Key point and one that Incocknito does mention; enthusiasm.In my experience, sex always improves when both are willing to make it happen.
Incocknito, he didn't say the sex was bad, he said it wasn't the best. He said the sex was "average", "still gets the job done", or in other words just adequate, but not stellar.
I could marry this person. In my experience, sex always improves when both are willing to make it happen.
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I could marry this person. In my experience, sex always improves when both are willing to make it happen.
yes.Your lover still 'gets the job done' most of the time, but is far from the best sex you've ever had. Would you marry this person?
it would depend on what else was going on in the relationship. if i was head over heels in love with this person, we got along great, awesome chemistry, we could talk about any kind of thing and always be interested...then average/adequate sex would be a small price to pay. because that's the kind of thing that can always be improved upon, and naturally will as time goes by.
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Yeah, that's what I thought too! Not always true.
whereas mind blowing sex with someone i don't get along or, to make it a more accurate comparison, could just tolerate being around...that, not so much.
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LOL, do people really get married just because the sex is mind blowing even if they can't stand the person???? Really?
but i think if i connected with someone on that many other levels, the sex would naturally be better than perhaps their "skills" or "techniques" might indicate. and if the sex isn't that great, then there's probably some deeper compatibility or communication issues at work.
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Yes, this is SO true. Problem is we often delude ourselves into ignoring this part because we don't want to think there might be a real problem with what we want to be a perfect relationship. So, we just tell ourselves we'll work it out later, never really understanding or acknowledging there was a completely different problem and the average/bad sex was just the symptom.
Not enough data here, _avg_.Your lover still 'gets the job done' most of the time, but is far from the best sex you've ever had. Would you marry this person?
It was a generalization, not meant to be applied to to any specific situation. The idea being to gauge 1) for how many people the unspectacular sex would be a deal-breaker and/or 2) whether they would marry at all, if their partner was less-than-ideal.Not enough data here, _avg_
Well then perhaps there is hope...Enthusiasm really makes the difference. Ineptitude can be improved upon. Disinterest or worse a dishonest scripted performance can't.
Not without a lot of talking and sexual practice/experimentation. I wouldn't want to be stuck married to someone who was a boring lover. I'd need proof he was not just willing but physically able to improve.Your lover still 'gets the job done' most of the time, but is far from the best sex you've ever had. Would you marry this person?