Dr. Bubbles
Experimental Member
WOW! Lots and lots and lots of comments made about the choice of having babies. Let me clear up and state that I ended my conversation with "that's my choice."
I appreciate the warm remarks made from Naughty, Twista and Madame about my choice in having children and wanting to be a stay-at-home mom. Ideally, if finances are in place, this will be an ultimate goal. Realistically, however, my spouse will have to agree to that as well - and I understand it. I just feel that I could raise my children better than anyone else and would love to do that.
Someone sent me a private message and asked about me giving up everything that I had worked for to this point. As mentioned earlier, my parents cannot understand my decision (like this is happening in the next couple of months anyway), but I don't look at it as giving anything up. I am well educated and have been very fortunate with my educational career as well as my professional career. I am quite successful, but I have a void. For me, I think that void is not having children (yet). The void would worsen if I had children and had to leave them with a nanny or sitter everyday.
I just know how I am. Who knows, maybe my opinions will change someday, but right now, that is what I WANT TO DO. I do not push my ideas on anyone nor do I want them to feel I have. This is simply a choice that I AM comfortable with concerning my life.
I think we all have to do what we feel is comfortable for us. Some people do not want children. I respect their position. Some people do not want children of their own but love them. I equally respect them as well. They know best what type of parent they would be (or would not be). Some people want children and cannot have them. These individuals I feel the most pain for, as I could not phantom being in that situation. My heart aches with them. Some people have children and neglect to love and care for them. They should be severely beaten (yes, physically beaten - again, my opinion). I will leave that one alone before I say to much. And then there are those who want children for the simple desire of having them and caring for them. This is the category I fall into. It is my choice and my decision. No one else's and no one can strip that away from me.
So, make you own choices about children but be deliberate and thoughtful in your decisions. And do not cast stones to those of us who want them or to those of us who don't. It's all about choices and decisions....
And, for my private email sender........ This should be responsive enough to answer and clarify any further questions you have about my decisions or the decisions of others.
That is all...
bb
I appreciate the warm remarks made from Naughty, Twista and Madame about my choice in having children and wanting to be a stay-at-home mom. Ideally, if finances are in place, this will be an ultimate goal. Realistically, however, my spouse will have to agree to that as well - and I understand it. I just feel that I could raise my children better than anyone else and would love to do that.
Someone sent me a private message and asked about me giving up everything that I had worked for to this point. As mentioned earlier, my parents cannot understand my decision (like this is happening in the next couple of months anyway), but I don't look at it as giving anything up. I am well educated and have been very fortunate with my educational career as well as my professional career. I am quite successful, but I have a void. For me, I think that void is not having children (yet). The void would worsen if I had children and had to leave them with a nanny or sitter everyday.
I just know how I am. Who knows, maybe my opinions will change someday, but right now, that is what I WANT TO DO. I do not push my ideas on anyone nor do I want them to feel I have. This is simply a choice that I AM comfortable with concerning my life.
I think we all have to do what we feel is comfortable for us. Some people do not want children. I respect their position. Some people do not want children of their own but love them. I equally respect them as well. They know best what type of parent they would be (or would not be). Some people want children and cannot have them. These individuals I feel the most pain for, as I could not phantom being in that situation. My heart aches with them. Some people have children and neglect to love and care for them. They should be severely beaten (yes, physically beaten - again, my opinion). I will leave that one alone before I say to much. And then there are those who want children for the simple desire of having them and caring for them. This is the category I fall into. It is my choice and my decision. No one else's and no one can strip that away from me.
So, make you own choices about children but be deliberate and thoughtful in your decisions. And do not cast stones to those of us who want them or to those of us who don't. It's all about choices and decisions....
And, for my private email sender........ This should be responsive enough to answer and clarify any further questions you have about my decisions or the decisions of others.
That is all...
bb