Another OMG...question.

[Anyjoe]

Originally posted by BBB2.5+Oct 4 2005, 03:11 AM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(BBB2.5 &#064; Oct 4 2005, 03:11 AM)</div><div class='quotemain'><!--QuoteBegin-Anyjoe@Oct 2 2005, 06:04 PM
My current boyfriend of 15 years is HIV+.
I can remember the day he told me he
was possitive like it was yesterday.
Remember in 1990 we did not have the
anti viral meds that are so effective today.
Anyhow, I really like this guy but nothing
had "happened" yet. 
He told me he was positive and I was stunned.
I was totaly dumbfounded.  I was educated enough to
know that safe sex was an effective way to
proceed physicaly.  I used condoms for the first
seven years (I always top).  I stopped using
then for reasons I&#39;m unsure of.  Eight years later
I am still HIV NEGITITVE and a relationship that
would make anybody envious.  My guy has
remained quite healthy.

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:toast: ....your the man. Congrates on having sush a long lasting relationship. I have never had to tell anyone that I was dating that I was HIV+. They knew from the get go. I used personal ads when I dated men. Then one day I meet my current Partner of 8 years. He is Poz too.
I wish you both luck and a long life together ..... :yourock:
:hi:

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BBB2, Thanks. It was one of the more difficult decisions
I&#39;ve ever had to make. I&#39;ve never had any regretts.
OH, BBB2 ...
YOU ARE THE MAN&#33;

 

[BBB2.5]

Originally posted by Anyjoe+Oct 4 2005, 04:48 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Anyjoe &#064; Oct 4 2005, 04:48 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'>

Originally posted by BBB2.5@Oct 4 2005, 03:11 AM
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@Oct 2 2005, 06:04 PM
My current boyfriend of 15 years is HIV+.
I can remember the day he told me he
was possitive like it was yesterday.
Remember in 1990 we did not have the
anti viral meds that are so effective today.
Anyhow, I really like this guy but nothing
had "happened" yet. 
He told me he was positive and I was stunned.
I was totaly dumbfounded.  I was educated enough to
know that safe sex was an effective way to
proceed physicaly.  I used condoms for the first
seven years (I always top).  I stopped using
then for reasons I&#39;m unsure of.  Eight years later
I am still HIV NEGITITVE and a relationship that
would make anybody envious.  My guy has
remained quite healthy.

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Thanks......be Happy...... :yourock:
:toast: ....your the man. Congrates on having sush a long lasting relationship. I have never had to tell anyone that I was dating that I was HIV+. They knew from the get go. I used personal ads when I dated men. Then one day I meet my current Partner of 8 years. He is Poz too.
I wish you both luck and a long life together ..... :yourock:
:hi:

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BBB2, Thanks. It was one of the more difficult decisions
I&#39;ve ever had to make. I&#39;ve never had any regretts.
OH, BBB2 ...
YOU ARE THE MAN&#33;

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[BuffMusicIdol]

I have a friend who is HIV positive, and I learned that early on in the friendship, because he was afraid he would lose my friendship if I heard it second hand. My answer is, no intercourse, no cock-in-mouth stuff. Affection, massage, handjob, yes, but no fluids on me.

At this point, the friendship hasn&#39;t progressed to much beyond a hug, and because of schedules, it won&#39;t likely go anywhere else.

That&#39;s my take.

 

[jonb]

That&#39;s pretty much how I&#39;d be, BuffMuscIdol. But this &#39;have sex&#39;, I immediately thought penetration. No penetration, thank you very much.

 

[BBB2.5]

Originally posted by jonb@Oct 6 2005, 10:02 PM
That&#39;s pretty much how I&#39;d be, BuffMuscIdol. But this &#39;have sex&#39;, I immediately thought penetration. No penetration, thank you very much.

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Gosh...it amazes me how today most younger people think of "sex" as penetration. In my book..any kind of sexual envolvement... is "sex." Times sure have changed.
:hi:

 

[jonb]

Yeah well, it&#39;s a direct result of abstinence-only. The emphasis on virginity, so we come up with all kinds of things that aren&#39;t &#39;real sex&#39;.

 

[steve319]

Sexual interaction, for me, has never been a casual or lighthearted thing and I have, with one exception, only taken that step after knowing my partner pretty well. So given my lifestyle, I think the question for me would be more a matter of when I was told. If we knew one another well enough to take things to a sexual level, then I&#39;d hope it would have already come up.

Having said that, I&#39;d like to think that if I have genuine enough feelings for her to consider a sexual relationship, I&#39;d find some way to make the relationship meaningful and safe for us both. I&#39;d like to think that, but, honestly, I don&#39;t know.

Great topic here.

 

[BBB2.5]

Originally posted by steve319@Oct 9 2005, 12:44 AM
Sexual interaction, for me, has never been a casual or lighthearted thing and I have, with one exception, only taken that step after knowing my partner pretty well. So given my lifestyle, I think the question for me would be more a matter of when I was told. If we knew one another well enough to take things to a sexual level, then I&#39;d hope it would have already come up.

Having said that, I&#39;d like to think that if I have genuine enough feelings for her to consider a sexual relationship, I&#39;d find some way to make the relationship meaningful and safe for us both. I&#39;d like to think that, but, honestly, I don&#39;t know.

Great topic here.

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Great reply ...... :toast:

 

[tightfit]

Gosh...it amazes me how today most younger people think of "sex" as penetration.

Well, according to Bill Clinton...

 

[BBB2.5]

Originally posted by tightfit@Oct 11 2005, 11:31 AM

Gosh...it amazes me how today most younger people think of "sex" as penetration.

Well, according to Bill Clinton...

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LOL...I guess you are correct there my friend. ........ :toast:

 

[jonb]

Third base isn&#39;t a home run.

 

[Shamrock]

Originally posted by Dr Rock+Sep 30 2005, 03:29 AM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Dr Rock &#064; Sep 30 2005, 03:29 AM)</div><div class='quotemain'><!--QuoteBegin-tightfit@Sep 29 2005, 01:37 PM
Yes - of course I would - Just use the required precautions. Not an issue.

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ditto - although it can be more difficult for me personally cos I generally have a lot of trouble finding condoms that will fit well enough to be effective.

those "mechanical" considerations aside, anyone who refuses to have responsible sex with someone else because they happen to be HIV+ needs a swift kick in the ass. that kind of medieval mindset is not acceptable - would these folks feel more comfortable if we hung bells on HIV+ people and made them call out "unclean&#33;" whenever anyone else passed them on the street, maybe? screw that; grow the fuck up already. :grr:

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Oh what bullshit. Fact is condoms do break. Im not willing to give myself a death sentence just so the HIV+ people can feel accepted, fuck that. This is political correctness at its most insane. I feel great sorrow for infected people, but there is so much I want to do with my life. I also don&#39;t have sex outside of relationships, so
any girl I was with I would be considering a long term investment and someone I
might want to have children with, meaning the children would be infected too.

 

[invisibleman]

Originally posted by BBB2.5@Sep 29 2005, 07:13 AM
Okay....I am about to open up a HUGE....topic. One that most people don&#39;t wish to talk about. They know it exist, but they don&#39;t wish to discuss it. Remember to remain cool and collected. This is not a place to start arguments. I would like a good positive discussion. Pro and cons included. This is not a place to past judgements on peoples lives or individual sitituation. Just be cool and honest , but most of all please be ...RESPECTFULL
Ok here is my question to all of you...................Ready??????????
Would you have sex with a person male or female if they told you that before we "do it" ....I have to tell you that Im HIV+?

Ready set go......have fun.

I&#39;m not sure if this is posted on the correct forum....I was going to post it on " Sex with a Large Penis....but it&#39;s not about "Sex with a large Penis"

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I would have sex with him. HIV+&#39;s need loving too. As with all my sexual partners, I use condoms and spermicidal lubricant. I also use a silicone based lubricant along with that. I would also adhere to safer sex guidelines. If he doesn&#39;t want to adhere to safer sex guidelines and to protect me then NO--I wouldn&#39;t be having sex with the guy. :bounce:

 

[invisibleman]

Originally posted by Shamrock+Oct 12 2005, 09:23 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Shamrock &#064; Oct 12 2005, 09:23 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'>

Originally posted by Dr Rock@Sep 30 2005, 03:29 AM
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@Sep 29 2005, 01:37 PM
Yes - of course I would - Just use the required precautions. Not an issue.

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ditto - although it can be more difficult for me personally cos I generally have a lot of trouble finding condoms that will fit well enough to be effective.

those "mechanical" considerations aside, anyone who refuses to have responsible sex with someone else because they happen to be HIV+ needs a swift kick in the ass. that kind of medieval mindset is not acceptable - would these folks feel more comfortable if we hung bells on HIV+ people and made them call out "unclean&#33;" whenever anyone else passed them on the street, maybe? screw that; grow the fuck up already. :grr:

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Oh what bullshit. Fact is condoms do break. Im not willing to give myself a death sentence just so the HIV+ people can feel accepted, fuck that. This is political correctness at its most insane. I feel great sorrow for infected people, but there is so much I want to do with my life. I also don&#39;t have sex outside of relationships, so
any girl I was with I would be considering a long term investment and someone I
might want to have children with, meaning the children would be infected too.

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The polyurethane condoms don&#39;t break. Latex ones break. The lambskin condoms are not to be used at all. Remember that.
I still respect and understand what you are saying though. You want to be
want to be safe. Protecting your rights to having a healthy family is always the right thing. :bounce:

 

[Car_Ramrod]

I would never, ever do it with an HIV+, no matter who it is. Correct me if I&#39;m wrong, but no condom claims to be a 100% full-proof Aegis shield against AIDS, right? I&#39;m still not sure I would go through with it even if such a condom existed.

I have plenty of compassion in my heart for the sick and dying, but not so much that I&#39;m willing to compromise my own health and ability to start a family.

 

[Grit]

Nope