i think i've finally lost all interest in men.

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  1. dolfette

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    that last, crappy, ahole date was the last nail in an already nail laden coffin.

    ...y'know, i think it's more socially acceptable for a man to say that the opposite sex are more trouble that they're worth and give them up for porn and kleenex. and people assume that a woman needs a made in order to be complete. i mean, i have a bf and i still get that, ''no wonder you can't get a man!' response from the misogynists here.

    oh...yeah...the boyfriend...
    i s'pose i ought to say something to him.

    so the topic up for discussion is,
    the social pressure to get a man and the assumption we're incomplete without one.
     
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    That kind of social pressure is usually a case of "their way of doing things is different to mine, it must be threatening and wrong!"
     
  3. D_Sparroe Spongecaques

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    I wholeheartedly agree with you.I spent 2 years single as i just wasnt interested in men after a whole array of negative things that happened with a previous guy.I wanted me time,time to reflect in one way or another.

    I was called frigid,a lesbian,a weirdo and allsorts of other stupid things.Why? Well apparently i should have wanted a bf and a lover to make me feel like a real woman.

    When i did decide to date again i thought i should stick to my age or older as they were more level headed....wrong!!!..that age group treat me like i should be grateful or something for the attention.Don't get me wrong,some were ok but not exactly what i wanted and i wouldnt settle for second best,i am worth more.

    The thing that really got my back up was when i did eventually meet someone and everything was going well,we'd go to dinner etc etc and the amount of times that a waiter/garage attendant/shop assistant asked my bf what drink i wanted/which fuel etc etc was unbelievable.

    FFS i have a tongue in my head and am more than capable of speaking and doing for myself.

    Even my own sister said i should be with somebody...like it's expected of me and she also said that it makes me seem more normal as being in a couple is 'normal'...FFS,i have heard it all!
     
  4. dolfette

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    partly that a lot of people settle for unhappy relationships, and if you deny that any relationship is better than none it highlights this.
     
  5. Drifterwood

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    Is it really such a big deal anymore?
     
  6. dolfette

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    oh, i'm with you there!
    a single woman HAS to be looking.
    and then, when she finds someone, she's just his other half.

    a wealthy aunt of mine started writing the xmas gift cheques out to my partner, who she had never even met. it annoyed me so much that i binned instead of cashing. like having a dick makes him better with money.
     
  7. dolfette

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    unfortunately yes.
     
  8. Drifterwood

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    OK, I'll send you a photo. You can tell everyone I am doing twenty years for organised crime. Tends to put other guys off..
     
  9. D_Sparroe Spongecaques

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    Exactly! In this day and age one would have thought that ideas like that would have been left behind in the dark ages but seems not.

    In the end i wore a plain band so folks would stop hassling me.It worked but was such a shame i had to take such measures to just to shut folk up.
     
  10. D_Sparroe Spongecaques

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    Sadly yes
     
  11. dolfette

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    perfect :smile:

    as long as i get to live off the proceeds.
    ...i am but a poor, weak female after all.
     
  12. dolfette

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    i do that too.
    if i'm going out clubbing i wear a wedding ring. it means i can escape most of the pestering.
    yes, there's still a perception that single women would only go somewhere that sells booze if they're looking for a cheap hookup.
     
  13. D_Czarova Zucchini

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    :confused:

    just to clarify was "that last crappy ahole date" with "the boyfriend"?
     
  14. dolfette

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    no.

    i'm sure we've been through this before.
     
  15. D_Czarova Zucchini

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    who?

    You & me or you & him?


    anyway, so you were steppin' out on him, movin' on...
     
  16. dolfette

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    you & me.

    i don't shag other men and i tell him everything.
     
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    The social pressure and the assumption are real. I don't put a lot of stock in them; there have been plenty of times when it was just too much bother (to date/get a girlfriend) for me, and I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels that way, male or female.

    That aside, you'll be back.
     
  18. dolfette

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    maybe, but i come back a little less every time.
    and i've been giving & wanting so little...less than that is nothing.

    at least everyone has given up on introducing me to people.
     
  19. D_Czarova Zucchini

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    ROTFLMAO

    spoken like a true narcissist
     
  20. dolfette

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    that's the another one.

    if i don't want a relationship i must be a narcissist.
     
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