Needing Female Validation

[MickeyLee]

TG, shut the fuck up.

You peace'd out of RLG by choice. All of this could have been discussed privately. Instead you are making a grand display on a public area of the board.

Like all the grand displays you are doing it for fucking attention. When ya twatish flounce from the group didn't garnish the blow up you wanted you triggered it.

Fucking stop it.

I've never been anything but fair and kind with you. I don't blow smoke up anyone's ass. I am telling you now, no bucking of sisterhood considered, you are going too far and making a fool of yourself. You are personally attacking people with private affairs. You are the fuel to this fire and the only things burning are bridges and long held connections

All this shit. Needs to stop now.

I'll open a group PM to folks if interested but this is all ugly and uncalled for.

It's Halloween but nobody needs this fucking horror show.

To the hen house. I ask you to ignore this thread completely. If you have to, ignore TG and any one else you feel ya need to respond to. Including me.

Those interested in a group talk shoot me a PM

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

After being told what she told me about my baby, she can fuck right the fuck off.

Bridge burnt, ashes pissed on

 

[286798]

No interest in a group chat. And I'm done in this thread. Thx for your efforts, ML.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Last thought: My mom was raised *solely around men.

Excuses are like assholes.

 

[AlteredEgo]

I tried, y'all.

And yes this me bringing it to light some of the goings on around here.

You are a conceited, self-aggrandizing, hack. You couldn't carry a tune if I put it in a bucket for you. Your voice Lesson Studio is a dimly-lit corner of a cluttered living room, with a personal computer microphone that wasn't state-of-the-art 10 years ago. Karaoke in a dive bar is only a gig if you are the KJ. Your photos have more filters than an HVAC supply warehouse. I've tried to be nice because I realize you are going through upheaval. The fact is, you contradict yourself left right and center. It would take someone a lot smarter than you and I combined to keep track of all of your lies. And still the women here tried to be sisterly toward you. Shitshow? Your recent post history is diarrhea. You treat the Women's Issues Forum like your personal blog where you spew us sticky, sick mess comprised of disappointments, cries for attention and help, fantasy about the life you wish you were making, and the poor choices you do make.

A decision had been made to let you do you, to bite tongues, and leave you some semblance of dignity. But as with everything else in your life, you had to run your diarrhea coated fingers through that attempt too. Have the life you deserve, you small, petty liar. On your way to that life, go fuck yourself.

 

[rtg]

She was very supportive in suggesting my jerk off dinner companion had nervous stomach. Sounds supportive as fuck to me. I can imagine if it happened to you and a fellow *sister* said that....youd hand her her ass. We both know it. You hand us our asses for much less damn near daily

I merely suggested that it may be a possibility. If your mind is not even open to consider other possibilities, which are more likely than a guy jerking off twice in 5 minutes to be honest, then that proves that you are delusional.

 

[rtg]

Why am I starting to feel like this thread was started to call me out specifically?

Coulda just tagged a bitch from the jump

And me too. So pathetic.

 

[3282071]

Ahhh yes....the one who seeks to control the whole forum and the words they use.

Im quite happy. Just not so insecure about bucking the sisterhood I was never a part of.

If that chick posted about a jerk off perv and someone said he may have had stomach issues....oh y'all would have been all over that person questioning how that made her feel.

I've been watching this for a long time. This desire to hen peck everyone who doesnt walk lock step with the tribe.

Cant even say the word baby...even if you arent speaking of infants. Cant say phrases like crying over spilled milk because it triggers you. Rather than to seek professional help for what you're going through. You seek to control people and their words. Weve all been in the trenches with you... some of us have been through similar things yet didnt need to have to control all trigger words anyone might say, that dont even have anything to do with intentionally trying to hurt you, that you have to control them.

It makes you all feel better to think I'm unhappy for pointing out the rtg might have issues deciphering good behavior from bad when it comes to men. Makes her cry all night to hear that possibility.

I've seen my life flash before my eyes and I'm living my best life and grabbing life by the horns and rather than you all being happy for a fellow sister....you think it's all made up happiness. I refuse to let life pass me by and do nothing to better myself.

Wallow in your sadness...all of you. You're bringing people down because you refuse to get better or take the advice they keep.giving me for standing up for myself...that advice you all. give me is to get mental help. Been there done that. Maybe you should do it too.

Out of morbid curiosity (and because I've been procrastinating like a MOFO, today), I actually read through a whole bunch of threads - where it was obvious a few posts had been deleted, but I got a general idea of what had happened. I also watched a number of your youtube talk pieces where you described this dinner date. It sounds to me like you presented this young dude with a vision for how the date was going to go based on your obvious sexual prowess (you do like to go into detail...) and his repeated visits to the toilet were probably an expectation that you were going to, well, follow and deliver. I think he was waiting for you, there. And I think you know that and that's pesumedly why you were upset.

IMO, the woman - rtg? suggesting he might have had an upset stomach was being generous and, not at all unkind. Nevertheless, clearly, there are issues at play here that extend well beyond this site but, if it helps, that's my take on it. I will end on a little word of advice: Less IS more. Let guys fill the blanks - god knows, they love nothing more...

 

[twoton]

This is an interesting title for a thread, because that’s what I need. For real. Took me 50 years to understand what my motivation in life is. For some, it’s money. Power. Success. Fame. For me, it’s validation from the women in my life.

And this anonymous forum is the ONLY place I’ll ever admit it, because I am very easily manipulated by women. My greatest motivator is my biggest weakness.

I wish it were money, TBH.

 

[Mule]

Sometimes people go through a tough time, survive, then turn a corner. They find a new raison d'être, carefully make new connections, slowly find trust again and after a while, truly start to thrive. They take their experiences forward as lessons learned: Wisdom to help them find and maintain this better path.

People also try to fake it 'til they make it. They suffer through a trauma, survive, then start doing the things that make it look like they've turned a corner. They act as if they have found a new purpose in their life. They reach out to those that seem interested and take risks when trust isn't fully in place. They take their experiences into these circumstances in a cynical, bitter way, thinking that they've seen and done it all and none of these losers are going to get the best of them again.

Those that follow the first path don't worry too much about how they appear to observers. They just try to do the best they can with what they have and what they know. There is a genuineness about them that is undeniable and very attractive to good-hearted people.

Those that take the second path think they've got 'em all fooled: The damage isn't visible. The insecurity doesn't show through. No-one knows. No-one sees.

Those faking it on the second path are – to anyone with any emotional intelligence – as obvious as the stars on a clear night.

 

[TheRob]

This is an interesting title for a thread, because that’s what I need. For real. Took me 50 years to understand what my motivation in life is. For some, it’s money. Power. Success. Fame. For me, it’s validation from the women in my life.

And this anonymous forum is the ONLY place I’ll ever admit it, because I am very easily manipulated by women. My greatest motivator is my biggest weakness.

I wish it were money, TBH.

I am a big fan of money but it doesn't do that much to motivate me either :O(

 

[1327854]

This is an interesting title for a thread, because that’s what I need. For real. Took me 50 years to understand what my motivation in life is. For some, it’s money. Power. Success. Fame. For me, it’s validation from the women in my life.

And this anonymous forum is the ONLY place I’ll ever admit it, because I am very easily manipulated by women. My greatest motivator is my biggest weakness.

I wish it were money, TBH.

Being afraid of rejection greatly limits the way you live your life. Yeah I know, I'm stating the obvious here, and although people realise how much of a burden it is they still seek validation from the people they want to associate with.

I sincerely hope you find a better motivator in life, take that validation you seek from others away and what are you left with?

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

For the lurkers:

I don't seek validation from anyone but me. I appreciate the friendships I've made here over the years, and I have love for those of you who know I love you... But I don't need you to validate me. That's my job.

I don't need men to tell me I'm beautiful to feel beautiful, I don't need women to tell me I'm popular to feel accepted. All I need is to never stop being true to who the fuck I am. Who I am takes no shit, is honest to a fault, and admits to my own mistakes and flaws. That's why I stay validated, within my own heart, for my own self.

It took a long time to get here. I suffer set backs just like any other human. I ain't giving up for shit.

 

[LaFemme]

I don’t confuse friendship with validation. My self-esteem comes from within. I know who I am. I don’t need external validation to know who I am. I don’t need to prove myself to anyone.

What I need my friends for, men and women, is to keep me grounded. People who care about me have opinions that matter. Whether it’s proof-reading something at work, or whether I overreacted to something. People who know me matter, not the opinions of strangers. They can’t hurt me.

 

[Betty_Cocker]

For the lurkers:

I don't seek validation from anyone but me. I appreciate the friendships I've made here over the years, and I have love for those of you who know I love you... But I don't need you to validate me. That's my job.

I don't need men to tell me I'm beautiful to feel beautiful, I don't need women to tell me I'm popular to feel accepted. All I need is to never stop being true to who the fuck I am. Who I am takes no shit, is honest to a fault, and admits to my own mistakes and flaws. That's why I stay validated, within my own heart, for my own self.

It took a long time to get here. I suffer set backs just like any other human. I ain't giving up for shit.

Pretty much me.

Why I come and go so randomly. I'm happy and secure with myself. Validation comes from within. I'm not perfect. Never will be. But I accept my faults as part of what makes me who I am.

And... never ever give up.

 

[TheRob]

I don’t confuse friendship with validation. My self-esteem comes from within. I know who I am. I don’t need external validation to know who I am. I don’t need to prove myself to anyone.

What I need my friends for, men and women, is to keep me grounded. People who care about me have opinions that matter. Whether it’s proof-reading something at work, or whether I overreacted to something. People who know me matter, not the opinions of strangers. They can’t hurt me.

I think this is most likely ideal but I think a lot of people have trouble with this on both ends, not over valuing strangers opinions AND thinking any criticism from a friend is an attack

 

[deleted848353]

I've never needed or wanted validation from anyone but if I get it unwarranted and depending on who's given it then I chose to take it

 

[TheRob]

why would you take unwarrented validation

 

[deleted848353]

why would you take unwarrented validation

Why is it ur business

 

[TheRob]

Why is it ur business

because you shared it on a public forum, but I'm sure you knew that