deine_huendin
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my pleasure comes from serving, from my backside- so most times i stay limp and flaccid
Maintaining a hard cock when being fucked
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William, why does this matter to you? Sometimes I stay hard and other times not. I do not care about my dick at this moment, only his. He also doesn't seem to care if my dick is hard, soft, or even there for that matter. For those that don't stay hard it could be a lack of concentration. I'll stay hard with a guy that I'm familar with before I will a one night stand, usually. Either way it's no cause to run out and purchase Viagra.
Very good question. Thanks.
Very good question. Thanks.
I always wondered about this too. I’m versatile and I had one bf who stayed hard every time I fucked him. My next partner was a top and I was always hard when he fucked me. My current bf stays soft the whole time, and of course I stay hard when he does me. Maybe it’s the placement of the prostate?
My focus is keeping the top happy so my dick doesn’t matter. My hole feels so good so I don’t need my dick to be hard
Anal is not my thing, but from what I can tell most bottoms have their own unique set of responses when being topped.
For the few times I have been on the bottom, my erection went down, then became very hard once I relaxed and focused on giving my partner a great ride. The graphic sort of says it all.
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For the few times I have been on the bottom, my erection went down, then became very hard once I relaxed and focused on giving my partner a great ride. The graphic sort of says it all.
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As the proverbial curious guy I figured the gay or bi men would have some info... And ya'll do! Thanks. That said, the real reason for my question is I try fuck with either a plug or dildo, and I can't stay hard enough to fuck. But either way I adore it!
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Could be that is because you're concentrating on working your ass with the plug or maybe you're not hitting the right spot. I don't know. I guess I'd prefer to be hard when being fucked and was pretty much alway in my 20s and 30s. Who knows, though. Lot's of great feedback here.
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Same thing here. I was bothered a lot by it because my partner thought I wasn’t enjoying myself as I was soft. But for me it’s pain that makes my erection go away. Almost always the initial feeling when penetrated comes with pain and that really makes my erection go away instantly. Or if my partner pinches my nipples too hard, I lose my erection.
Yes, the initial insertion almost always hurts at least a little and that makes me go soft . . . but, at the same time, I want to KNOW that I have been taken and will be used for his pleasure. I like it when a guy pauses after popping my sphincter, before completing the insertion, so I can recover. And it's great when a guy will stroke my cock a few times, bringing back some of the hardness, before starting the fuck strokes.
(And I do NOT like to have my nipples pinched!)
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That's probably the same for me. I stay hard, because my partner and I act out some fantasies and I primarily keep my mind on the then and now.
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I am the same. Hard as a rock and almost ready to explode with a nice cock plunging into my ass. I need someone balls deep in me right now!
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So I think most guys that are not used to the sensation of being fucked loose their boner. It's absolutely common. I always loose my hard on due to the pain and unpleasant sensation of the first couple of minutes of being fucked. I found the key is to be really horny, like long foreplay and edging before the dick goes in your butt and then keep wanking /edging for a while until you are really stretched and can fully enjoy the sensation of being fucked. Then I stay hard no matter what.
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I truly enjoy the anal pleasure (only dildos at this point). No pain. But like you say maybe edge for a bit more is key.
The more I've talked with other guys and read about it, it is more an individual thing. Some people will say you're not used to getting fucked, or that the pain was too much so you went soft - but I have been fucked many times ... many ... and am always a bottom with guys. Not one time have I stayed hard, and not one time did it really bother me. Sometimes it bothered my partner at the time, as they were worried about my pleasure as well, but it was easy to assure them that I was indeed enjoying it.
Let me flop away while you fuck my ass. It's all good.
Let me flop away while you fuck my ass. It's all good.
Totally agree! Just cos we are soft doesn’t mean we are uncomfortable or not loving every minute of it!
Also coming from a total bottom too
Actually, I think we are loving it even more as we are enjoying with our asses and not with our cocks
