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My sweet lady and I have trouble with getting her to finish.
She has some guilt and shame wrapped into getting off.
She's been through some complicated stuff that makes her feel like she forcing me to do something.
She also can tell when it takes long enough that it starts to bother me, I may start to feel inadequate or wonder why I'm needed, like I'm not making any difference.
She is also into kinks that she's embarassed about, that she doesn't want to practice in reality, and feels bad that she needs to think about them instead of me to finish.
This is a discussion about external orgasms.
So far our tools are:
Her favorite vibrator
Cunnilingus (I'm okay at it)
I'm not sure how to handle this in a way that is SAFE.
Lately she's gotten to where she hides needing to get off in order to avoid feeling guilty.
I haven't been offering as much if I don't feel I can commit to a 30 minute attempt of humiliation.
She's really in to me, but it seems like trying to encourage her to come makes it more difficult.
However with internal orgasms, all I have to do is ask gently and she's convulsing.
She has some guilt and shame wrapped into getting off.
She's been through some complicated stuff that makes her feel like she forcing me to do something.
She also can tell when it takes long enough that it starts to bother me, I may start to feel inadequate or wonder why I'm needed, like I'm not making any difference.
She is also into kinks that she's embarassed about, that she doesn't want to practice in reality, and feels bad that she needs to think about them instead of me to finish.
This is a discussion about external orgasms.
So far our tools are:
Her favorite vibrator
Cunnilingus (I'm okay at it)
I'm not sure how to handle this in a way that is SAFE.
Lately she's gotten to where she hides needing to get off in order to avoid feeling guilty.
I haven't been offering as much if I don't feel I can commit to a 30 minute attempt of humiliation.
She's really in to me, but it seems like trying to encourage her to come makes it more difficult.
However with internal orgasms, all I have to do is ask gently and she's convulsing.