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[viking1]

LMAO NoS!!
See Viking, thats how he does it. Confidence displayed, responded to, becomes confidence learned.

That's a whole lot easier for someone who has something to be confident about, than it is for somebody like me.

 

[Onslow]

That's a whole lot easier for someone who has something to be confident about, than it is for somebody like me.

There is also the downside of large. There is always the need to go slower and easier because of possible damage. Whereas you worry about getting it in and keeping it in, the bigger guy has to worry about not going too far too fast--and in many cases not getting all of it in ever. There are women and men who will not allow a larger than average penis in them. They just out and out refuse. Some can eventually be cajoled into going for it but there have been several who have refused. Fortunately for me, I am more of a bottom (queer obviously) and am heavily into giving oral rather than receiving so it has usually worked out. I said USUALLY. There have been those times when I have wanted and did not get. Think for a moment what a shocker it is to see someone like me (well in the olden days before the cutting which is its own weirdity). A man of approximately 5'7 (I refuse to admit to being any shorter) with a large penis. Up until my mid-thirties I was also on the slimmer side (most of the time). Put together the imagery. It's terrifying. Not only is it long, it looks even longer on a shorter man. Havign a large penis does not automatically give a man all the confidence. He has heard the painful moan, the scream, he has seen the bleeding and the bruising--hard to gain confidence with those factors unless you're into S&M.

I have had very good times sexually with smaller penised men--confidence. That is what they have. They know they can deliver the pleasure and they go for it. Get your confidence act together and you'll be fine.

 

[D_Ariva_DerChee]

If you like cookies: would you pick smaller amounts or lots?
If you like cars: would you prefer a toyota or a ferrari?
If you like brests: would you prefer bigger over smaller? (by smaller i mean u can get it all in ur mouth.. or you at least want a hand full?
If you like a person: I am sure there is something you like on them.
If you love dicks: would you want to admire and watch and fuck a 4 incher or 8 instead?



Now: do you prefer 1 dollar over 100$?


so, the point is ... most of the time more , bigger, expensive is preferable...

if you can get full with a half pound cheese burger then you dont need a whole pound one..do ya? but dang I am sure it looks better!

Bigger doesnt always mean better.

I've said before i've only been with one "bigger" guy. but thats not true. I've been with two. The last was bigger than the slightly above average guy i dated. But the sex was SO HORRIBLE, i keep forgetting it happened.

His cock was big enough, but since he had no idea how to use it (Girls, imagine a guy making wide hula-hoop motions as he briefly poked you in the pussy) That it was just a total waste of my time, and annoying to boot.

Now. I've also slept with a guy who was 3 1/2 inches, Hard. He actually got me off.

That being said, It isnt always the size, Its what you do with it.

 

[viking1]

Onslow, I actually agree with you about size. I wouldn't want to be huge. To be somewhat above average would be plenty for me.

It's not just my size that makes me unconfident. It's the whole package, looks, body, personality, etc. I don't know of anything about me that brings any confidence. Maybe it's just me, and others don't see it that way.
That's what I'm asking. What do others see in me?

 

[D_Barzillai Whackingsauce]

I still stick with my original post on this subject.

Examine What the word "Matters" means to men and women, to figure out the answers to this debate.

 

[burns1de]

Onslow, I actually agree with you about size. I wouldn't want to be huge. To be somewhat above average would be plenty for me.

It's not just my size that makes me unconfident. It's the whole package, looks, body, personality, etc. I don't know of anything about me that brings any confidence. Maybe it's just me, and others don't see it that way.
That's what I'm asking. What do others see in me?

I see someone that complains ALL THE TIME. If I had a dime everytime I've read one of your post where you whine about yourself, I'd be rolling around in a BMW instead of a Raleigh MTB Sport Summit.

How about you start working on what displeases you about yourself instead of not doing anything and being full of resentment? Go to the gym, take up martial arts, join a debate group, anything, but DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. Confidence will follow, believe me. Sitting on your ass and feeling sorry about yourself is a total waste of time.

 

[txnrude]

the only truth in this world is that everyone lies. Personally I don't really care if the girl lies about it or not. I have been with my current gf for almost 2 years so I am going to assume she doesnt lie to me about her feelings on my penis, but I may be wrong.

 

[D_Gunther Snotpole]

@viking:

Anytime we bring up all the shortcomings we see in ourselves, and almost all of us see lots of them when we look inside, we reinforce a particular and very unhealthy pattern.
And that's what you're doing, viking.
Before you do anything else, you have to break that pattern.
Presumably you think someone is going to hear your pain and come up with something that will prove helpful.
But in the very act of expressing the pain, you are reinforcing it. So any help that might be offered, you have already, in effect, neutralized.
I don't mean that speaking of one's troubles never brings helpful advice. It does (but surprisingly seldom, in my observations).
And I don't mean that you should bottle yourself up and never express what gives you pain. But there's a time and place and a manner in which to do so.
But if you go despondently over your notions of how you are inadequate all the time, you are going to constantly expose yourself -- no less than those who are hearing you -- to this vision of viking as inadequate, unattractive, and destitute of hope. It does no good.
I've been there, done that, viking.
And I know how hard these patterns are to break.
But they have to be broken, and only one guy can do it.
And I'm speaking to him.
You didn't ask for my advice, and I hope you don't find it rude.

 

[Onslow]

Onslow, I actually agree with you about size. I wouldn't want to be huge. To be somewhat above average would be plenty for me.

It's not just my size that makes me unconfident. It's the whole package, looks, body, personality, etc. I don't know of anything about me that brings any confidence. Maybe it's just me, and others don't see it that way.
That's what I'm asking. What do others see in me?

They may see a decent caring man. If other people seem to like you, then the next part is for you to like you--that is something only you can do. As to your size complaint read this message from MistressVera--and pay special mind to the parts I have highlighted in red--

Bigger doesnt always mean better.

I've said before i've only been with one "bigger" guy. but thats not true. I've been with two. The last was bigger than the slightly above average guy i dated. But the sex was SO HORRIBLE, i keep forgetting it happened.

His cock was big enough, but since he had no idea how to use it (Girls, imagine a guy making wide hula-hoop motions as he briefly poked you in the pussy) That it was just a total waste of my time, and annoying to boot.

Now. I've also slept with a guy who was 3 1/2 inches, Hard. He actually got me off.

That being said, It isnt always the size, Its what you do with it.

Try to remember that Viking1--and remember confidence builds from what you invest. If you go in timid and scared it'll show.