Bugging Me For 4 Years

I know this sounds stupid, but 4 years ago my wife of 10 years told me my dick was kinda small. I told her I thought it was average, but not small, she insist kinda small. This hasn't runined my life or anything, but it still bugs me after 4 years. I have even considered getting an opinion from a pro girl. I know I am sick, but when your wife tells you it is kinda small it is like a kick in the balls.

I am not looking for an ego boost just curious kinda small, or average? I know it shouldn't matter, yada yada yada, but it does.

Don't pull punches I am an old geezer that is not chasing tail.

1st soft
2nd soft girth 4 1/8 tape starts at 1"
3rd 80% hard TP Roll
4th 90% hard

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Here are are a few more

Stats 6 7/8 BPEL
6.25 Non BP EL
5.5 girth max

I could not get hard in these about 1/4" growth length and girth at max

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"Kinda small"? Where is she getting her standards from -- "Mr. Big Dick," BangBros, West Coast Productions, etc.? To me, average-sized dicks look small, and that does not look small to me.

 

Well in all honesty it's no small, just on the low end of average. LOL you owe the wife dinner.

 

Who's dick was she looking at? Your dick does not look small at all! Great looking dick you have!

 

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Were you arguing when she said this? Otherwise it makes no sense as you are clearly neither big nor small but somewhere in the middle.

Welcome to LPSG, BTW.

 

I think she was active in her youth?? I also thought I was high side of average in length and girth. Never had a small comment, that's why it was such a kick in the nads. I know I am not hung or huge, but honestly I have always been kinda proud. She is the only person to see it in 15 years, until now.

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No we were not arguing. Just a general comment.

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well you are statistically bigger than about 60 % of men, but you pretty much have exactly the average size. But you are clearly above average when it comes to girth.

 

It just seems like a very insensitive thing to say, especially without provocation.

 

Well she does speak her mind. Came out of the blue though. That's why I posted. Of course we don't know her average.

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Clearly she's had experience with a large penis sometime (in her youth?) but it seems strange to bring it up out of the blue after years of being with you. I think I'd ask her what she's basing her opinion on, and why she said what she did - what was the point? What did she hope to accomplish by saying that?

If it's still bothering you and you've been thinking about it for 4 years, you need to ask questions and get it cleared up. Your penis is not small; small is below 5" in length and 4 1/2" in girth. Have confidence that she's misguided, influenced by some experience or conception formed years ago, and stick to the statistics. You still need to clear the air - she may not know how deeply this hurt you.

 

not huge cock but a good above average cock. Maybe you need to learn some new technique to tickle her fancy.lol Strut it,nice sizes.

 

Well, bid...first of all she was being a very insensitive woman and what she said
was not called for at all......and iny case, it makes absolutely no sense at all. :frown1:

You are certainly not huge, but you are also DEFINITELY NOT small. You have a
good length...average if not on the high end of average. You have a great girth
which should make her very happy!

Let's us just hope she was having a pms moment and didn't mean what she said.
I know plenty of women that would be happy and would enjoy what you have.

On the other had, it has been 4 years...and if she has not said it again, maybe you
are the one that has the problem. Forget it....move forward...and enjoy...

 

Well I haven't been obsessed by it. I guess curious more than anything. I have no basis to judge except pornos and internet, so I thought maybe she was right. After that from time to time I have read all of the studies on size on the net, so I know statistically it is a bit above average, but hell who knows. I am not crushed or anything. Luckily I have plenty of self confidence. Just wanted to know one way or the other.

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Women know their man's Achilles heel. In fact, this is almost any man's soft spot. She used no imagination in coming up with that. It was a very easy cheap shot. (Pardon, she went for the "Low hanging fruit".) Nothing at all could be gained from it.

Is there any reason she'd want to hurt you?

 

No it wasn't a malicious comment, or intended to be, just her saying hey it is kinda small. She is not big and has never had kids. I guess she just likes them big. We never really discussed it. Honestly I am fine with the size. I would not mind if it were bigger, but until then I always thought it was big enough.

We are still together, so maybe she was having a bad day.

Thanks for all of the replies, and brutal honesty is fine with me. I am used to it!!

 

Perhaps it wasn't malicious, but it was certainly unacceptably insensitive.

It is not right to point out that a person is deficient in ways that cannot readily be changed. If she didn't like the way she was treated in bed, that would be one thing; it can be changed. But penis size cannot readily be changed so even if you were deficient, which you are not, it is not the sort of thing which should be mentioned. Even if it were deficient, any "problems" that it created could readily be overcome.

So far as brutal honesty is concerned, there may be a place for it, but only in circumstances when more diplomatic honesty has been repeatedly proven to be ineffective.

If that was a one time only sort of thing, probably it should be overlooked. But anyone who repeatedly demonstrates such insensitivity needs counseling in how to relate better to other people.

 

average and nice, definitely not small