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yeah, if you run a search here on what ladies think about 69ing then you'll find that a lot of us really don't like it. even the ladies that love to both give and receive often hate to 69.
 

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Yeah - I do like to 69 as part of an afternoon of frolicking - but we don't do it that often and I don't feel it is underused in our sex life. It's not my favourite and it is no substitute for getting head, nor even for giving a really good bj.
 

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You are at a point in your relationship with this woman where you can determine if you are sexually compatible. You can not make her want to give a BJ...but you can find out now if she can overcome her reluctance because she loves you. That is the best that you can hope for. Then, you have to hope that she continues to love you enough to want to please you in ways that she might not enjoy.

I speak from experience. My wife never enjoyed giving me a blow job, something which was obvious to me from the start. And as we settled into our long years of marriage, her desire to please me sexually became less...urgent. So did the blow jobs. I haven't had one from her in 20 years. While everything else in the marriage is as wonderful as it can be, I remain and will always be frustrated by this. No amount of talking or bargaining will change it.

Heed my words...if it is important to you, now is the time to determine if she can give you what you need. You can't change her...but you can find out if she is right for you.
 

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I don't believe that everyone who doesn't enjoy giving blowjobs initially ends up never giving them ever.

Unfortunately there are lots of disgruntled married guys who used to think this.

If everyone is giving the same advice, it's probably true.

If it's really important, you've got to find someone new. If everything else about her is good enough, then stay. But you must understand she isn't going to change. And it's unfair of you to keep asking her to change. She'll only hate you for it.
 

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The OP isn't going to see his girl again until autumn. This is time for him to strategize. He's doing a good job of that!

OP, you might have to face the very real possibility of pheromonal incompatibility. You might never 'taste good' to her, even with change in your diet. But as you know, your sex life with her is fine overall, and nothing in a relationship is a guaranteed deal-breaker if you both have decided otherwise. You are likely to get BJs from her more often once she has fallen so deep in love with you that she plans to stay forever. If that is where you want this to go, best of luck to you both.
 

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the first thing that came to my mind was, that even though you don't want to, maybe you are sending signals to her that she isn't really good at it. that of course can kill one's motivation. you could tell her that you really like how she does it and that it is a great turn on for you the way she blows you. give her positive feedback. that might be a little lie at the beginning, but it could enhance her enthusiasm for it.

I thought the same and it reminded me of my ex. When we met we talked about sex and he said he did not like performing oral sex on a woman. I said it would be a problem for me because it is what I enjoy. He did a few weeks into dating and it wasn't great. I realized after, he wasn't great at it because he wasn't very experienced with it. So I would encourage him, let him hear me enjoy it, sometimes exaggerating but it helped. I also told him what to do. Seeing me enjoy it and having some instruction, he would end up rock hard enjoying it too

You just have to encourage her and work with her

To the women here- do you ever get tired of your snarky, bitchy comments? Get the fuck over yourselves, some guys come here to ask when they become desperate and they don't always know how to ask or it might not agree with your personal perspective. His relationship isn't doomed, he isn't asking for cock worship, oral sex is part of a normal healthy sexual relationship and if you can not understand that then you have no business advising anyone
 

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I thought the same and it reminded me of my ex. When we met we talked about sex and he said he did not like performing oral sex on a woman. I said it would be a problem for me because it is what I enjoy. He did a few weeks into dating and it wasn't great. I realized after, he wasn't great at it because he wasn't very experienced with it. So I would encourage him, let him hear me enjoy it, sometimes exaggerating but it helped. I also told him what to do. Seeing me enjoy it and having some instruction, he would end up rock hard enjoying it too

You just have to encourage her and work with her

To the women here- do you ever get tired of your snarky, bitchy comments? Get the fuck over yourselves, some guys come here to ask when they become desperate and they don't always know how to ask or it might not agree with your personal perspective. His relationship isn't doomed, he isn't asking for cock worship, oral sex is part of a normal healthy sexual relationship and if you can not understand that then you have no business advising anyone

spot on
 

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no, oral sex is part of some people's normal, healthy, sexual relationships.
not having oral sex is a valid and equally as normal & healthy a choice.
her dislike of the act is as valid as his liking of the act.
and if it's an active dislike, as opposed to a more passive not-like, then it is extremely unlikely any tactic will change that.
if she actively dislikes it then she will most likely either stop doing it, or do it and resent it.
 

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no, oral sex is part of some people's normal, healthy, sexual relationships.
not having oral sex is a valid and equally as normal & healthy a choice.
her dislike of the act is as valid as his liking of the act.
and if it's an active dislike, as opposed to a more passive not-like, then it is extremely unlikely any tactic will change that.
if she actively dislikes it then she will most likely either stop doing it, or do it and resent it.

You are assuming she does not actually like it, the OP didn't say that. He said she wasn't good at it and had hang ups, which isn't healthy. He also said she did not touch his penis in general, this is an issue. She has issues, it is clear from his commentary. A lot of people with religious sexual guilt have issues with normal sexual function, it seems to be at least part of her issue

They have an otherwise healthy relationship and he says he doesn't resent her for not being very attentive to his cock. The problem is, he eventually could. You are not an expert on human sexuality and you are making contradictory assumptions because you want to be argumentative on a message board. I feel sorry for you, your life otherwise must not be very fulfilling. You are one example of the problem with women on lpsg, quite a few of you think you're experts of sorts. The reality is, there are very few women here, which gives you an edge in numbers compared to society in general where I am guessing at least 70% of you would be considered socially inept

I have written articles about sexual dysfunction, researched it extensively. I also wrote about inflated egos within social media and message board subcultures. I guess this makes me more of an expert than you in both and it leaves me with one suggestion- find a hobby
 

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the op used the word 'despises', and assumes it's from her background. 'despise' is a very strong word. it means an active dislike, not a passive not-like.

pardon me if i don't put much stock in your self declared expertise, having seen no supporting evidence.
 

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the op used the word 'despises', and assumes it's from her background. 'despise' is a very strong word. it means an active dislike, not a passive not-like.

pardon me if i don't put much stock in your self declared expertise, having seen no supporting evidence.

I really don't need to post my work here, it isn't needed. There are people from lpsg that know me irl and can support my claim. I do have proof though that you are socially inept- you have had 9092 posts since 2006, don't you have anything better to do?
 

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I really don't need to post my work here, it isn't needed. There are people from lpsg that know me irl and can support my claim. I do have proof though that you are socially inept- you have had 9092 posts since 2006, don't you have anything better to do?
i could post something insulting about you here but your own post does it better than i ever could.
 

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i could post something insulting about you here but your own post does it better than i ever could.

People from lpsg, as in friends, not people I am fucking or are you so narrow minded that you think because a woman knows someone she must be fucking them, which just goes back to my analysis of you
 

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People from lpsg, as in friends, not people I am fucking or are you so narrow minded that you think because a woman knows someone she must be fucking them, which just goes back to my analysis of you
well that's an interesting piece of paranoia...
i made no mention of you fucking anybody. it hadn't crossed my mind. even had i made that assumption, how implying you might fuck people is an insult is beyond me.

you seem very defensive.
 

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well that's an interesting piece of paranoia...
i made no mention of you fucking anybody. it hadn't crossed my mind. even had i made that assumption, how implying you might fuck people is an insult is beyond me.

you seem very defensive.

This is a comment sent to me from someone on lpsg, apparently you have a lot of fans

I really enjoyed you slamming on dolfette in the thread.

She realllllly does need a life, shes posts all day around the clock non stop just trying to be better than everyone else. She claims to be a parent, super attractive, ect ect, yet shes monitoring these forums 24/7.

go sizequeenNY! :p
 

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This is a comment sent to me from someone on lpsg, apparently you have a lot of fans

I really enjoyed you slamming on dolfette in the thread.

She realllllly does need a life, shes posts all day around the clock non stop just trying to be better than everyone else. She claims to be a parent, super attractive, ect ect, yet shes monitoring these forums 24/7.

go sizequeenNY! :p
again your post leaves me with no need to insult you.
 

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This is a comment sent to me from someone on lpsg, apparently you have a lot of fans

I really enjoyed you slamming on dolfette in the thread.

She realllllly does need a life, shes posts all day around the clock non stop just trying to be better than everyone else. She claims to be a parent, super attractive, ect ect, yet shes monitoring these forums 24/7.

go sizequeenNY! :p


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