How filthy are some dudes?
I've run across the occasional ultra "earthy" woman who thinks essential oils are an acceptable replacement for regular bathing...
But at least one, if not more (hell, sometimes all) woman will always list hygiene on their must have/deal breaker list.
Isn't hygiene a given?
What have you seen? Who has approached you?!?
I wouldn't approach anyone without my whosits and my whatsises having a good once over with soap. Same with clean clothes and at least a rudimentary attempt at styling.
Dudes. If you want someone to touch it, touch it with soap first
I started high school in an institution strictly for science nerds. The Bronx High School of Science. Everybody was about as clean as any other cross-section of society. However, I joined the science fiction and fantasy club. The friends I made there are my friends to this day. We rolled 18 or more deep to all kinds of shenanigans and shindigs. Because of these friends, I go to sci-fi, comic book, cosplay, and anime conventions.
When I first began attending cons in my late teens, it was a bit of culture shock. The hygiene was a fucking problem. Back then, a female attendee was novel. That I was black was also less common. That I was conventionally attractive, coiffed, clean, and neatly dressed was so powerful a combination as to paint a target upon myself. The attention from men was overwhelming. Most of the men approaching me were unwashed, mouth breathing, morbidly obese, socially awkward weirdos who used more gel than shampoo and needed haircuts.
When my clique tried to take over the committees that ran our favorite local convention, we failed because we got physically ill from spending hours breathing in their filth in the meetings. They literally stank us out. After the first meeting, I rode the subway for an hour to meet my boyfriend, who tried to greet me with a bear hug. I was so focused on my headache that I didn't realize I had begun to smell like armpits, belly buttons, and cat pee. He held me away at arms length and asked, "Sweetheart, where did you go today?" I had to ask his mother to let me use her shower and borrow some clothes so we could go out. I smelled that badly just being in the same room as the convention planners for a few hours. After a few meetings, it was clear to me that these people wore the same clothes to every meeting. Because of the stench, backbiting and infighting, I resigned from the committee. At the following convention, I noticed they wore the same clothes I had always seen them wear, including the official convention t-shirt from the previous year. On the last day of the con, as we were leaving, I saw them clean for the first time. Freshly showered, and slightly better groomed, and in the new t-shirts. I came to understand it was their one clean day a year.
The first time I went into a gamer/comic shop there was a tabletop RPG in progress. I was with another conventionally attractive woman from my old clique. The busy shop immediately became noticeably quieter. When I approached the sales clerk and ask for a D&D set of dice, a brick of six sided, and inquired about which edition of White Wolf's Mage they might have available for me to look at I could swear I heard a gasp. my friend was interested in making some Yu-Gi-Oh trades. Suddenly all eyes were on us. When I asked about the store's ability to authenticate a rare Magic the Gathering card for me, you could have heard a pin drop. We were unicorns at the time.
These activities are way more mainstream now, and people at conventions are a mix of the stereotypical unwashed dweeb, and the mainstream geek. I still stand out though. I was very flattered that Cary Elwes recognized me from the previous day at a panel during a convention. He complimented my cosplay. Of course, some dork working for the convention felt the need to translate Mr. Elwes' subtle complement for me, as if I hadn't understood what was being said to me. "He means he likes your body." Yeah. Thanks. I've been flirted with before. LOL
These dirty social rejects are real. They are no longer the majority, but they are still out there perpetuating the negative stereotypes in our fandoms.