First time sex

[Justforadviceplease]

Hey everybody! I'm a 20 year old virgin whose never really been in the sex game, but recently decided to put myself out there. I've made a decent connection with someone and I think he wants to have sex, but I'm genuinely unsure how. I made this account just to ask questions, so please if you know answer!
- I believe I'm a top but might be keen to bottom once or twice so genuine advice for douching in case that happens. I've been advised a water bottle can do the trick but I did some research and can't find whether they actually do anything.
- What can I expect for my first time, the man I'm talking too knows I've never done anything just because I've been scared to try, so genuinely what do I expect, will there be pain or discomfort because they make it seem so smooth online.
- Is there anything that happens you wish you knew before you had sex for your first time. And is there anything that happens that they don't talk about online.


these are all the questions I can think of right now, ill add more if I can think of any but please I just want to be prepared

 

[dana2]

Not all sex between men involves anal sex every time. I would suggest meet with this guy and do other things: make out, rub your dicks together, suck each other, get to know each other's bodies. Once you are comfortable with him you can think about exploring anal.

Honestly anal is different for every guy. For some guys it comes easy while for other us, like me, our assholes are tight and it's more of a challenge. First time for me I went too quickly and it hurt so much I passed out. Take things slow and read up about anal online.

 

[hvdude]

Are you a VIRGIN virgin (i.e. never had an orgasm) or just never had sex with anyone?

If the former, your first ever ejaculation is sensational! If the latter, what dana said is true.

First, don't worry about labels. Ever. Do what your body is telling you and follow your instincts. If you know the "first base, second base, etc." that's one thing the straights got right. Start slow with holding hands, kissing, and touching. For gay men the next is mutual masturbation/frottage. After comes oral. Finally anal. But you take it at YOUR pace.

Once you get to anal, whether you're a top or bottom, you should be clean. That doesn't necessarily mean you have to douche, but your hole and area should not show any "residue". If you are bottoming, sometimes the top's cock will penetrate deep and cause something to happen. If it does, get up, go to the bathroom and clean off. The top's cock is like a plunger and the in/out pressure affects your colon.

Yes. There will be pain, sorry to say, depending on how big his cock is. If he has a big cock, he'll know to take it slow and should check in with you to make sure you're ok. If you want to stop, just say so. Honestly, there may be blood if your anus tears, which can happen. Don't freak out.

What you see online is professionally produced by professionals. Don't use porn as a guideline.

Finally, in any stage of the above, you need to think about where you want your partner to shoot his load. On your face? In your mouth (will you swallow it)? Inside you? On you? Where? i.e. when he says, "I'm gonna cum!" you need to know where to tell him.

Hope that helps!

 

[Justforadviceplease]

Are you a VIRGIN virgin (i.e. never had an orgasm) or just never had sex with anyone?

If the former, your first ever ejaculation is sensational! If the latter, what dana said is true.

First, don't worry about labels. Ever. Do what your body is telling you and follow your instincts. If you know the "first base, second base, etc." that's one thing the straights got right. Start slow with holding hands, kissing, and touching. For gay men the next is mutual masturbation/frottage. After comes oral. Finally anal. But you take it at YOUR pace.

Once you get to anal, whether you're a top or bottom, you should be clean. That doesn't necessarily mean you have to douche, but your hole and area should not show any "residue". If you are bottoming, sometimes the top's cock will penetrate deep and cause something to happen. If it does, get up, go to the bathroom and clean off. The top's cock is like a plunger and the in/out pressure affects your colon.

Yes. There will be pain, sorry to say, depending on how big his cock is. If he has a big cock, he'll know to take it slow and should check in with you to make sure you're ok. If you want to stop, just say so. Honestly, there may be blood if your anus tears, which can happen. Don't freak out.

What you see online is professionally produced by professionals. Don't use porn as a guideline.

Finally, in any stage of the above, you need to think about where you want your partner to shoot his load. On your face? In your mouth (will you swallow it)? Inside you? On you? Where? i.e. when he says, "I'm gonna cum!" you need to know where to tell him.

Hope that helps!

I've never had sex with anyone, not even oral. I appreciate that theyll go at a slow pace, but after reading some stuff im definitely a top (for now lol). We had a bit of tension last night but to be honest I kinda kept moving along just because I got kinda nervous haha. But thanks for the advice this definetly gives more of a set viewpoint for me

 

[Justforadviceplease]

Not all sex between men involves anal sex every time. I would suggest meet with this guy and do other things: make out, rub your dicks together, suck each other, get to know each other's bodies. Once you are comfortable with him you can think about exploring anal.

Honestly anal is different for every guy. For some guys it comes easy while for other us, like me, our assholes are tight and it's more of a challenge. First time for me I went too quickly and it hurt so much I passed out. Take things slow and read up about anal online.

i did read a bit online, safe to say I'm a top now. which is fine because I learned that the person im talking too is a verse bottom so it works out. But I appreciate the advice on getting to know each others bodies, it puts me at ease a bit that we can slowly adjust