Some people aren't fit for relationships. They need intense therapy or to grow up. Most of us bring a lot of baggage to the relationship and selfishness is a huge factor in relationships not working. It's far too easy to throw the whole thing away. No one thinks it is strange or questions you about it.
For example, you are a married for 9 years and have three kids...you invite everyone over to celebrate your kids birthday and you have a new guy- no explanation as to who he is, where he came from and why you and your husband are seperated (again). No one asks because 1) they don't want to know 2) they are going to get a partially contrived story based on perception 3) they know you a little too well and you are nuts so its not surprising someone didn't want to stay married to you.
Or, Aunt so and so has been married 5 times. Everytime there is a holiday gathering she brings a new guy. No one even asks what his name is or anything. We are tired of it. So there is no reason for her to try to make things look smoothed over in public. She has no scruples.
Or, your sister is in the hospital giving birth, her husband has disappeared and when she is just about to file for divorce, the son of a bitch shows up and because its close to christmas, we all have to sit at the dinner table with him as if none of it ever happened.
This is just some of the million stories i've had to deal with personally and honestly, no one has any reason to hold it together anymore. My mom does non-contested divorces and she keeps the information on file so the frequent flyers can come and just change the name of the guy they are divorcing for the sake of saving time.
