Body Issues

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  1. DasLeezard

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    So I started spying on some of the LPSG Ladies' pics to see what sort of ideas I could get for pictures to post of me....

    I have to say, I'm very intimidated. Nothing brings a damper to an idea more than the fact that I could definitely not compete, with my small scarred boobs, rolls, stretch marks, scars, cellulite....

    Would, in y'alls opinion, more fully-clothed pictures be considered sexy, or would I just be wasting my time?
     
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    I think everyone has body issues. I know after turning 42 I sure do when I see all those perky breasts on here and every where else. But men are men and they will take a boob or ass picture over everything else! You are very pretty do not feel worried over nothing!
     
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    I posted 2 fully clothed pics in my gallery, and the reception has been more than fine. :smile:

    (I made a friends only album for art & a few slightly more suggestive pics. Still no nekkidness.)

    You should do that, if that feels more comfortable to ya!
     
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    From the face pics you have posted, it looks like you are very pretty and not overweight. I, for one, have a strong suspicion that you actually look better than you think you do.

    I know very few real women (based on what I've seen in locker rooms) who are completely free from cellulite and stretch marks.

    However, I had a completely different image of my body for years until I finally took my first batch of nude photos, and when I looked at them, I realized my body was much better than I thought! I seriously believed, before taking the pics, that my ex had been lying to me for seventeen years when he said I had a great ass.

    IMO, the mirror lies. Or our brains lie, when we look in the mirror. We are so conditioned to idolize the perfect, airbrushed, impossibly thin body types of models and actresses that we cannot see our own good points.

    I found that the camera is more objective than the mirror.

    It also really helped to get some feedback from men (and women) on this site. Some of the positive comments I got really boosted my confidence, and then I took even more pictures. :biggrin1:

    Anyway, I have some cellulite on my thighs and butt, and some stretch marks on my flanks from gaining and losing weight a few times...I have scars low on my abdomen from hernia surgery...but I found that in the photos, these things are almost invisible! And if you take some shots that turn out to be unflattering, just delete them and keep the good ones. It's that simple!

    I also don't have very big boobs, and mine sag a little bit, well, because I'm thirty-nine and not sixteen! But I still think they're pretty nice, all things considered, and so do some other people, based on feedback I've received.

    Finally, take heart -- stretch marks can fade over time. They don't always, but for a time I had stretch marks on my calves and breasts from losing weight...after I maintained a lower weight for some time they faded and eventually disappeared altogether. I haven't been as lucky with the ones on my hips, but truly, take some pictures -- you may be surprised by what you see!
     
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    Cellulite, scars, stretchmarks don't mean a thing as long as your cute. If your uncomfortable naked, you could take some thong shots. That would be very sexy. :smile:
     
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    Girls in nighties really turn me on too... could try that.
     
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    I have scarred boobs,rolls,stretch marks,scars and cellulite and the guys seem to like my pics....and if they don't...then they can look elsewhere!

    Be proud of every lump and bump you have and sod what anyone else thinks.
     
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    Thanks for the input everyone... I may venture into taking more pics, depending on if I get a few more perspectives on it. Suggestions are welcome.
     
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    Everyone has body image issue. Don't get hung up on "flaws" that more likely than not, only you see. And honestly while 20 year old guys may have a thing for airbrushed magazine ad bodies, I think most men are not fooled by that nonsense and love seeing a real woman.
     
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    Sweetie, knowing these guys around here any photo you put up will be drooled over! LOL! I think my boobs were perky when I was 12. I don't put up photos because I don't care to have my pics blasted all over cyberspace. I am self-employed and my image is a very important part of how I market myself. Yeah, somebody could definitely recognize me from my avatar, but that's about as far as i'll go.

    I'm about to turn 40 so if anyone has body image problems it's me!
     
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    Your questions, DasLeezard, are entirely understandable and in good company across the board: men have many of the same doubts. Your point about "competing" is essentially 50% of this site: whose cock is bigger / better / stronger / better-shaped. Meh. It gets tiring. Either you like my cock or you don't. I'm not going to win a competition with a lot of the guys on here, so I don't even try.

    I think this was the point of those Dove "Campaign for Real Beauty" ads... nobody is perfect and a healthy self-esteem is essential to being comfortable with who you are.

    If you have two minutes, look at this YouTube video called "Dove Evolution". You may have seen it before, but watch it again and then focus on the closing statement: "no wonder our perception of beauty is distorted". We are part of a culture with almost unattainably high standards for women and men. It's no wonder to me that you see a lot of people questioning their appearance in the various forums on LPSG. As an example, one of my favorite perennial topics centers on whether or not Speedos are appropriate for men. Like... who should care? However, there's a whole crop of disapprovers -- men as well as women -- who project negative associations onto guys who wear Speedos. Some, but not all of the comments, are based entirely on the wearer's body type. It's as if there is a "wrong" body type to have! How ludicrous is that? We have what we have.

    So, I can only provide you my opinion on your question: I think women who project self-confidence are more attractive than women who project self-doubt. You own your body and you should celebrate it. If you're unhappy with it, change what you can and want to (but only to the degree that you're willing... some people might think joining a gym is enough and for others, its plastic surgery) and be happy with the rest.

    As an aside, I'll tell you about my first experience with an older woman. She was a radio DJ in her 20s, and I met her when I was in high school (shout out to Terri!). During the course of working together on a project over several months, I told her about my rushed, sophomoric and guilt-filled sexual experiences and she listened and laughed and assured me "things would get better". For my 17th birthday she offered to provide me a more leisurely tour of the female body. She was a beautiful woman and overweight. She worked with what she had and she was absolutely sexy and exotic and desirable. She taught me some interesting things about the female body (man in a boat, really?) and a couple of things I didn't know about my own (do what to my perineum?). In fact, I credit her with changing my entire outlook on sexuality (albeit young and malleable, my thinking was still a product of my upbringing and my peers -- neither of which were enlightening). The key to her desirability was her confidence... she overlooked the obvious (her weight) and created an alluring presence with her attitude.

    Back to you: choosing pictures that flatter your best features and hide what you perceive to be your negatives is the best route to go. Flash some skin if you like the way it looks, but don't feel like you have to show it if you don't like it. I've always thought some clothing (for men or women) was more sexy than just displaying naked flesh, but maybe I'm just an old fuddy-duddy. You go with what you like and don't worry that you're 'wasting your time'... you will be appealing to the guys you want to be appealing to.
     
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    I think you should post whatever you are comfortable with. I'm far from perfect and when I first posted pics I had a ton of responses and people asking me to post more. Someone's always going to be thinner or curvier or have more or less cleavage, etc. etc. Don't worry about it.

    Fortunately, we are all so beautiful and different that each of us is genuinely unique. Be yourself, which by looking at your photos you're quite pretty and you've already shown your great personality!!!

    Just be happy with you, believe me I've wished many times to look different, but if I looked different I wouldn't be me anymore. Your body is a part of you. Love every beautiful inch of it!
     
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    Women are the result of nature showing off :)
     
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    My wife has some self image issues. She does hav small 34-A boobs with some stretch marks from kids etc. I love them. I could play with them forever. So soft! They're not as perky as before but I would rather have small boobs where they belong instead of hanging to the waste line. She has some cellulite she's trying to work on, but seriously, I really like a nice bangin' ass. Something to grab, shake, and play with.

    I think in reality, most men want something unique. Not the porn star big boobed perfect tan hard body.

    You are very pretty. And we'd all love to see more!
     
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    In my experience, most men aren't as attacted to the supermodel-type bodies as they are to "real" women. Don't stress about what you consider to be imperfections. They're only imperfections to you, not everyone else. Embrace who and what you are, because it's all you've got. :)
     
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    I posted one that look similar to the other two I posted (because they were taken on the same day)... Not too revealing, but not *quite* SFW.... For those that *do* look... please be gentle...



    And thanks for all the input in this thread so far. I'm beginning to see a clearer picture on things of that nature
     
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    Oh i know there are some pictures out there of ladies that look almost unreal, and it might seem tough to compete with them. And it certainly is (literally) a challenge to have the biggest breasts on this site.
    But there are plenty of pictures on this site that are among my favorites that do not show huge breasts or pictures that could have been taken out of a playboy. Your "Can I Help You?" is one of them, i consider that very sexy.

    But i strongly believe you are a beautiful person, i find your posts always very alluring and i can say the same about the unfortunately very few pictures of yours. And i would be very happy to see more of you.
    Whether you decide to show more or less skin is up to you, more skin does not make it automatically more sensual and sexy. Share with us what you like and consider sexy and i can guarantee you many members including myself will appreciate that.

    And the one picture you added is a good start, but let's me wanting more, which is very good thing, i will now check your gallery periodically to make sure i don't miss any update
     
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    I've never had the sense that my pics, when they're up, were in competition with the other ladies.

    People are drawn to photos for a variety of reasons, not just nudity, lack of stretch marks, or whatever. I'm certain your pics will draw many fans - male and female, as I leave comments/compliments on the photos of all sexes :08: - because you are showing your face and many prefer a beautiful face to a super close-up shot of labia - no offense to anyone who posts pics like that.

    Whatever you post, do it with confidence, because that's definitely where the sexy is. Welcome to the site, btw. :)
     
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    I'm with Princess Tasha! I've had 3 babies. I'm 39. My body isn't perfect...not even close. I only post the pics that I think are flattering, attractive in some resorts. I rely on lingerie to hide what I don't like. I don't post fully nude pix...ever.

    I'm not skinny...I don't want to be either.
     
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    Let me tell you what happens with us men: We see, meet or chat with a women, we get a sense of her personality, her attitude, her sensuality. If we say the right things or get very lucky, we finally get to touch her, to kiss her, to bed her...to see her truly exposed. Every curve, every mark, every flaw becomes part of the package. We love it all.

    We have read your posts...every picture you give us just fills in the blanks. I hope you decide to let us see.
     
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