing and so on. Well three months into the relationship I found out that she and her new boyfriend had sex. And im guessing like most guys would at that age, I flipped out because I spent 8 months with her and nothing, but this guy gets 3 months. For a period of time I didn't talk to her at all, but then suddenly we started to hangout, I was even with her when midnight rolled around on her birthday. We started to do things that we did when we were a couple like go snowboarding and hockey games, we even went to a school dance together (behind her current boyfriends back, but he eventually found out). We even went on two 3-day weekend trips alone to two other states and slept in a hotel, but separate beds, but she told her boyfriend she was with a girl friend of hers. The girl eventually ended up cheating (had sex) on her boyfriend and even told me about it. Her boyfriend eventually dumped her because he said she's still in love with me, which led her to stop talking to me. Then it came to summer 2008 and once again she was back with the guy. However know we hung out and talked all the time, whenever she was working and I was free she would ask me to come down and visit her and we would talk for hours and go to dinner and so on. The summer came to an end and she had to go away for her first year of college. We texted each other every couple of weeks, and then that became about every month or so. Throughout this time she continued to have a off and on relationship with the guy. Well this march (2009) rolled around and she broke it off with the guy and it was a pretty bad ending with a lot of fighting between the two. And like clockwork she started talking to me again. She would come home every couple weekends and when she would be home we would hangout, she wouldnt even tell her bestfriend that she was home. She was seeing a guy from her school and I knew this, however one day she texted me and was saying she wasnt too happy and so on, however she didnt want to talk about it, so it was obviously about a guy. Well I later learned that earlier that day she found out that the guy she was seeing had been talking and hanging out with his ex and was lien about it. Well since then about every week or so we talked briefly and she came home several times and we hungout. She even brought her friend home with her from school one weekend and we all hungout. I visited her at school for a couple hours one day and when I left we did something that we hadnt done since we were together, we hugged. Most of you will probably just laugh and say a hug is just a hug however once we broke up she didnt even want me to touch her hand let alone give her a hug. So here I am now. She comes home just about every weekend from school because she has a job over here and we hangout just about every other weekend. I am basically the only friend that she hangs out with when she comes home, even though she has several bestfriends here. When she was with the guy I was single and she would almost brag to me that she was with somebody, always asking if I was with a girl and so on. However ever since shes single she never ever brings up my dating life or asks questions about girls I might be seeing at the time. However I will almost always ask how her current fling is or what her guy situation is and she basically vents the problems to me. She even gets mad when we are with people and a friend of mine brings up a girls name that I might be seeing at that time. She has really changed how she acts around me as well, when she was with the guy she was basically a b**ch to me, however ever since she has been a sweetheart to me and is basically treating me the same as when we were together. Obviously I still love the girl a lot, but I am trying to figure out what she wants from me. I know that she has had a handful of sexual partners, even some that she didnt know (im guessing she was drunk). And lately I have been upset/disappointed that we never had sex even though she has no problem doing it now, its kinda the why are they so special thing. It ticks me off because we are pretty close now and the fact that we get along great you would think that sex might come but for some reason she wants nothing to do with me in that way. I am not ugly or fat, obviously because we were together at a time. What does it seem like to you? She wants to get closer with me again? Stay friends? Or what? Thanks!