Please be clear on one thing. I am not "lecturing you". I state my opinions, as you state yours. They aren't lectures, as I don't pretend or claim to be anything more than an ordinary person.
Regarding hate: A better man than I said it much better than I ever could:
Darkness cannot drive out darkness;
only light can do that.
Hate cannot drive out hate;
only love can do that.
Hate multiplies hate,
violence multiplies violence,
and toughness multiplies toughness
in a descending spiral of destruction....
The chain reaction of evil --
hate begetting hate,
wars producing more wars --
must be broken,
or we shall be plunged
into the dark abyss of annihilation.
-Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.