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dear nice guy,

i know you're feeling a little ignored. larger than life, criminally handsome but actually a bit of a cad seems to be getting all the attention but, trust me, he's not half as interesting to me as you are.

i'm glad you're not playing the game. i'm glad you're just being yourself. i'm glad you're not charming me or seducing me or seeing me as the prize. your integrity is turning me on an your sensitivity is melting my heart.

xx
 

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Dolfette, this was a.great thing you did, making this thread. Thank you. I don't post often, but I felt the need to say it.
As a late Bloomer with an average size, I used to have size anxiety, but after seeing first hand what I can make a woman feel by actually putting my mind to giving her pleasure, and my girlfriend telling me much what you said, I no longer believe a large size is at all necessarily better.

So many men need to hear and understand this.
 

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ladies, in this thread i would like us to write open, positive, honest letters to victims of angst. pick your issue, write your letter.

dear men with small cocks,

i do not mind.
if we were to meet, if we really hit it off, if i liked you enough to actually get naked with you and it turned out that you were less than vast?
i would not mind.

ok i like an average size cock but there is so much more to sex than size. for my tastes, it's all about attitude. i'd prefer a small dicked man with the right attitude over an average dicked man with the wrong one.
i'll let you into a secret... when i wank i don't put anything inside me. what's put inside me isn't the key to my pleasure. but if you pin my wrists, bite my neck, growl in my ear and pound our pelvises together then my toes will curl. actually, i'll quite like that you can really let go without ever really hurting me... which is why my heart sinks a little when i get to the point of naked and find the guy is huge.

ok, i know that some guys have been jerks and some women have been bitches to you in the past. it sucks that some people feel the need to be shitty just because you don't fit perfectly into their personal tastes. please remember that we're not all like that. physical incompatibility happens but it's nobody's fault and nobody is less of a man, or indeed less of a woman, if it does.
i'm rambling... i guess what i'm trying to say is this: you're ok just the way you are. i won't spend my nights wishing you were bigger or dreaming of cocks i have had in the past.

so, man with a small penis, when we meet you should just smile, be charming, try to relax and... be kind about my stretch marks.

xx

Seriously, a man with a small penis would'nt be here and could care less if you had stretch marks.
 
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Gotta say, this thread stopped me in my tracks. Hats off to ya dolfette, you are the very definition of class. Also a heartfelt thank you goes out to all the ladies that have contributed. Please keep this thread going lol.
 

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seriously??

well that gives me the warm and fuzzies.
Seriously.

I contribute to altPenis and try to help men who struggle with their self-esteem over being smaller. Your post has literally helped men feel better about themselves. The opinion of women is so, so crucial to men's self-confidence and view of themselves. Your post can undo so much negative baggage that many of them carry, especially the unfortunate few who have been literally laughed at by women about their size. It can be crippling. I thank you on their behalf.
 
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Dear men who premature ejaculate,

I don't hate that you cum quickly. No, really! I don't! I obviously like you to some degree if we've gotten naked together. I know not everyone is understanding of other people's quirks, but quite frankly, every single person out there has their own little "issues". So long as we're both satisfied by the end of the night (day, morning, afternoon delight, whatever), I don't care. Besides, there are plenty of other pleasure giving things we can do that don't require your penis inside my vagina.

<3 Fay
 

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This thread is remarkable. Dolfette, as you collect these beautiful letters, I hope you'll consider looking for a publisher for them.

There deserves to be one of those little impulse-buy books you see at the cashier's desk in book stores called "dear men with..."

The words in these letters can help heal damaged hearts, and reduce the amount of bitterness and separation in the world.

Bravo.
 

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This thread is remarkable. Dolfette, as you collect these beautiful letters, I hope you'll consider looking for a publisher for them.

There deserves to be one of those little impulse-buy books you see at the cashier's desk in book stores called "dear men with..."

The words in these letters can help heal damaged hearts, and reduce the amount of bitterness and separation in the world.

Bravo.
Great idea. There could be a "Dear women with..." one, too, written by men.
 

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Dear women who are critical of their own image in the mirror,

When I pass you on the street, in a moment when you're distracted by an unexpected sight, (such as a kitten playing in a shop window, that perfect pair of shoes, or a poster advertising a talk by Malcolm Gladwell)...

When I pass you on the street, and see you in that moment when you forget yourself and let go of your worry about how you look... in that moment I am overwhelmed by your carefree, breathtaking radiance.

I try not to stare, but your femininity has drawn me in. I am not looking at you in order to judge you... you may feel you're too fat or too thin, that you have bumps and wrinkles in unattractive places, and that your skin tone and hair don't match up to the fashion spreads in Vogue magazine.

I'm not seeing that. In this moment, I feel only unspoken desire and appreciation, I feel inspired by the glow of the divine feminine channeled through your human form.

As we talk over coffee, you may worry for a moment that I will notice an imperfection in your teeth, or that I'm judging the length and fullness of your eye lashes.

If I look intently at your face, it is because I'm seeing the glint of insight in your eyes while you share your thoughts with me. If my gaze lingers too long at your mouth, it is because the irregularities in your smile remind me of our shared humanity, and noticing the tension across your lips turns me on.

I know there have been times when you've been criticized by other women for how you look, been judged and rated on a scale from 1 to 10 by men who don't even know you. And it's so unfair.

I want you to know that what attracts me most is how you move, how you purr or growl, how you demonstrate your sweetness and integrity and determination, and the beauty of the depth and range of emotions and thoughts that make up your inner world.

If it's a cliche, it's only because it is true: perfection is boring. I am dying to fall in love with all your little imperfections.

x
 
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Dear Men who have been badly hurt by another woman,

I chose you. I see past the anger and the walls you have put up. I see the man you are inside and I see the love you crave. You deserve love, you deserve to be treated well and you deserve respect.

I am not her. I will not do the things that she has done. Don't punish me for what she has done. Look at me for who I am. I have never hurt you and I would never hurt you on purpose. You are safe with me. I will protect your heart as if it were my own, and I will defend you to all others. Your body is the only body I need and want. You are more than enough for me. You fill my world. I adore you.

I am not her, and I chose you. Let me in, because I love you.
 

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Dear women who are critical of their own image in the mirror,

When I pass you on the street, in a moment when you're distracted by an unexpected sight, (such as a kitten playing in a shop window, that perfect pair of shoes, or a poster advertising a talk by Malcolm Gladwell)...

When I pass you on the street, and see you in that moment when you forget yourself and let go of your worry about how you look... in that moment I am overwhelmed by your carefree, breathtaking radiance.

I try not to stare, but your femininity has drawn me in. I am not looking at you in order to judge you... you may feel you're too fat or too thin, that you have bumps and wrinkles in unattractive places, and that your skin tone and hair don't match up to the fashion spreads in Vogue magazine.

I'm not seeing that. In this moment, I feel only unspoken desire and appreciation, I feel inspired by the glow of the divine feminine channeled through your human form.

As we talk over coffee, you may worry for a moment that I will notice an imperfection in your teeth, or that I'm judging the length and fullness of your eye lashes.

If I look intently at your face, it is because I'm seeing the glint of insight in your eyes while you share your thoughts with me. If my gaze lingers too long at your mouth, it is because the irregularities in your smile remind me of our shared humanity, and noticing the tension across your lips turns me on.

I know there have been times when you've been criticized by other women for how you look, been judged and rated on a scale from 1 to 10 by men who don't even know you. And it's so unfair.

I want you to know that what attracts me most is how you move, how you purr or growl, how you demonstrate your sweetness and integrity and determination, and the beauty of the depth and range of emotions and thoughts that make up your inner world.

If it's a cliche, it's only because it is true: perfection is boring. I am dying to fall in love with all your little imperfections.

x
Walnutgrain, can you copy this into the "Dear women with" thread? This is great.
 

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Dear men with low self-esteem,

You deserve so much more than you give yourself credit for. The majority of 'good guys' out there are the ones who aren't appreciated by women, and as such, these guys don't believe that they have anything good to offer. This is not true - you just haven't found a woman yet who has a heart that can match yours. You probably tend to go for the women who walk all over you because you are the nice guy... know that you deserve much more than this. Don't give these women any more of your time.

Please don't be offended when we call you 'cute'. We do not mean that you look like a little boy; we mean that you are lovely (both inside and outside) in our eyes and that we want to cuddle you and never let you go.

Please believe us when we say that you are wonderful. When we say that we are lucky to have you, we mean it too. When we compliment you, we want you to accept this and believe it.

Remember that no one is perfect. Everyone has flaws and we are our worst critic. I'm sorry that you can't see just how great you are...but I want to make it my mission to make you realise this. I'm sorry that when you look in the mirror, you don't see the same person that I see. But we wouldn't be with you if we didn't think you were amazing. When we smile at you, know that we are thinking how fabulous and perfect we think you are.

Know that confidence is the most sexy trait of all...once you realise that you have nothing to be self-conscious about, don't be afraid to let your confidence show :) But please don't get cocky!
 
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Dear men with wrinkles,

You are hot! Seriously, you are. When I see your soft wrinkled face I just melt away. I feel all warm inside when you smile. Your soft skin and the wrinkles you earned draw me. Your silver hair shining. I know you may think we’re all looking for younger fit men, but I’m not. I love the touch of a man who’ve been around, who knows how to appreciate a woman in a very different way than the young and hungry.

I love it that you take your time to know me and that I can learn a thing or two from you. When you tell me that you can’t bring yourself to tell people that you’re sixty, I tell you, just carry on and say fifty nine. You can be fifty something for the rest of your life if you want. A few months ago I met a ninety one year old who is still sexually active and was invited to a threesome with him and his seventy something fourth wife. What can I tell you wrinkled men? You are hot. And you inspire me. And you should wear your wrinkles with pride!
 

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Dear fat men,

Hubba-hubba! No, I'm not taking the piss or being condescending - I mean it. I love your size. It's not a case of 'not minding' or 'looking beyond the fat to see the real you' - I'm seeing all of you and I like it! I love your broad chest, your wide thighs, your weight on top of me and you are so much more comfortable to sit on when we do cowgirl.

Do you hate your extra chin, the way you think you might wobble here and there? Yeah, I get that, because I hate that about myself too, but for some reason I just love it about you. You want to change? Fine, I'll support you in whatever is right for you. But know that I find you so sexy. So if you think you need to change to make me like you more you're wrong.
 

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Dear Men with father issues. You are a better man than him. Stay strong work hard, love and protect your family. Keep your head up and be a strong proud man.