My grown-ass, redneck man of a brother is two seasons into A Series of Unfortunate Events.
And he is full on digging it.
And he is full on digging it.
And all of the comments criticising Gillette for being down on masculinity! As if bullying, sexual harassment, and just generally being a dick are desirable masculine behaviours.I really think that toxic masculinity exists and I'm glad the Gillette ad addressed it. I cannot link because it's not permitted here. I don't care if it's a company and people are critical about a company hopping on the metoo movement and calling it cringey. I look at it as hopefully a progression towards the right path.
often the ones who get drunk. Alcohol elevates aggressiveness.Nobody ever listens to is when we say this, but it ears repeating. Women live in a world in which it is dangerous to politely reject men.
often the ones who get drunk. Alcohol elevates aggressiveness.
But on the other side, it's true. Some school student who never had criminal events, brought a shotgun, went to the girl's house (the parents were outside at work), shot the girl and his sister directly in the head because she said no. I was an isolated event, not all men are violent against women thankfully
often the ones who get drunk. Alcohol elevates aggressiveness.
I live in Canada not in the USA. I have no firearms in my house.The way you ended that post takes the gravity away from the situation. It's not "isolated" shit like that happens regularly.
I'm not thankful. Too many men ARE violent against women. And get away with it.
I had rejection in the past. Yes, rejection traumatized me. But, I never thought being rude or insistent. it does not change my way of seeing things. I do think I live in a fucked world instead in a real one. Girls have very high expectations to hope to have relationship with them.Yes, alcohol can exacerbate the behaviour of some people, but I have had more instances of rejection taken poorly by men who were sober and often entitlement is the problem moreso than aggression (IME). It's more commonplace than you think.
Girls have very high expectations to hope to have relationship with them.
It has never required alcohol. I've had to defend myself from a contractor in my home! I've been yelled at in the street so many times. It rarely has escalated to actual violence in my personal experiences, but credible threats and stalking have been very common.often the ones who get drunk. Alcohol elevates aggressiveness.
But on the other side, it's true. Some school student who never had criminal events, brought a shotgun, went to the girl's house (the parents were outside at work), shot the girl and his sister directly in the head because she said no. I was an isolated event, not all men are violent against women thankfully
So the dick what? All violence is not gun violence. THINK.I live in Canada not in the USA. I have no firearms in my house.
I live in Canada not in the USA. I have no firearms in my house.
Nobody ever listens to is when we say this, but it ears repeating. Women live in a world in which it is dangerous to politely reject men.
Dude took me to an after hours spot. I was having a tense day, a crazy night, and he promised to show me a good time and then bed me properly. I knew he could come through. I said I'd be the designated driver. We went to a pub I really like until half an hour before last call. Then we went to an after hours club he knows. That's when it turned left.
We were having a good time. The place was a little dirty, and I saw several crimes take place, but the people watching was good, the DJ was insane, and I was in excellent company. We laughed and danced. It was nice. I was loosening up. He went to the bar to get a beer, and I waited at our table.
Earlier, I had seen some guy watching us. He stood weirdly close to us inside the little alcove where we had taken a table, where we were dancing. We made eye contact a few times when Dude hugged me close to lick my neck. He left when Dude saw his reflection in the mirror and turned around. My observations were that he was intoxicated, probably a combination of alcohol and drugs, about half my age, and completely alone. Everyone else was on a date or with friends.
So, while Dude was getting himself a beer, this guy came back into the alcove. Another couple was standing on the other side of the table, oblivious to the rest of the world. This guy politely asked if I wanted to dance. I told him I was on a date. He said, "What?!" I repeated myself, and added that I hadn't gone alone. He muttered something I didn't catch and left. I assumed that business was concluded.
Dude came back, and we danced and molested each other a little. Lots of smooching. About halfway through his beer, that guy came back, said something I did not understand, and threw two beer bottles into the alcove. One smashed at my feet, the other hit the mirror behind Dude's head.
So, even in the company of a big dude who doesn't appear meant for testing, it's not safe for me to tell a man no. If he wants something from me, he is entitled to access to me. That is the message sent.
No worries. I spared the guy hos well-being and kept my friend out of prison. I turned the guy in to security, who ejected him, and I put Dude in my truck and drove is to his house. Later, he talked to me about the perspective a little time grants. He said we have no idea what else that man had been through, and why something as simple as me being unavailable to him would spark violence. And then he prayed for him.
When is it going to be okay to just not be interested?
I was an isolated event, not all men are violent against women thankfully
Girls have very high expectations to hope to have relationship with them.
I live in Canada not in the USA. I have no firearms in my house.
Thank goodness! In fact, I'd guess that most are not.
Like @BacknForth, I too would like to hear more from you about your specific experience(s) that caused you to make such a generalized statement.
Why does this particular post of yours strike me as defensive? I'm not trying to be a dick here; I'm honestly interested in hearing your thoughts.
I ask because @AlteredEgo and @BacknForth shared some very personal details about particular events involving shitty/lunatic men. These stories they tell here are theirs. And what's sad is they could have been told by other women. Cuz just about every woman I know has had similar experiences with shitty/lunatic men. That's reality.
If you've read some of of the women's posts around the different LPSG forums, they seem, in general, to have no issues with men. Except with the shitty/lunatic men like they took time to write about. I've learned a lot about this reality, from those I personally know and those shared by women who post here at LPSG. I hope you will too. Understand what they are saying can go a long way to helping a guy with his woman "game".
And let's be totally honest. Some women could be considered lunatics. Or shits. Or whatever. Sometimes one needs to kiss a few toadettes to fine his Princess. Or, it could be that one needs to do some self-reflection and figure out why his "woman game" is off. But please don't generalize about women based on your limited experiences with women. Because most women are not shitty/lunatics. They are just people. With feelings. Like you and me. Who all deserve to be treated with respect.