I asked TheBoyfriend and he says he never talks about porn with anyone either. Jokes, yes, acknowledges the existence of porn, yes, but not actually talking about his porn or what he enjoys or watches with anyone IRL.
I didn't really know what to expect there. I thought men might talk about it with one another more than women, but he says that no one has ever brought up porn to him in a non-joking way.
My bf and I openly watch porn in front of each other. So admitting it to him is nothing. I talk occasionally about certain things I've watched with a few girl friends but co-workers or other people of that nature I don't go around telling. It's just kind of one of those unspoken things that most people who know me know I probably do because of my personality.
IRL convo with my gf's it usually spurs from some ones comment that some random dude is cute. Then it starts with have you seen this sex tape. Then we talk about positions then it usually ends in shoe talk. Its never a blatant I like midget porn, well yea someone admitted that but its never anything graphic but we all know we have watched porn. One of my gf's only watches soft core porn. You know the fake late night cable porn. She thinks hard core is disgusting go figure.
Okay, so both of you have female friends that you discuss porn with? I have never talked about porn with a female friend! Even those women whom I am absolutely positive watch as much porn as me, I just don't know how it would end up coming up in conversation and I can't imagine how that conversation would go.
All those people we told about accidentally getting someone else's porn collection, not a single person volunteered personal information about their own porn tastes or about their own porn collections, even though we talked a lot about the things we got in detail. It seems like everyone is comfortable talking about a total stranger's kinks, but no one wants to talk about their own. :tongue: