I hate men

[Ethyl]

Now my friend is crushed. Just really crushed. She had fallen for this guy over the internet and really believed that he loved her. She even went so far as to get a second job to pay for his ticket to visit her.

Sometimes, I just hate men.

I'm very sorry to hear about your friend's heartbreak. Unfortunately, Internet Asshole Guy was waiting for someone who would do his bidding and eventually break under pressure. He targeted your friend for a reason. He saw what he wanted in her. I hope she heals and learns more about herself so this won't happen ever again.

As for the debate on whether it's more important to tell the truth or be nice, you don't always have to choose between the two. There is a time and place for being nice. I'd say most of the time. Sometimes it's more important to make sure the truth is acknowledged and in certain cases being nice will weaken the delivery or impact. Takes time to learn that kind of discernment.

 

[wallyj84]

Holy shit, I go to bed and wake up to find that this topic has ballooned up to five pages? Jesus.

 

[invisibleman]

Holy shit, I go to bed and wake up to find that this topic has ballooned up to five pages? Jesus.

:biggrin1:

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

Holy shit, I go to bed and wake up to find that this topic has ballooned up to five pages? Jesus.

Ignore four out of the five pages, they are me and others going on and on about other things, totally unrelated to your original topic. Sorry.

 

[nicenycdick]

There is some truth that the internet has been a good way for people who have some physical appearance issues to get people to talk to them and get to know them without immediately being judged about their looks right off the bat.

Sure...I rely greatly on this.

 

[Ethyl]

Holy shit, I go to bed and wake up to find that this topic has ballooned up to five pages? Jesus.

Late arrival. Damn my procrastination. :tongue:

 

[wallyj84]

Okay, a kind of blanket response.

I agree, my friend was very stupid in falling for this guy. I told her that he was trouble, but she wouldn't listen. This had a lot to do with her previous relationships and his knowledge of those relationships.

She had been in about two relationships prior to starting the long distance relationship with Mr. Asshole. They were both horrible and left her hurt. During this time, she was friends with Mr. Asshole and he was one of the shoulders that she would cry on. When he became bored with his wife and decided he wanted my friend on the side, he used his knowledge of my friends failed relationships to manipulate her into falling for him.

This is what pisses me off about this guy. He waited until my friend was at a very weak point, emotionally and then told her everything that she wanted to hear to make her fall in love with him. It was manipulative and in my mind downright evil. Especially when you know the relationship history of my friend, like he did.

By the way, my friend is not fat or ugly. She is a little desperate, but that is due to other problems she has had in her life as well as the culture she has grown up in. She should not be blamed for that.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

There is a learning curve, if she isnt learning after previous or similar relationships, its something she is purposely ignoring out of desperation. When one is desperate, its not about ignorance, its deliberately denying the obvious to feel good for a moment. When you do this, you can't expect everyone to feel sorry for you- especially when they tried to counsel you before you got extremely tangled up in the mess.

Be prepared that there is a small possibility she might not learn from her mistakes and come to you everytime for support.

 

[B_FatMushroomHead]

I hate tax day

 

[Wish-4-8]

I don't hate men, but I hate people who allow themselves to be victims, and then cry about it.

I 2nd that!

 

[grandlarson]

I'm going to go out on a limb here, but I think the original poster is a muff diver.

 

[captain garbonzo]

The title of the thread should be 'Why do women go for assholes?"
Sadly, your friend sounds very naive. Why would she fall for this guy? Desperate for attention? I just don't understand this. There are a billion nice guys who would treat her like a queen and she goes for asshole #2.5 billion...I just will never understand. I guess it's the 'excitement' of how a guy makes a woman feel, going for her emotions and playing them skillfully?

I am inclined to feel sorry for her but just on the info given, if she didn't listen to a good friend such as you, then she needs to learn a lesson. Hopefully she won't fall so easily in the future for asshole# 2.6 billion...

Without going into too much detail about my experiences with love- Fuck relationships. People are full of shit. I have known some ex girlfriends and friends that swear their best guy friends were 'only friends' and never did anything. Well, I saw with my own eyes otherwise. Don't be too hasty to trust if they give you that line. You can put money on it that they are full of shit and the odds would be heavily in your favor.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

I hope no one thought i started this thread by seeing my responses in the new threads column. For the record, i love the menfolk.

 

[invisibleman]

Without going into too much detail about my experiences with love- Fuck relationships.

:smile:

People are full of shit. I have known some ex girlfriends and friends that swear their best guy friends were 'only friends' and never did anything. Well, I saw with my own eyes otherwise.

I know what you mean. I even tried to get a scintilla of truth from my ex. He wouldn't EVEN tell me and I found out on my own that he had three guys on the side. :frown1:

Don't be too hasty to trust if they give you that line. You can put money on it that they are full of shit and the odds would be heavily in your favor.

You really can't trust anyone. There aren't any guarantees that the person you meet will be there for a long time.