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So I recently met this girl on a dating site. I sent her a message, we got to talking and we seem to have amazing chemistry. We get along well and talk all the time and are just great for each other. Well she wanted to meet up for coffee on Saturday and so we did. So I got there and it turns out she is actually overweight. So we had a good time talking and chatting and I left. It turns out the pictures she used on her profile were from last year when she was in shape.
Now normally I don't go after overweight or heavy girls, this is literally a deal breaker for me. But I like her and she likes me and we both have great chemistry as I said before but the only thing holding me back is her being overweight.
I was thinking that maybe I could date her and get her back in shape at the same time so she is healthy againand it works out for everyone. But that would be changing who they are which I don't do, I like the person for who they are, not what i turn them into. But I don't wanna say "Hey look I like you and everything but I think we should stay friends" (Your overweight I don't wanna date you) in shorter terms. Because I wanna be with her but its just her being heavy which is keeping me from going out with her.
Someone said I should just go after someone else. Which they are right but I could be throwing something out the window I might regret. Also breaking up with her because she is overweight sounds shallow (Its probably is shallow). If it wasn't a deal breaker then i wouldn't care but sadly it is. :frown1:
Really I don't know what to do anymore.....:frown1:
What should I do guys? Im literally at a loss here......
Now normally I don't go after overweight or heavy girls, this is literally a deal breaker for me. But I like her and she likes me and we both have great chemistry as I said before but the only thing holding me back is her being overweight.
I was thinking that maybe I could date her and get her back in shape at the same time so she is healthy againand it works out for everyone. But that would be changing who they are which I don't do, I like the person for who they are, not what i turn them into. But I don't wanna say "Hey look I like you and everything but I think we should stay friends" (Your overweight I don't wanna date you) in shorter terms. Because I wanna be with her but its just her being heavy which is keeping me from going out with her.
Someone said I should just go after someone else. Which they are right but I could be throwing something out the window I might regret. Also breaking up with her because she is overweight sounds shallow (Its probably is shallow). If it wasn't a deal breaker then i wouldn't care but sadly it is. :frown1:
Really I don't know what to do anymore.....:frown1:
What should I do guys? Im literally at a loss here......