Monogamous men: do you fantasize about being with others?

[belamifan1]

That's the thing about hooking up bareback, even when you're on prep there's always possiblity of other STDs. Stay safe folks.

 

[bromance85]

I'm really struggling staying monogamous. I feel so tempted, lately. I want new passion and excitement. Am I crazy?

 

[dupont36]

I'm really struggling staying monogamous. I feel so tempted, lately. I want new passion and excitement. Am I crazy?

Definitely not crazy; you're human. Talk it through with your partner. And don't keep secrets---that's a relationship killer.

 

[bromance85]

Definitely not crazy; you're human. Talk it through with your partner. And don't keep secrets---that's a relationship killer.

Why does one feel like this?

 

[Southeasterner]

I have no interest in other men. I am naturally monogamous.

 

[bromance85]

I have no interest in other men. I am naturally monogamous.

That's beautifully put.

 

[Southeasterner]

That's beautifully put.

I try not to judge people, but I know what I want and I don't let myself be influenced by trends or other people's opinions.

If other people do, they are free to do what they want; it´s not my business. I just don't accept people telling me that I'm old-fashioned because, just as they are free to act as they want, I am also free to decide what I do with my life.

 

[bromance85]

I try not to judge people, but I know what I want and I don't let myself be influenced by trends or other people's opinions.

If other people do, they are free to do what they want; it´s not my business. I just don't accept people telling me that I'm old-fashioned because, just as they are free to act as they want, I am also free to decide what I do with my life.

I believe you are morally in the right. I am likewise trying to be. It is sometimes difficult because, well, life is complicated.

 

[Southeasterner]

I believe you are morally in the right. I am likewise trying to be. It is sometimes difficult because, well, life is complicated.

If you have a higher libido or are more curious about seeing other men's bodies, you can look at images or watch erotic videos, since those men are sex workers and therefore don't mind exposing their bodies.

It's quite different from being with someone and fantasizing about being with someone else present in our lives, like a neighbor, a coworker or an acquaintance. I think that's where the situation gets complicated.

Fantasizing about a porn actor or even a Mainstream actor isn't anything of great significance, because we know it won't come true; it's just a momentary fantasy. The problem is starting to fantasize about people who are present in our lives, because it can be the first step towards falling in love and a subsequent betrayal. Everyone has sexual desires and it's something natural, but prudence advises not to play with fire so as not to get burned.

 

[oriwa]

More interesting sex and other stuff in the relationship that annoyed me. And after I found out there are many men who would like to have sex with me (I'm not really self-conscious about my looks), it got really intense and I just wanted to fuck around.

I have no idea, how he found the forgiveness. I'm thankful though. Told him about the other things beside the sex that became dealbreakers for me and he completely changed them. Our relationship is as loving right now as it hasn't been in years.

ohhhh can you tell us what were those dealbreakers??

 

[FrankTO]

I enjoy looking at porn, and so does my husband, but I'm monogamous. I've never had a active sex life; I've only had sex in the context of long-term relationships, because the emotional aspect is paramount - I fell in love with a guy early, in my (adult) teenage years, and plain sex cannot come close to the intensity of that feeling. Never giving that up.

 

[belamifan1]

I enjoy looking at porn, and so does my husband, but I'm monogamous. I've never had a active sex life; I've only had sex in the context of long-term relationships, because the emotional aspect is paramount - I fell in love with a guy early, in my (adult) teenage years, and plain sex cannot come close to the intensity of that feeling. Never giving that up.

Holy shit I'm having this right now. I tried hooking up a couple of times and it felt so empty afterwards. Thought It would be my thing but it didn't. Felt like shit!

 

[peterpeter2019]

I enjoy looking at porn, and so does my husband, but I'm monogamous. I've never had a active sex life; I've only had sex in the context of long-term relationships, because the emotional aspect is paramount - I fell in love with a guy early, in my (adult) teenage years, and plain sex cannot come close to the intensity of that feeling. Never giving that up.

I totally agree!

 

[peterpeter2019]

Holy shit I'm having this right now. I tried hooking up a couple of times and it felt so empty afterwards. Thought It would be my thing but it didn't. Felt like shit!

I can imagine ... had already the same feelings. I need emotions to enjoy any kind of sex. If I have these not, it can be nice - but at the end it's the same as you describe: I feel much more empty than before.

 

[belamifan1]

I can imagine ... had already the same feelings. I need emotions to enjoy any kind of sex. If I have these not, it can be nice - but at the end it's the same as you describe: I feel much more empty than before.

I literally told the guy to hug me from behind cause I got soft. Effection and intimacy is my ultimate turn on.