i think i've finally lost all interest in men.

[dolfette]

that last, crappy, ahole date was the last nail in an already nail laden coffin.

...y'know, i think it's more socially acceptable for a man to say that the opposite sex are more trouble that they're worth and give them up for porn and kleenex. and people assume that a woman needs a made in order to be complete. i mean, i have a bf and i still get that, ''no wonder you can't get a man!' response from the misogynists here.

oh...yeah...the boyfriend...
i s'pose i ought to say something to him.

so the topic up for discussion is,
the social pressure to get a man and the assumption we're incomplete without one.

 

[overly_straight]

That kind of social pressure is usually a case of "their way of doing things is different to mine, it must be threatening and wrong!"

 

[D_Sparroe Spongecaques]

I wholeheartedly agree with you.I spent 2 years single as i just wasnt interested in men after a whole array of negative things that happened with a previous guy.I wanted me time,time to reflect in one way or another.

I was called frigid,a lesbian,a weirdo and allsorts of other stupid things.Why? Well apparently i should have wanted a bf and a lover to make me feel like a real woman.

When i did decide to date again i thought i should stick to my age or older as they were more level headed....wrong!!!..that age group treat me like i should be grateful or something for the attention.Don't get me wrong,some were ok but not exactly what i wanted and i wouldnt settle for second best,i am worth more.

The thing that really got my back up was when i did eventually meet someone and everything was going well,we'd go to dinner etc etc and the amount of times that a waiter/garage attendant/shop assistant asked my bf what drink i wanted/which fuel etc etc was unbelievable.

FFS i have a tongue in my head and am more than capable of speaking and doing for myself.

Even my own sister said i should be with somebody...like it's expected of me and she also said that it makes me seem more normal as being in a couple is 'normal'...FFS,i have heard it all!

 

[dolfette]

That kind of social pressure is usually a case of "their way of doing things is different to mine, it must be threatening and wrong!"

partly that a lot of people settle for unhappy relationships, and if you deny that any relationship is better than none it highlights this.

 

[Drifterwood]

Is it really such a big deal anymore?

 

[dolfette]

I wholeheartedly agree with you.I spent 2 years single as i just wasnt interested in men after a whole array of negative things that happened with a previous guy.I wanted me time,time to reflect in one way or another.

I was called frigid,a lesbian,a weirdo and allsorts of other stupid things.Why? Well apparently i should have wanted a bf and a lover to make me feel like a real woman.

When i did decide to date again i thought i should stick to my age or older as they were more level headed....wrong!!!..that age group treat me like i should be grateful or something for the attention.Don't get me wrong,some were ok but not exactly what i wanted and i wouldnt settle for second best,i am worth more.

The thing that really got my back up was when i did eventually meet someone and everything was going well,we'd go to dinner etc etc and the amount of times that a waiter/garage attendant/shop assistant asked my bf what drink i wanted/which fuel etc etc was unbelievable.

FFS i have a tongue in my head and am more than capable of speaking and doing for myself.

Even my own sister said i should be with somebody...like it's expected of me and she also said that it makes me seem more normal as being in a couple is 'normal'...FFS,i have heard it all!

oh, i'm with you there!
a single woman HAS to be looking.
and then, when she finds someone, she's just his other half.

a wealthy aunt of mine started writing the xmas gift cheques out to my partner, who she had never even met. it annoyed me so much that i binned instead of cashing. like having a dick makes him better with money.

 

[dolfette]

Is it really such a big deal anymore?

unfortunately yes.

 

[Drifterwood]

unfortunately yes.

OK, I'll send you a photo. You can tell everyone I am doing twenty years for organised crime. Tends to put other guys off..

 

[D_Sparroe Spongecaques]

oh, i'm with you there!
a single woman HAS to be looking.
and then, when she finds someone, she's just his other half.

a wealthy aunt of mine started writing the xmas gift cheques out to my partner, who she had never even met. it annoyed me so much that i binned instead of cashing. like having a dick makes him better with money.

Exactly! In this day and age one would have thought that ideas like that would have been left behind in the dark ages but seems not.

In the end i wore a plain band so folks would stop hassling me.It worked but was such a shame i had to take such measures to just to shut folk up.

 

[D_Sparroe Spongecaques]

Is it really such a big deal anymore?

Sadly yes

 

[dolfette]

OK, I'll send you a photo. You can tell everyone I am doing twenty years for organised crime. Tends to put other guys off..

perfect :smile:

as long as i get to live off the proceeds.
...i am but a poor, weak female after all.

 

[dolfette]

Exactly! In this day and age one would have thought that ideas like that would have been left behind in the dark ages but seems not.

In the end i wore a plain band so folks would stop hassling me.It worked but was such a shame i had to take such measures to just to shut folk up.

i do that too.
if i'm going out clubbing i wear a wedding ring. it means i can escape most of the pestering.
yes, there's still a perception that single women would only go somewhere that sells booze if they're looking for a cheap hookup.

 

[D_Czarova Zucchini]

that last, crappy, ahole date was the last nail in an already nail laden coffin.
...
oh...yeah...the boyfriend...
i s'pose i ought to say something to him.

...

just to clarify was "that last crappy ahole date" with "the boyfriend"?

 

[dolfette]

just to clarify was "that last crappy ahole date" with "the boyfriend"?

no.

i'm sure we've been through this before.

 

[D_Czarova Zucchini]

no.

i'm sure we've been through this before.

who?

You & me or you & him?


anyway, so you were steppin' out on him, movin' on...

 

[dolfette]

who?

You & me or you & him?


anyway, so you were steppin' out on him, movin' on...

you & me.

i don't shag other men and i tell him everything.

 

[rob_just_rob]

The social pressure and the assumption are real. I don't put a lot of stock in them; there have been plenty of times when it was just too much bother (to date/get a girlfriend) for me, and I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels that way, male or female.

That aside, you'll be back.

 

[dolfette]

The social pressure and the assumption are real. I don't put a lot of stock in them; there have been plenty of times when it was just too much bother (to date/get a girlfriend) for me, and I'm sure I'm not the one who feels that way, male or female.

That aside, you'll be back.

maybe, but i come back a little less every time.
and i've been giving & wanting so little...less than that is nothing.

at least everyone has given up on introducing me to people.

 

[D_Czarova Zucchini]

and i've been giving & wanting so little...

ROTFLMAO

spoken like a true narcissist

 

[dolfette]

ROTFLMAO

spoken like a true narcissist

that's the another one.

if i don't want a relationship i must be a narcissist.