Angry?

[D_Kitten_Kaboodle]

I've thought on this some today (just b/c I am home sick) and have come to a conclusion. Granted this is only my opinion, so for what it's worth. :tongue:

I believe one of the biggest problems with internet communications is the absence of the personal tones and inflections that we get from face to face or telecommunications. Messages are decoded by the reciever and so it is very easy for the typed word to be miscommunicated or misinterpreted. The sender's intent can easily be misread. Sarcasm and sarcastic humor is one of the most difficult forms of communication to decode in written form. One person may be intending to be funny, and/or the reader may take personal offense (as if the sender were typing the message directly to him/her.)

Also, we all use words differently... and some people are more easily offended than others by words they may not be used to hearing. Some people LOVE the use of smileys, italics and bolding to emphasize their communication; others rarely use thse devices to help the reader identify tone inflection.

Hickboy talks about respect for one another. I couldn't agree more. And by taking messages with a grain of salt, a little levity, and less personalization could reduce the amount of anger that may be experienced.

 

[Drifterwood]

What I dislike is bigotry and ignorance. I do react to that - though I wouldn't call it anger. I react to it when the poster is male, when the poster is female, when I'm not sure whether poster is male or female. I react to it when the bigotry is against women or against men (and to other forms of bigotry too). A lot of the bigotry I see here is in the form of assumptions made about women and female sexuality. I speak out against it.

I wouldn't disagree with this and I would add Acconitum's comment that women also makes assumptions about women as men do about men. Stereotyping and acceptance and worse promotion of that gets on my tits, especially when it is someone of my own gender.

 

[AlteredEgo]

I think in nearly all cases, any perception of another party's anger is a reflection of the owner of that perception, not the supposedly angry party.

 

[ManlyBanisters]

You mean in a forum setting like this? Yes - I'd agree.

In person there are so many more clues - which is what FP is saying.

I swear a lot - I swear in normal conversation - it is part of how I speak, a 'fuck off' from me doesn't necessarily mean I'm angry.

 

[AlteredEgo]

You mean in a forum setting like this? Yes - I'd agree.

In person there are so many more clues - which is what FP is saying.

I swear a lot - I swear in normal conversation - it is part of how I speak, a 'fuck off' from me doesn't necessarily mean I'm angry.

I mean in a forum context.

 

[luka82]

But sometimes it IS related to gender. There are men on this forum who clearly believe women are inferior creatures and dismiss everything they say.

I thought we were talking about angry people, not stupid (mental) people! :wink:
Btw, I know what you mean. :smile:

 

[nicenycdick]

I think that what some term "anger" is simply a loss of patience. Some posters are so tethered to their assumptions that it eventually (and sometimes, quickly) becomes apparent that there is no hope of a rational discourse. And then that poster goes on and on...creating fanciful support for his (sometimes, her) initial and absurd assumption.

At that point...there is nothing left but to dismiss them, sometimes in anger.

Seems appropriate to me. The only think I have noticed is that some women (and men, of course) get there much quicker. But I tend to think that they are just being more efficient with their time.

 

[Intrigue]

I agree completely with the Hick-Meister. I have noticed a general lack of respect and just laziness when it comes to being respectful and handling sensitive issues with a little tact. The anger I usually see is completely warranted. In fact I would be upset if they didnt get upset! Some of the things that are said are just plain offensive and its no surprise to me when there is a backlash. And I have YET to receive an angry response because I handle my questions with respect. I think I miffed one person but that was my fault and once it was pointed out to me I immediately apologized for my lack of tact on the issue. Hick has it right. Its all about respect.(atleast in my humble opinion)

 

[askew]

I'm usually pretty easy-going, but man, does this thread piss me off. Maybe I'll become a woman.

 

[Intrigue]

Schmuck

 

[D_Kitten_Kaboodle]

I'm usually pretty easy-going, but man, does this thread piss me off. Maybe I'll become a woman.

:haha: ( :argue::argue::argue::argue: ) :laugh2: Good one~

 

[MickeyLee]

female.
down right hostile.
poke at own risk.

 

[Elastagirl]

I will say that on more than 1 occasion in chat, I have been accused of being angry by male chatters when I elected to end a conversation because they were either being rude or were acting like a horny teenager. I always make sure to be completely polite, but I have been accused of being angry anyway simply for not wanting to play along with their fantasies.

 

[Intrigue]

female.
down right hostile.
poke at own risk.

*Poke*



*Runs while throwing chocolates over shoulder*

 

[EllieP]

I'm rarely angry, seriously! OK, maybe sometimes, but I sure don't let any posters here get my goat. That's just plain silly.

I get angry with my husband sometimes, but come on, he deserves it, don't you think? I mean, he's a husband, after all.

I do get angry with sub contractors a lot! They never, ever listen. I have no idea why a professional cannot follow directions. Not complicated - just do what I say.

 

[MickeyLee]

*follows the chocolate trail right up to where Mr. Intrigue is hiding*

i can see you in there :tongue1:

 

[askew]

Schmuck

If this is directed at me, will you be mine after my sex change? I wuv you.