Why do some men think....

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by Cochranfan4life, Aug 27, 2008.

  1. Cochranfan4life

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    ..that if a guy gives them a blow job then they aren't gay. Sorry..but if a man alows another man to blow them then that is considered gay sex.
     
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    hmmmmmmmmmmmm agree partially. It bisex too
     
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    I find it silly when i read that men don't think they are gay/bi when a guy sucks them.
     
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    I do believe that there are straight guys out there that really do love oral sex and for whatever reason their wives or their girlfriends will not accomodate them, and who will turn to gay men in mild desperation for the very thing they want...
     
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    I agree. My fave str8 guys are the ones who think they are neither gay nor bi; because they are tops and never bottom or kiss. :rofl: :rolleyes: :confused:
     
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    I agree with that. But I hate when they think they aren't gay or bi for it. oral sex is still sex after all.
     
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    does it make it more exciting for you?
     
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    Yeah, it's gay sex. In fact I've had great head from a guy. But in my eyes that doesn't make me gay. You know why? If I was a gay man I would have exclusive feelings for men.

    I love everything about women but happened to be a pushover with a hard time saying "no" when I woke up to a pair of lips sliding up and down my shaft. My roommate in college felt inclined to "help me out" with a throbbing, stiff morning cock still noticeable damp from the sex with my G/F a few hours earlier. Hot as hell even years later. I remember how much my nuts ached for the rest of the day from all the times I came in 12 hours. Good times.
     
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    yuo have a roommate that blows you when you're sleeping??? That's pretty hot!!
     
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    HAD. All good things come to an end.
     
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    I think one needs to differentiate between gay sexual acts and actually being gay. These are different concepts, though the difference can be subtle. Engaging in gay sexual acts does not necessarily make one gay, though nearly all who do are either gay or bi. Being gay means being attracted to and wanting to have sexual relations with other men. If a guy just wants a blow job and doesn't care about the sex of the person who gives it to him that doesn't make him gay. It merely makes him indiscriminate.
     
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    Well said.
     
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    I dont think its gay. Millions of men Experiment. Nothing wrong with exploring their world.

    Many straight men have had anal sex or sex with other men just to see what it was like.
    Then they happily marry and have children.
     
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    It's called "pleasure" and some guys really are gay, but in the closet, others are just selfish and don't care where their pleasure comes from. As long as they are pleasured and get off, it's all good to them. The giver of the pleasure is just an object, not a person. The latter is the worst form in my opinion, because he is a user and the other person doesn't matter.
     
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    to me this question is a good illustration of the kinsey scale, in which Alfred Kinsey said very few are completely hetero or homosexual. Myself, I am gay, but I occasionally get off on str8 porn ( like 10 minutes ago) and in the same way, basically str8 men might occasionally partake of sex with another man. Several young friends tell me that in their college years a lot of young men have sex with roommates, friends or frat brothers. It is basically about opportunity and a known and trusted partner, and can be incredibly bonding too. I want to tell them that this is nothing new, that it happened in my college years (late 70s and early 80s). It does seem that it is more common today, because in my day the same thing happened, only it was hidden and almost never spoken of. Almost all the frat brothers I knew have married and are str8 as arrows, but there was a time in their lives when we were all horny all the time and quietly agreed to share sex as a way of keeping ourselves under control. Psychologists call it situational homosexual behavior and for some it may last some years. There is a difference between a homosexual orientation (like mine) and homosexual behavior. Many gay men have the view that the most virulent homophobes are actually fighting some kind of unacceptable desire within themselves, and this is why they go to such extremes. Makes sense to me. Perhaps if they would just face their real selves, realize that the sun will still probably rise in the morning even if two men find each other attractive, we wouldn't have the ugly spectacle of gay-bashing, picketing at funerals and the absurd distortion of the male role in our culture.
     
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    In my time everything one did sexually had to be closeted. It all began during the last two years of high school when I learned how two males can express their friendship and love for each other, includling the sexual. Between that time and the time eleven years later when i met the person, a dear lady, with whom I was willing and eager to spend the rest of my life with I had two other long term relationships with men and two long term relationships with women. At no time did I think of myself as anything other than a regular guy who happened to be comfortable on both side of his sexuaility.

    In life we all have to make choices. Many of those choices are dictated by the life situations we happen to be involved in. In those years I moved every couple of years to a new location to pursue my education or to further my career. I did not view myself as being an experimenter; I grew to love each of my former partners and I love them still even though our days of sexual bonding are long past. But, I am a richer person knowing that I am capable of loving relationships with both men and women.
    In each relationship it was the person who attracted me; the sex, when it happened, was always a wonderful confirmation of the bond that already existed between us. When one is in a relationship the question of whether it is gay or straight doesn't really matter. Yes, Kinsey did get a lot of things right.
     
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    sexuality is like a thumbprint...no two are exactly the same. why would anyone attempt to use mere words to describe an entity so powerful and unique to the respective individual?

    come on people...let's try to "think outside the box"

    poststructuralism :cool:
     
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    That's exactly how I feel. I've had a few serious relationships with men and women over the years and it's always been the person I've been attracted to, not their gender.
     
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    Well put steve!! In my instance I find men's dicks very sexy especially cut ones! I have dabbled a bit when I was younger then my friend and I jerked each other off when I was in my early twenties. I however can not imagine kissing another man! What does this make me?
     
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    But it's called oral sex. Hence the word "sex". That's why it is still considered a gay act.
     
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