Cheating

[Cheme]

What are your guy's experience with cheating?
What is your stance? Don't do it or just don't get caught?

 

[B_flame001]

I say dont do it at all, its actually pretty selfish I mean the person your having an affair with could have some type of disease and you can give the one your with that disease I mean it's really dumb how some people decide to break someones heart or destroy someones sex life forever.

 

[Cheme]

Nice bulge, but what about other using protection?
And what is cheating? Sex? Oral sex? Kissing? Emotional?

 

[Countryguy63]

Anything done with another person, without your SO's knowledge, knowing that your SO would not approve is cheating!!

How would using protection change that?

 

[B_flame001]

Nice bulge, but what about other using protection?
And what is cheating? Sex? Oral sex? Kissing? Emotional?

Well protection isn't 100%. sex, oral, and kissing is all cheating but emotional well we cannot control our emotions.

 

[B_Bjen2848]

cheating - doing anything behind your partners back that you would hide from them ... can range from kissing, fucking, sucking etc. if you're afraid to tell them, its probably wrong... its kind of a gut feeling, you just know

as far as i know i've never been cheated on, and if i ever did i'd kick the skeezer to the curb

and cheating is for weak minded people, if you don't have the will to stay faithful, don't get in a relationship

 

[rbkwp]

#4

also CG
with my partners knowledge, i happily accepted his bi,ness and the ladies he eventually dated
&, i assisted him in his ultimate quest
(still 15 years into their marriage)
freed me up as well hah
(not that i have bothered taking on a full time partner since)
such is life .. Wonderful

 

[Countryguy63]

#4

also CG
with my partners knowledge, i happily accepted his bi,ness and the ladies he eventually dated
&, i assisted him in his ultimate quest
(still 15 years into their marriage)
freed me up as well hah
(not that i have bothered taking on a full time partner since)
such is life .. Wonderful

Yep, and an open honest relationship is the very best :biggrin1:

I know of one couple that are polymorous (sp?), and have been together for years. One is more active, but neither have any interaction with another person (sexually or emotionally) without the knowledge and blessing of their partner

 

[sbat]

Anything done with another person, without your SO's knowledge, knowing that your SO would not approve is cheating!!

How would using protection change that?

So, drinking with your buddies when you said you'd be grocery shopping is cheating? :biggrin1:

 

[sbat]

and cheating is for weak minded people, if you don't have the will to stay faithful, don't get in a relationship

Words...so easy to throw out there

 

[invisibleman]

What are your guy's experience with cheating?
What is your stance? Don't do it or just don't get caught?

Don't put your entire trust and faith in one person. Communicate how you feel at all times.

 

[B_Bjen2848]

Words...so easy to throw out there

actually, it is easy

how hard is it to say no to sex (or anything else) when you're committed? if you can't do that, you're weak and should not be in a relationship

 

[_Jonesy]

It's happened to me with pretty much every relationship I've started (about 4 I think, can't remember) and it never gets easier. It is a tearing your heart out kind of feeling, and it makes me feel sick for weeks. Sometimes in my blind stance I've posted on here just to vent.

Maybe it is my fault for not being careful picking who I fall for but it's made me want to ignore every potential relationship I find unless it seems to feel like it should happen.

Some have the excuse they were drunk, some beg for forgiveness and some flat out admit they aren't happy.

Being drunk isn't an excuse... cheating means you don't care much regardless of how it happened. I get drunk too, I know it is possible to say no. You cheat when drunk because you try to use it as an excuse or think you have a right to. If you ever find yourself wanting to cheat when drunk, wait until next time... in the meanwhile, end the relationship you're in. If you can't, don't cheat?

Begging for forgiveness may show a sudden realisation of how stupid they were, but it can never repair trust for me. I end it.

Admitting it is over... I wish they had admitted it before bedding someone else and telling me just to twist the knife.

What I am saying is for a person of reasonable intelligence and emotional control it will hurt them, and it will probably affect them in the future. There is no fucking excuse and I would never do it to anybody. I detest anybody who does it hoping they don't get caught.

My definition of cheating is all of it, kissing, sex, emotional. If it would hurt the other party, it is cheating. If they place emotional trust in you, don't abuse it.

 

[Cheme]

cheating - doing anything behind your partners back that you would hide from them ... can range from kissing, fucking, sucking etc. if you're afraid to tell them, its probably wrong... its kind of a gut feeling, you just know

as far as i know i've never been cheated on, and if i ever did i'd kick the skeezer to the curb

and cheating is for weak minded people, if you don't have the will to stay faithful, don't get in a relationship

so if you're already in a relationship do you just end the relationshhip because you don't think you can stay committed? Even if you know you truly love the person?

Don't put your entire trust and faith in one person. Communicate how you feel at all times.

Tell the person that you love them but desire to see other people?

 

[LisaMarie]

actually, it is easy

how hard is it to say no to sex (or anything else) when you're committed? if you can't do that, you're weak and should not be in a relationship

I agree with you completely. I just wish more people felt the same way.

 

[Stretch]

It's happened to me with pretty much every relationship I've started (about 4 I think, can't remember) and it never gets easier.

Maybe it is my fault for not being careful picking who I fall for

Sorry Jonesy, but the blame, if it must be called blame, does seem to lie with you. We've all been there once or maybe twice, but when you state that "It's happened to me with pretty much every relationship", well you have to take responsibility for your choices. When you continuously repeat the same negative pattern over and over again, you have to check yourself. We all do.

 

[_Jonesy]

Sorry Jonesy, but the blame, if it must be called blame, does seem to lie with you. We've all been there once or maybe twice, but when you state that "It's happened to me with pretty much every relationship", well you have to take responsibility for your choices. When you continuously repeat the same negative pattern over and over again, you have to check yourself. We all do.

Based on the theory I am a 100% idiot who has no idea how to correct my own mistakes.

Let's just say with some of them I never saw it coming. Some of them turned into a completely different person when it all came to an end. Otherwise I'd agree with you, but unfortunately I'm not that stupid.

 

[Drifterwood]

actually, it is easy

how hard is it to say no to sex (or anything else) when you're committed? if you can't do that, you're weak and should not be in a relationship

I agree with you completely. I just wish more people felt the same way.

Take bacon and eggs. The chicken is involved, but the pig is committed.

 

[Countryguy63]

So, drinking with your buddies when you said you'd be grocery shopping is cheating? :biggrin1:

I knew someone would say something stupid like that and take my words totally out of context

 

[Remington]

What are your guy's experience with cheating?
What is your stance? Don't do it or just don't get caught?

Don't do it.

how hard is it to say no to sex (or anything else) when you're committed? if you can't do that, you're weak and should not be in a relationship

^ Agreed tenfold.