Ladies, is it better for a guy to think he's too big or too small?

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  1. basincreek

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    As a kind of corollary from this thread, where it seems that there is a consensus that a guy who brags up an average sized dick is not cool, I thought we might talk about the opposite. Now a while back I threw out the idea in another thread that I should warn women about my own smaller size before things get to sex. I was told, mainly by women, that this was a bad idea. I guess if someone is small they shouldn't talk about it at all....kills the mood or something.


    Anyways I'm wondering if any of you have ever encountered a guy that talked down his penis size only for you to discover he was average or bigger? What did you think about him for doing so?

    Also, have you ever heard a guy say he was small and then want to find out if he's serious assuming he probably isn't? What if your assumption was wrong and he was telling the truth?

    Finally, if you had to choose between the two, an average sized guy who claims he's huge vs an average sized guy who said he was small: which is the preferable scenario? Which is more prone to bring you to anger?

    I should point out that it is easy for an average guy to think he's small when they aren't. Most don't studiously measure themselves and compare their results to stats from the internet the way I did. Conversely, give a guy some limited experience and some ladies lying to him and he might think he's bigger than normal when he isn't.
     
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    Neither. It's best when a guy if just confident with whatever size he is.
     
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    What Katt said.
     
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    I agree! Surely it's just better to accept the reality, and deal well with it. :smile:
     
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    I used to think mine was small until I came here and read a lot of stuff here and other places too. Now I'm definitely more confident that the old tool set will git'r'done, until she starts needing a major depth charge that is.

    So getting to a guy later in life usually helps to bolster the confidence Katt is talking about.
     
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    Either way, the sense I want to get is that he thinks he's about to make my day and rock my world. No matter what, I'm determined to show him a good time. I want the same.
     
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    I do not care how a guy perceives his penis size, as I, ultimately, decided if he's too big, too small, or just right for my needs.

    Actually, I am a bit confused as to why a woman would be surprised about a potential partner's size? I always, always check the goods and know what I'm in for pretty early on.

    :rolleyes: I'll take the other guy who has a firm grasp on reality and doesn't play games.
     
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    What Katt said.

    And how about the corollary: Would a guy want a girl talking up the size of her vagina? :eek:
     
  9. basincreek

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    Granted that would be nice. But if forced to choose between just those two....got any preference?

    I've wondered how women do that. I really wondered back when I thought it was really important to keep my true size from her.

    Like saying she's real tight...or real loose?

    Either way would actually turn me on.
     
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    I agree with Katt, best to be confident in yourself and your ability to pleasure a woman. If you are not sure, do some research, there are plenty of books / videos. Also, if a woman "needs" or wants a bigger cock...that's what toys are for...just know how to use them on her.
     
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    Why would a woman be angered by either?

    And how is this a women's issue? Isn't this really just a men's issue about which you're seeking female opinions?
     
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    I usually make the guys with big ones feel small. :smile:
    And they like it!:cool:
     
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    That's why I say or hint at my penis being small to every woman who I'm likely to see on a daily basis.
     
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    Size checks? Give him a lengthy hug, maybe rub his lower back at the same time. Rub his upper thigh while riding in the car or a cab. Just grab it. :smile:
     
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    Hit the nail on the head with that one. Another argument for an "Ask a woman" sub-forum.
     
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    All rape-fantasies aside, sex shouldn't be forced - so nor should our opinions be. Insecure guys (ie. those thinking they're too small) AND overconfident guys (ie. those thinking they're the king of cock) usually aren't worth the bother; both are likely only to focus on themselves during sex; either worried if they're good enough or in awe of their own self-proclaimed awesomeness. I prefer my men to be focussed on US, not just his member.


    But Hilaire does have a valid point...
     
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    I would think that would suck to have to use a toy get what you "need."

    But this is about guys talking about their size before you've seen it. Do you have an opinion on that?

    Well, plenty of them seemed quite angry about the one in the other thread that inspired this one. BTW that thread is also in Women's Issues.

    How could I effectively keep her from doing that? I've been told that I shouldn't tell a woman I'm small before we get to bed but I'd still be leery of her finding out through one of those methods before I've had any opportunity to try and sell her the rest of everything that is "me."

    You don't think a guy who knows he's small would try to work extra hard to get you off? I know I would want to do everything I could to get her off even if it means all sorts of unconventional stuff......to a point...I don't really think I could bring myself to give a gal a rimjob.
     
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    Neither.
    What ever size you are, it is all in the eye of the beholder.
    When she says it's big, it is. When she says it's small, it is, whatever the stats are...
     
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    Just what I was thinking....

    (And yet another reason we need that 'ask the women' forum I keep banging on about.)

    Tow it, please?
     
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    Well, between the two - better to slightly underestimate. Modesty is better than overconfidence, imo.
     
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