Work as an Escort or "Call Boy"?

[MuscledHorse]

I did escorting while I was in school and did a few small studio porn films. The experience was awesome on several levels, but bear in mind I went into this with a different mindset: I wanted to try it. Many do it for the income, for drug money, because it's the only thing they know to do, and so forth. First, it is a huge ego rush/boost that guys find you hot enough to shell out serious $$ to spend time with you. Second, the whole "only ugly people pay for sex" proved to be false. My clients were nearly all professional types and many were married or heavily closeted. I learned quickly that being well educated was a huge plus and it brought me some good referrals. Once I met a couple of other escorts who were clearly doped up in their spare time and were conversational vacuums, I understood. But you have to really enjoy sex for the sake of sex to do escorting and do it well. Most escorts do porn to increase their name recognition so they can charge more.

 

[dean88]

I've got a question for those who have done some escorting or porn. Do you tell others? Friends, family? Didn't they notice you having money but never working during the day?
Or did you hide it, or did you have another job next to the escorting? (mcDonalds during the day, but escorting at night...)

 

[ZOS23xy]

I've been offered money on a couple of occasions and all I ever felt was so offended I wanted to kill but then I guess I was being a little over sensitive.

Same here. I guess it was an ego thing. I declined the cash, but felt oddly proud.

Since I've never paid for "it", I don't think I could accept money.

 

[B_Nick8]

Oh,all right. If I'm completely honest, I probably felt a little flattered. :redface:

 

[B_Nick4444]

because I am so "picky" about whom I do anything with, I could probably not hire myself out

some I'd be more than willing to hire, and as I get older, I can easily foresee that I just might do so

 

[Primal_Savage]

I did escorting while I was in school and did a few small studio porn films. The experience was awesome on several levels, but bear in mind I went into this with a different mindset: I wanted to try it. Many do it for the income, for drug money, because it's the only thing they know to do, and so forth. First, it is a huge ego rush/boost that guys find you hot enough to shell out serious $$ to spend time with you. Second, the whole "only ugly people pay for sex" proved to be false. My clients were nearly all professional types and many were married or heavily closeted. I learned quickly that being well educated was a huge plus and it brought me some good referrals. Once I met a couple of other escorts who were clearly doped up in their spare time and were conversational vacuums, I understood. But you have to really enjoy sex for the sake of sex to do escorting and do it well. Most escorts do porn to increase their name recognition so they can charge more.

My experience was much the same during those years when I was working as a male stripper. Tho I didn't really work as an escort per se nor did I advertise, many of the married and heavily closeted clients with deep pockets wanted more than just a private lap dance.

 

[BigDallasDick8x6]

It isn't an easy job to do, but then again, not everyone can be a doctor and deal with blood, or police officer and have to deal with the danger, or teacher and have to deal with kids! Everyone has their own ability to do a job.
I was perfect for this job. No way would I be a taxi driver in New York city. Taking your life in your hands one way or another. :biggrin1:
While I was in high school and some friends were working at Mickey's I knew then the words, "you want fries with that?" would NEVER come out of my mouth. EVER. Not that there is anything wrong with it, but I knew it wasn't for me. By then, I had already been hired several times and saw the amount I could make. I knew that was a job I could do and happily.
As niceone above said, it paid for my schooling, my homes and I got to travel all over the world. It was great for me.

Wow, you got paid for it high school?? Very impressive. Would love to hear that story.

FINALLy figured out your name (I'm a member of Densa) after I saw your photo. Very clever.

 

[scott_one]

I've got a question for those who have done some escorting or porn. Do you tell others? Friends, family? Didn't they notice you having money but never working during the day?
Or did you hide it, or did you have another job next to the escorting? (mcDonalds during the day, but escorting at night...)

This is an interesting thread and good question. I was in the business part time when I was in college. I definately hid it. I have only recently started talking about it on line if the subject comes up - not because it was a bad experience, I enjoyed it - but the stigma that goes with it causes too much trouble.

 

[14465]

Never

Me too! Never!

 

[jeepboi87]

fuck no

 

[Bbucko]

Escorting/hustling is a personal choice. I don't believe that any authority has the right to punish you for using your body as you see fit, provided you're not a threat to public health.

My body just doesn't work the way a hustler's body is required to: I cannot bottom and I cannot just get hard without some fundamental attraction. Besides, I'm kind of a control freak, and abdicating control to someone for cash, especially to do sexual things, has no appeal to me at all and never has.

I lived some very stressful years in my late-teens and early 20s when hustling would have been the obvious answer to my money issues. If I could have either bottomed or gotten hard on demand regardless of the circumstance, then I would have.

 

[D_Selmus_Swallow]

I wonder whatever became of this:

Are Women Ready for the 'Stud Farm'? - ABC News

I don't think there is much of a market for straight male prostitutes/escorts though.

 

[scott_one]

Escorting/hustling is a personal choice. I don't believe that any authority has the right to punish you for using your body as you see fit, provided you're not a threat to public health.

My body just doesn't work the way a hustler's body is required to: I cannot bottom and I cannot just get hard without some fundamental attraction. Besides, I'm kind of a control freak, and abdicating control to someone for cash, especially to do sexual things, has no appeal to me at all and never has.

I lived some very stressful years in my late-teens and early 20s when hustling would have been the obvious answer to my money issues. If I could have either bottomed or gotten hard on demand regardless of the circumstance, then I would have.

This is a good point, but people get into this buisiness for different reasons. My reason was that of being a college kids who wanted cash. I think the "Hustler" type that Bbucko talks about paints an image of someone who *needs* money and has to subject themselves to any client that comes along. That was not my situation. I turned down offers that didn't appeal to me. As with any business its supply v demand. The *suppply* of very well hung men is limited, so there were many offers.

The point I wanted to make here was that this does come back to haunt you later. Im married w/kids now and I always have a fear in the back of my mind that this will come back to haunt me. In an ideal world, it wouldn't matter. I honestly don't have a problem with my past. I do have a problem with the negative stigma attached to it and if I were 18 now and thought about the possible reprocussions, I wouldn't have gotten into it.

 

[javyn]

I say no. As tempting as this sort of thing sounds (like being a male pornstar), I don't see how it wouldn't lead to misery and a ruination of sex in general.

Think about it...would you really want to make fucking your job? To go from "oh just another grueling day at the office" to "oh, just another fuck...can't wait until it's done so I can go home, zone out, etc."

I don't care how much any of us love sex, and I'm sure we all do, I think making it one's job will really jeopardize the enjoyment of it, because we are all human, and humans adapt to just about everything.

 

[B_Nick8]

My body just doesn't work the way a hustler's body is required to: I cannot bottom and I cannot just get hard without some fundamental attraction. Besides, I'm kind of a control freak, and abdicating control to someone for cash, especially to do sexual things, has no appeal to me at all and never has.

I agree. Although I do bottom, I'll add one more thing: my mind wouldn't work the way a hustler's is required to. I could not detach myself sufficiently from the situation not to become disturbed and disgusted by having trying to have sex with someone to whom I was totally unattracted.

 

[B_Hung Jon]

I wonder whatever became of this:

Are Women Ready for the 'Stud Farm'? - ABC News

I don't think there is much of a market for straight male prostitutes/escorts though.

I'm with d-low on this one. I think many guys have a fantasy of women wanting to use them as their boy toy but it isn't realistic. When I was in high school one of my mom's friends invited me over her house during the day to help her do some odd jobs. We made out a little bit and she jerked me off. After that I did the work she needed to have done and she paid me. When she gave me the bucks, she made the point to say that it was for the work I did not the sex.

 

[EternalCaverns]

Escorting/hustling is a personal choice. I don't believe that any authority has the right to punish you for using your body as you see fit, provided you're not a threat to public health.

Yes, LZL. Legalized, zoned, and licensed and everything should be straight for those who choose this professional path, no matter how the rest of us feel about it personally.

If it becomes legal workers will, can and are required to contribute to the IRS and income tax paying system. This means using business means as tax write offs under the right conditions, if allowed.

License requirements mean you can get involved in the system, conduct a legit business if going solo, get on someone's payroll if working for a legal escort company, openly get tested and receive health care while mentioning your profession without legal penalty, rise above the tyranny and the blackmailing of a black market, and be checked out to help insure the safety of clients and vice versa who want to know a bit about your background and history of services.

Zoned means that although this becomes legal, many places and neighborhoods have the right to keep certain types of business and business transactions out of their locality. I can understand restaurants and certain hotels not wanting this kind of business on their premises if they have a particular image to uphold. That's a fair right. So areas that don't allow and welcome sex workers working legally should be zoned as restricted areas.

What guy would want to work out of his home anyway? It's dangerous to invite clients back to your place, even for men. I guess a stud farm might be best. Everyone gets a private and stable room, you make commissions, and supplies are able to be checked out and used as needed. Low maintenance and high pay. Think of a male Bunny Ranch. Hahaha

 

[tallblondviking]

I couldn't do it myself, not for an inability to have sex with strangers. I don’t have the looks or mindset, yet I have absolutely no problem with those that do – if it is by choice. My ex was quite the success in his escort services. He fell into it because of his unusually good looks - a naturally muscular build, perfected by years of careful work with a trainer; fair blond hair, deep blue eyes and a thick 7.5" that could shoot the headboard every time and stay hard for another round.

It was during early college years that he first tried it after continuous advances and offers from the suits that frequented the bar where we both worked. While he didn't enjoy everything about it, he certainly made easy money - and lots of it. He was also very selective with his clientele which kept his rates up and services in demand. For my part, I didn't require sexual monogamy for us as that was not in either's makeup.

I truly had no issue with his work. Although we knew each other for some time we didn’t become a “couple” until after he was well established so I knew what I was signing up for. It was readily apparent that this was work for him and he was always happy to come back home to me afterwards (talk about an ego boost to me). His motto was you can fuck anyone; you can only make love to someone you love. We agreed upon some basic ground rules and stuck to them with few issues because of them. It was unfortunate that the money was too good as he continued after graduation because he didn't want to give that part up. It was at that point that he became rather messed up and finally ended our relationship. His biggest complaint was that I wasn't jealous or jealous enough; I wasn't going to be the fall guy or the demanding spouse, he had to make his own choices.

To this day, 20+ years later, I'd take him back without question or hesitation - if he was ready and finally matured emotionally, something I believe his work at a young age interferred with. :kiss:

 

[Charles Finn]

I would love to do it the only thing I have tho is a huge cock

 

[D_Tim McGnaw]

Does some guy shouting at me from his car window "Oi princess how much for a handy?" count?!

That was me! And you never did answer me, so how much Princess?