I'm being circumcised..

[petite]

This thread has been educational for me.

This is such a hard decision for a parent to make. Obviously there are passionate feelings on both sides regarding whether one's parents made the right choice or not. I chose not to have my son circumcised and I hope that I made the right decision for him, but there's no way for me to know how he will feel about it decades from now. I hope that he won't have any issues that would cause him to want to be circumcised or need that surgery, but I can't predict the future.

 

[maxcok]

Still unable to read max?


Talk about being a blowhard.

Back to the thread starter, you'll most likely be fine

My god, you're a sour old puss. When are you going to grow up?

 

[Hoss]

My god, you're a sour old puss. When are you going to grow up?

Old? Take that back varm'nt!!

 

[maxcok]

This thread has been educational for me.

This is such a hard decision for a parent to make. Obviously there are passionate feelings on both sides regarding whether one's parents made the right choice or not. I chose not to have my son circumcised and I hope that I made the right decision for him, but there's no way for me to know how he will feel about it decades from now. I hope that he won't have any issues that would cause him to want to be circumcised or need that surgery, but I can't predict the future.

I'm sure with the parents he has and the culture he'll be growing up in, he'll be just fine. Do you realize that the circumcision rate for newborns in the US is now down to around 32%? No doubt it will continue to drop as more people become more educated and enlightened. He'll be like most other boys, and I expect he'll be grateful you left him the way he was born. :smile:

 

[petite]

I'm sure with the parents he has and the culture he'll be growing up in, he'll be just fine. Do you realize that the circumcision rate for newborns in the US is now down to around 32%? No doubt it will continue to drop as more people become more educated and enlightened. He'll be like most other boys, and I expect he'll be grateful you left him the way he was born. :smile:

I hope that's the way he'll feel about it! One of the hardest things about having a kid is just knowing that it's inevitable that he's going to think you've screwed something up. :tongue:

The current circumcision rate is actually one of the factors that helped me convince my hubby that we shouldn't circumcise. My hubby was most concerned about the psychological effect of how his future sexual partners might react. He felt more comfortable knowing that our son wouldn't be the odd one.

 

[conor]

You will leventually lose some sensation in the glans when it is uncovered; also -not all cases of phimosis require circumcision. There are alternative surgeries to widen your foreskin. I am a doctor too mate, so trust me; get a 2nd opinion
conor

 

[Dick_NiceBut_Thick]

I had a very tight foreskin. But then my first sexual experience was with a woman who liked to give very vigourous handjobs. She grabbed my cock and thrust downwards very hard. The skin had no chance to stretch and just tore. It was a pretty agonising experience, but it healed up and has been nicely loose ever since. Sorry for being gruesome, but it's probably a lot better than losing your foreskin completely. Get a sexually violent girlfriend!

 

[maxcok]

I hope that's the way he'll feel about it! One of the hardest things about having a kid is just knowing that it's inevitable that he's going to think you've screwed something up. :tongue:

If he thinks you "screwed up", he can always get himself circumcised when he's an adult. If he thinks you "screwed up" by having him circumcised, there's nothing to be recovered. Which do you think is worse, and which might carry more resentment? As open, enlightened and sex-positive as the two of you are, you have nothing to worry about, believe me.

The current circumcision rate is actually one of the factors that helped me convince my hubby that we shouldn't circumcise. My hubby was most concerned about the psychological effect of how his future sexual partners might react. He felt more comfortable knowing that our son wouldn't be the odd one.

It's mind boggling the number of men who think their sons need to look like them to be "normal".
Again, it all comes down to nothing more than ignorance and cultural conditioning, doesn't it?

 

[Charles Finn]

thank you so much i totally agree
if he does not like being uncut then he can get cut
if like me he got snipped at birth he will either spend years restoring or just deal with it

 

[wallaboi]

This thread has been educational for me.

This is such a hard decision for a parent to make. Obviously there are passionate feelings on both sides regarding whether one's parents made the right choice or not. I chose not to have my son circumcised and I hope that I made the right decision for him, but there's no way for me to know how he will feel about it decades from now. I hope that he won't have any issues that would cause him to want to be circumcised or need that surgery, but I can't predict the future.

When I was growing up my father and most of my friends where cut and I wasn't. My parents showed me how to retract my foreskin and wash properly and I also learned about circumcision in cubs, boy scouts and school, but I did feel a bit of the odd one out. So much so that I seriously thought about trying to circumscise myself.

Anyway, as I grew older I encountered more uncut guys (in the locker room, and later saw them on porn etc. I became more accepting of my foreskin. Now i wouldn't have it any other way.

So I suppose my point for you and your partner is, don't be afraid of talking about it with your son and expalain that although they might look different he and his father are both the same and both are normal.

I think you have made a good decision.

 

[joyboytoy79]

C'mon folks! cfjp18 is asking about recovery. He wasn't asking for a debate about the prejudice against uncut cocks in the American medical community. He doesn't even live in the US! He does, in fact, live in the UK, where infant circumcision is not at all the norm.

My hunch, uninformed as it may be, is that doctors in the UK have more experience with issues that may arise (no pun intended) in men with foreskin. Their American counterparts may very well be snip happy, but we're not talking about America. Circumcision is not the norm in the UK and I doubt this doctor is simply trying to "normalize" his patient.

That said, the OP was also not asking about the virtues of being circumcised. He was simply asking about recovery. Personal experiences with cleanliness, smell, sensitivity, etc are not the issue. This is not the place to debate them.

There is no need for name calling. There is no need for "statistics." There is no need for defending one position or the other. There is no need to lecture. What there is need for is support. This young man needs to know what he can expect from people who have had the surgery recent enough to remember what it feels like.

Are we all so caught up in our personal agendas that we can't stop to help a fellow human being through a scary and difficult time? I would certainly like to hope not.

 

[Charles Finn]

for me I am jealous he got to keep his skin only to chop it off now
but it is his skin after all

 

[maxcok]

That said, the OP was also not asking about the virtues of being circumcised. He was simply asking about recovery. Personal experiences with cleanliness, smell, sensitivity, etc are not the issue. This is not the place to debate them.

You need to address that to the people who brought up the smell, cleanliness issues, etc. in the first place, and who maintain there's nothing lost from circumcision but an inconvenient, ugly, smelly flap of useless skin.

There is no need for name calling.

I agree. Again, address that to whom was calling names.

There is no need for "statistics."

There is when people present misinformation and bad or suspect science as indisputable fact.

There is no need for defending one position or the other.

I strongly disagree. I think there's always a valid case to advocate for natural body integrity in the face of myth and bad information, especially concerning RIC, which only serves to perpetuate the cultural conditioning that "it's no big deal one way or the other". There's no way to avoid that issue in any intelligent discussion of circumcision. Regardless of where it starts, it eventually always leads back to that core condition and mindset. Look at what Charles just posted above me.

People who are educated and enlightened, people of intelligence and goodwill, have every right to respond to ignorance, especially in matters of fundamental humanity, be it affecting one person or millions. They may even feel morally obligated to do so. Expecting them to remain silent is unreasonable and only serves to perpetuate an inhumane, and for the most part, medically unnecessary practice. First, do no harm.

Again, if you think the discussion went off the rails, you need to look to where.

 

[joyboytoy79]

Max,

I've addressed your concerns via PM. But I would like to make it public that I have no need to seek out any individual directly. I was not looking for who to blame. I was merely observing the current direction of the thread, and the lack of answers to the OP's questions. Blame is of no use to me.

 

[maxcok]

Max,

I've addressed your concerns via PM. But I would like to make it public that I have no need to seek out any individual directly. I was not looking for who to blame. I was merely observing the current direction of the thread, and the lack of answers to the OP's questions. Blame is of no use to me.

I have no "concerns". I didn't take your post personally. I just get tired of false "us vs. them" mindsets and "both 'sides' are equally to blame" arguments that get in the way of meaningful discussion - here, in politics, or anywhere else - when it's clearly not the case. It's people who don't listen or read for comprehension who see the world that way and come to that conclusion. Go back and look at my last post again.

Speaking for myself, I believe I did address the OP's concerns if you look back to my entry into the thread, as have others. There's nothing preventing you or anyone else from further addressing his concerns if you so choose. I don't have time right now to respond to your lengthy PM. I will when I have a chance.

 

[Lambycake]

Hey cjfp18. I hope your recovery is free from complication. Let us know. We have hijacked your thread and as a contributor to that, I apologize. Best wishes.

 

[B_Ctendall]

Hi guys, i'm 22 years old and going in for curcumcision in the next few weeks. I'd had a few problems in the past, so my doctor suggested it was the best and only option.
After the operation when will things be back to normal?
How long is thr recovery period, and how uncomfortable is it?
Will my penis change is size or shape?

Thanks!

I was cut near berth but you should see minute changes in both size and shape

 

[xenon-naturist]

worth getting in touch with www.norm-uk.org, run by retired doctors, not pro circumcision but if recommended for medical reasons by your consultant they would not contradict him and instead give you support

 

[D_Larson Longwand]

Was circumcised about 10 days ago now, and even though its still recovering, I already know its one of the best things I've done not only because the foreskin would cause me pain, but also in terms of cleanliness and look.

So much better

 

[gymfresh]

Hi guys, i'm 22 years old and going in for curcumcision in the next few weeks. I'd had a few problems in the past, so my doctor suggested it was the best and only option.
After the operation when will things be back to normal?
How long is thr recovery period, and how uncomfortable is it?
Will my penis change is size or shape?

Thanks!

Your doc may be right, but rule of thumb for any irreversible surgery is to get other medical opinions before proceeding -- unless the surgery is clearly what you want. A frenuplasty (for frenulum breve) or a nick in the foreskin (for preputial stenosis) often treats the problems more conservatively.

Most guys report 2-4 weeks as the standard recovery time. Then you can have sex without special attention to the surgery.

No reason you should expect any significant change to size or shape if the operation is done expertly.

There are plenty of websites and blogs that document the process from pre-surgery through weeks and months of recovery. Check them out.

I strongly disagree. I think there's always a valid case to advocate for natural body integrity in the face of myth and bad information, especially concerning RIC, which only serves to perpetuate the cultural conditioning that "it's no big deal one way or the other". There's no way to avoid that issue in any intelligent discussion of circumcision.

Valid points. I support anyone who has done his research or is following medical advice, has his facts right, and concluded that he should be circumcised. Doesn't matter if the reason is medical necessity or personal preference.

On the other hand, I don't support or respect those who chime in with "all guys should be circumcised" or "it's the greatest thing you can do!!!". Those are personal opinions at best, not helpful, and should be given no more weight than a comment that "all guys (girls) should be tattooed" or "getting a nose job is the greatest thing you can do!!!". Just not applicable for the general population.