Preference for other bi-guys or gays?

[MilkDaddy]

As with any such question... /sigh....it really depends on the GUY....

 

[933295]

As with any such question... /sigh....it really depends on the GUY....

Absolutely.

 

[Viper73]

For me it depends on the person... However in general the straighter or more masculine the guy the better. For me, it's all about getting off and helping a buddy do the same. Many gay folks (at least in my part of the country) are super-feminine to the point they almost act like drag queens... (no offense intended but they're over-the-top).

Hardest part is finding someone sane and into it for the same reasons as I am.

 

[playainda336]

I am sorry that you buy into the "stigma and negative hype" of Bisexuality. Bi People are attracted to both genders and are "capable of making a commitment to either...that the perk of being Bisexual.

Said the bi guy to the other bi guy. o_o

That noted...most of the Bi-Men I have know have been burned the other way around...by the rampant "glorified" promiscuity of Gay Men. Because of this most Bi Men (and I suspect Women) marry opposite sex partners for our serious grounded family life and keep our "safe" recreational sex based on our same sex attraction.

...and there you go being the Bi guy who can't offer anything serious and you're upset at the gay man who wants a secure relationship. Which was my whole point, though stated a bit crass. You are promiscuous and telling me that it's a stigma and negative hype. Nothing wrong with it. I am too, when I'm not in a relationship.

I also only prefer masculine men and to further that...prefer another married bi man (if given the choice) because I know that he too has a family life that we would protect and defend till his death! Because if that family responsibility, sexual safety and mature discretion are paramount!

So...safe promiscuity.

If you are dating a Bi Man and You are Gay... be honest and discuss this issue in detail! You could find a great life mate!!

It's nothing wrong with it as long as your wife knows and you keep it all above the table. *shrug*

 

[CLFBR]

very new to this whole scene to me it is all physically sexual. I am a dominant guy in almost every aspect of my life including my straight sexual activity. often fantasized about M2M , found a Female into watching because I know my wife wouldnt be into it.
I really have no desire to play with out my female friend watching. I prefer married guys like myself who are "open minded" to play with. I am not into kissing, at all it isnt love. no emotional ties BTW prefer total tops

 

[playainda336]

I am sorry that you don't share my point of view!

My sexuality is very fluid, I don't know what your issues are? I am guessing from your "harsh judgmental tone" (snarky)... that you are still young.

I "came out" at age 19!!! and bonded into a committed Gay relationship for 10 years (we had a commitment celebration 20 plus years ago, way before it was cool & trendy - still have the ring) my partner (a Gay Man - Not Bi at all) was caught many times stepping out of our committed relationship because it was too easy for gay men!! BTW after many curable STDs (given to me) he finally came home with HIV (NOT given to me). I came from the generation of men who dropped dead like fly's due to AIDS. We saw a lot of death. I tried it again with another Gay Man for 1 year and he could not maturely control his urges either (more stds at age 31). Additionally the angry troubled man liked to beat others (I ended up in the hospital once). I knew I was happy to have "choices" and made my choice!

My wife of now 15 years is also Bisexual and we are OK with that fact! We have a happy marriage & family (because we were both capable of commitment) we are not promiscuous, but honest with each other about our sexual duplicity! And given the right opportunity trust the other to explore safely!

I hope you have as dynamic and tumultuous love life as I have had....and earn your well deserved happy ending!

Stop judging others and just accept...Accept Yourself!! You will without question be a happier person!

I'm not judging. And no I don't share your point of view that the stereotype doesn't reflect an aspect of truth. As I said, as long as your wife knows and is cool, there's no problem.

It sounds like you're deflecting on your issues with gay men, though. Truth of the matters is commitment is commitment. I'm a bisexual man and I can be committed, so I'm not saying ALL bi guys are noncommittal. Gay men can also be committed. As with all of their female counterparts.

My original point was simply that most of the "out" as Bi guys that I know and/or am familiar with are highly sexually promiscuous. To this day, most bi guys I know that are not as promiscuous are passers (gay/straight) or they are in your situation with a wife who knows their situation and allows their sexual freedom. Which I'm totally cool with.

Also, don't be such an ass. (assuming lol) I have no judgmental tone. I'm just rather blunt.

 

[allmanbud]

I'm only attracted to masculine guys, and have no strong feelings about whether he is gay or bi as long as he's masculine. However, there is an extra frisson of excitement with a less experienced bi or straight but bi-curious guy. I'm not sure why, it's probably because he feels, like me, that we're breaking through old sexual boundaries and experiences into something excitingly different for us both.

100% AGREE!!!

 

[Mushrhoom]

I don't have any preference. I don't fall in love with genders or sexual orientations, I fall in love with people. If I am able to connect with another human being deeply and in a meaningful way, and if I am comfortable with how that person defines him/herself as a human being (and vice versa), then I am going to be attracted to that person on every level and wish to pursue a romantic relationship with him/her.


Possibly for you and according to your experiences, but as a generalisation, I respectfully disagree.

I have worked and interacted with bisexual men from around the globe for almost four years. The one thing that has surprisingly stood out to me is the way that bisexual behaviour and experiences vary geographically. For example, I have found that bi men in the US (and please note that this is a generalisation although I acknowledge that not all bi men experience their sexuality like this) are put off and oftentimes repulsed by the idea of kissing, being physically affectionate with or establishing an emotional attachment with other men. At the same token, bi men in SA generally have an entirely different approach: they find kissing another guy hot, they are physically affectionate (they want to caress, hug, cuddle etc.) and there tends to be a leaning towards developing an emotional attachment i.e. even if they are married, there's the tendency to lean towards more of a friends with benefits setup where the friendship and emotional closeness are of just as much importance as the sexual element.



I dunno about this. I think that once again this has a lot to do with geographic placement. For some weird reason bisexuality isn't as much of a hidden reality in this country (SA). In the instances where the guy is married, then there is the tendency to be closeted about it (although most guys don't have a problem with leaning towards a gay guy for a hook up etc.) but when a guy is a single...lets just say that I've come across quite a number of single guys that are openly bi.

I am openly bisexual. My family know that I am bisexual and they've all been supportive and perfectly okay with it (the shocking thing is that my 76 year old Mom totally understood what bisexuality is about, when I came out to her)...and they've met guys that I've dated. My friends know and they've been just as accepting and supportive of me...a couple of my straight male friends have even made the observation that they like that I'm bi because it's made our friendship much deeper - we can share about deeper more emotional stuff. And the same can be said professionally. Everyone at work knows that I'm bi. In terms of my straight male colleagues, they kinda dig it cos it allows me to still be part of the boys when ogling women. There is no attempt or need for myself or anyone at work to hide my sexual orientation, even from clients.

I think that a lot of this stems from something that I became fully aware of when was with my ex bf (he initially identified as gay until I came along, then he acknowledged to me that he finds women somewhat attractive and was curious about having sex with one...and he now identifies as being bisexual). What I was made aware of is that when one is at peace with being gay or bi and approaches it as being a run-of-the-mill norm, then people tend to respond accordingly as well. We experienced it in so many ways when we were together...e.g. on one occasion we went out for dinner at a restaurant and since we would caress each others' arms etc., it was obvious that we were a couple. A couple at the table beside us finished before us and when they were leaving, they came up to us and said that we made a beautiful couple. On another occasion, we went to a bar in a rural part of the country (known to be homophobic) but the response was for people around us to ask if we were together, then ask us about being bi (we told them about our orientation too) and they then bought us a bottle of wine to accompany our dinner. If you're okay with who you are and you approach it outwardly as well, then people are kinda forced to respond in that manner as well, otherwise they will be the odd one out and end up looking like there is something wrong with them.

Just my 2 c

You have a great attitude and outlook!!

 

[loveblack69]

For me I always prefer bi guys, and ideally married. Its just about the sexual act for me so I'm not interested in any sort of feelings or a relationship.

 

[alex-xx]

Is that really true of bi guys in SA? Is it true for both white guys and black guys?

 

[Haggard_Wisdom]

My same-sex goal is fun only - I'm not emotionally or romantically attracted to other blokes. Doesn't matter if a guy is gay or bi, we can have some fun as long as there is that understanding.

 

[sizehungry]

Doesn't make much difference to me , as long as the top/s is/are both hung , and are sexually aggressive . A predominately masculine personality is also preferable for me , as i am masculine in my own public persona .

 

[halcyondays]

I don't have a preference, but I seem to attract more gay men than bi.

 

[WebMale80]

As a closeted bisexual I've always felt a bigger spark with other closeted bisexual guys.
I think it has to do with the shared secrecy and sacred intimacy i've been with a guy who doesn't wish to be exposed