Preference for other bi-guys or gays?

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I am curious, do bisexuals generally prefer other bi-guys to 100% gay guys?

I was thinking that maybe you prefer to keep your liberty and keep things sexual rather than seek a serious relationship with a gay man.

Has anyone ever heard of 2 bisexual men living as a couple?
 
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I tend to stay away from 100% gay guys. They tend to be too picky and bitchy. Give me a closeted married guy who wants a simple blow job during the day before he goes home to the wife and kids any day. They are always appreciative and never pushy. A couple of my buddies have lately started returning the favor.
 

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Doesn't matter as long as they are not looking for a relationship. I've never been interested in dating a guy, but happy to have sex with him if I'm attracted and the feeling is mutual.
 
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As a mostly straight guy who is also into certain types of guys physically, I think I would prefer a bisexual male partner. I dont really 'date' guys, but If I did, I think a bi guy would be more compatible with me. (Not to say thats true for all bi guys.)
Also I won't date women who do not accept that aspect of me.
I think this question needs to consider other factors: Are you willing to be with only a woman or man..monogomous, into open relationships, into open relationships as long as both are involved, ..etc..
One thing is for sure, human sexuality is as varied as our DNA...
 
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I don't have any preference. I don't fall in love with genders or sexual orientations, I fall in love with people. If I am able to connect with another human being deeply and in a meaningful way, and if I am comfortable with how that person defines him/herself as a human being (and vice versa), then I am going to be attracted to that person on every level and wish to pursue a romantic relationship with him/her.

They fuck well and have less emotional attachment to their sexual partner.
Possibly for you and according to your experiences, but as a generalisation, I respectfully disagree.

I have worked and interacted with bisexual men from around the globe for almost four years. The one thing that has surprisingly stood out to me is the way that bisexual behaviour and experiences vary geographically. For example, I have found that bi men in the US (and please note that this is a generalisation although I acknowledge that not all bi men experience their sexuality like this) are put off and oftentimes repulsed by the idea of kissing, being physically affectionate with or establishing an emotional attachment with other men. At the same token, bi men in SA generally have an entirely different approach: they find kissing another guy hot, they are physically affectionate (they want to caress, hug, cuddle etc.) and there tends to be a leaning towards developing an emotional attachment i.e. even if they are married, there's the tendency to lean towards more of a friends with benefits setup where the friendship and emotional closeness are of just as much importance as the sexual element.


With masculinity aside, I think bi guys would prefer other bi guys (especially married ones) for the "discretion" part. A married bi guy would be less like to tattle on another bi guy if they are both married (and not out to their wives).
I dunno about this. I think that once again this has a lot to do with geographic placement. For some weird reason bisexuality isn't as much of a hidden reality in this country (SA). In the instances where the guy is married, then there is the tendency to be closeted about it (although most guys don't have a problem with leaning towards a gay guy for a hook up etc.) but when a guy is a single...lets just say that I've come across quite a number of single guys that are openly bi.

I am openly bisexual. My family know that I am bisexual and they've all been supportive and perfectly okay with it (the shocking thing is that my 76 year old Mom totally understood what bisexuality is about, when I came out to her)...and they've met guys that I've dated. My friends know and they've been just as accepting and supportive of me...a couple of my straight male friends have even made the observation that they like that I'm bi because it's made our friendship much deeper - we can share about deeper more emotional stuff. And the same can be said professionally. Everyone at work knows that I'm bi. In terms of my straight male colleagues, they kinda dig it cos it allows me to still be part of the boys when ogling women. There is no attempt or need for myself or anyone at work to hide my sexual orientation, even from clients.

I think that a lot of this stems from something that I became fully aware of when was with my ex bf (he initially identified as gay until I came along, then he acknowledged to me that he finds women somewhat attractive and was curious about having sex with one...and he now identifies as being bisexual). What I was made aware of is that when one is at peace with being gay or bi and approaches it as being a run-of-the-mill norm, then people tend to respond accordingly as well. We experienced it in so many ways when we were together...e.g. on one occasion we went out for dinner at a restaurant and since we would caress each others' arms etc., it was obvious that we were a couple. A couple at the table beside us finished before us and when they were leaving, they came up to us and said that we made a beautiful couple. On another occasion, we went to a bar in a rural part of the country (known to be homophobic) but the response was for people around us to ask if we were together, then ask us about being bi (we told them about our orientation too) and they then bought us a bottle of wine to accompany our dinner. If you're okay with who you are and you approach it outwardly as well, then people are kinda forced to respond in that manner as well, otherwise they will be the odd one out and end up looking like there is something wrong with them.

Just my 2 c
 
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I like a man who knows what he wants and uses me in anyway he wants to satisfy himself. I guess that is part of my personality because I seek to please other people and that includes men. On other occasions it's like I'm almost hungry for another man's cock.
 
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I hate to say it, but the stigma to bisexual guys tends to be true more often than not. Guys who label themselves as bi tend to be more promiscuous and less attached. If I'm looking for something serious, I'll go after a girl or a gay guy and just be faithful to them, because they're more likely to be faithful to me.

I am sorry that you buy into the "stigma and negative hype" of Bisexuality. Bi People are attracted to both genders and are "capable of making a commitment to either...that the perk of being Bisexual.

That noted...most of the Bi-Men I have know have been burned the other way around...by the rampant "glorified" promiscuity of Gay Men. Because of this most Bi Men (and I suspect Women) marry opposite sex partners for our serious grounded family life and keep our "safe" recreational sex based on our same sex attraction.

I also only prefer masculine men and to further that...prefer another married bi man (if given the choice) because I know that he too has a family life that we would protect and defend till his death! Because if that family responsibility, sexual safety and mature discretion are paramount!

If you are dating a Bi Man and You are Gay... be honest and discuss this issue in detail! You could find a great life mate!!
 
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I am sorry that you don't share my point of view!

My sexuality is very fluid, I don't know what your issues are? I am guessing from your "harsh judgmental tone" (snarky)... that you are still young.

I "came out" at age 19!!! and bonded into a committed Gay relationship for 10 years (we had a commitment celebration 20 plus years ago, way before it was cool & trendy - still have the ring) my partner (a Gay Man - Not Bi at all) was caught many times stepping out of our committed relationship because it was too easy for gay men!! BTW after many curable STDs (given to me) he finally came home with HIV (NOT given to me). I came from the generation of men who dropped dead like fly's due to AIDS. We saw a lot of death. I tried it again with another Gay Man for 1 year and he could not maturely control his urges either (more stds at age 31). Additionally the angry troubled man liked to beat others (I ended up in the hospital once). I knew I was happy to have "choices" and made my choice!

My wife of now 15 years is also Bisexual and we are OK with that fact! We have a happy marriage & family (because we were both capable of commitment) we are not promiscuous, but honest with each other about our sexual duplicity! And given the right opportunity trust the other to explore safely!

I hope you have as dynamic and tumultuous love life as I have had....and earn your well deserved happy ending!

Stop judging others and just accept...Accept Yourself!! You will without question be a happier person!
 
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Huh? Last time I remember a whore is going to be a whore if they want to be a whore. That's regardless of their sexuality. I have my reservations about dating other bi guys, but that is because I would want a serious mongamous long-term relationship. However, I wouldn't count him out simply on that. I know more bisexual guys who are more promiscuous than homosexual guys, so it is what it is...
 
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When I was in my late teens and early 20's I prefer the men I dated to be gay, rather than bisexual, even though I am bi. It was rather hypocritical of me to want this, but I just preferred the men I was with to be gay. Since then I have cared less about orientation and don't mind if they were bi or gay, as long as they were not in the closet. But now I'm married to a woman and she's also bi and I am monogamous.
 
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I am curious, do bisexuals generally prefer other bi-guys to 100% gay guys?

I was thinking that maybe you prefer to keep your liberty and keep things sexual rather than seek a serious relationship with a gay man.

Has anyone ever heard of 2 bisexual men living as a couple?
I personally prefer the 100% heterosexual man.:biggrin1:

I've been in l.t. relationships with bisexual men and it's fine, no problems. I have been with a few shorter term relationships with homosexual men and those were good as well. No real preference one way or the other for me just show respect and decency and we will get along good.
 

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I go for what attracts me! I like my gf's, to have a nice ass! I don't like skinny chicks, the same for the guys that I fucked, I like for them to have a nice muscular ass or beefy. So it's not that I prefer bi guys or gay guys or even str8 guys! If the attraction is there! I will try to be there! I fucked his married man on Saturday, I met in the gym locker room! I did not ask him first!