Needing Female Validation

[ChanelleNo5]

I've thought you were a sweetheart from day one, FWIW

Thanks TNJ, you too!

 

[MrsTomt]

As someone who is more of a "lurker". I can see both sides. Everyone wants to be liked regardless of gender. I'm kind of a candy ass I guess. I'm naive and think everyone should be here for a distraction from the day to day monotony. I mean....if it weren't for certain women here I would be a little uncomfortable. But on the other hand everyone is here to get validation through likes etc...I say to each their own....kind of a cop out but I'm sticking with it.

 

[Tomt]

Well said babe

 

[Spartan727]

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Funny how that pup knows how to position itself in that chair.

 

[TheRob]

I would be lying if I said I don't care what they think of me or that it doesn't bother me to not be accepted. It is frustrating though when I make an effort to be friends and I am so quickly dismissed/ghosted. I like to think I am very friendly even though I may come off as a bit shy IRL, but I'm often just kinda the one trying to push myself into the circle but usually get pushed out.

Being in a new area it has been exceedingly difficult to make new friends. I don't know if it is this city or what, but it seems like it's members only.

I know I am a little strange, and that's ok. It's just that interactions on the internet would have me believing that oddballs are accepted more easily than they really are.

if you have the financial and time resources I would suggest martial arts, in any good academy you will make some fast friends that way

 

[TheRob]

I'm kind of a candy ass I guess.

it certainy looks "sweet" to me )

 

[GorillaHorse]

If you only look at yourself through a mirror, you will never see yourself through the eyes of others.

When you look into the abyss, the abyss looks into you.

Women are (over) half the population.

I'm not a woman, but I would never deem an entire group as unworthy of my attention.

If you are not seeking validation, why do you continue to draw eyes to yourself?

 

[GorillaHorse]

I would be lying if I said I don't care what they think of me or that it doesn't bother me to not be accepted. It is frustrating though when I make an effort to be friends and I am so quickly dismissed/ghosted. I like to think I am very friendly even though I may come off as a bit shy IRL, but I'm often just kinda the one trying to push myself into the circle but usually get pushed out.

Being in a new area it has been exceedingly difficult to make new friends. I don't know if it is this city or what, but it seems like it's members only.

I know I am a little strange, and that's ok. It's just that interactions on the internet would have me believing that oddballs are accepted more easily than they really are.

As someone who finds it hard to make new friends, allow me to shed some light on your struggles.

I find myself too full of things already going on to make room for another friend/acquaintance/bud/fam/cuz/whatever. When you are actively seeking this from other people, you have to almost double or triple the effort you feel they are putting in.

Never be afraid to put yourself out there. You are beautiful inside and out, even if you are an oddball wacko goofy weirdo, you will find your crowd and those that like you, love you, and can't stand to be without you.

 

[ChanelleNo5]

@GorillaHorse that was sweet. Thank you. ❤

 

[seventiesdemon]

I dont relate to women I believe because I wasnt exposed to them being raised in a household of 5 men and no women. Do you, as a woman, desire to be accepted by other women or groups of women? Does it bother you when you aren't accepted by them? I am not bothered by it personally but i do find it awkward from time to time to not understand them.

And yes this me bringing it to light some of the goings on around here.

I was the middle son of 5. 2 older sisters, a younger brother and sister.

I find in life that we grow up........it's not only they accept you, it's you accept them. Either way, you find your own path. Because we all become responsible, we all become big people....then we become old people, then we die.

We all need to become comfortable with ourselves, for others to accept who we are.

We can only control our own lives, emotions and life.

Just accept who you are, if others don't, it makes them no lesser person than you are.....just that they are different too.

In the end we die. Never waste the time you have"proving or substantiating" to others who you are, if they can't spend the time understanding..

 

[AlteredEgo]

You brought the word idiot into the discussion. You admitted to having left a nonsense reply after not reading the post you were replying to. My words were something like:" I don't even feel the need to call you an idiot at this poin

False. You called the entire group of us, even those who were not participants in the discussion idiots when you had your little titty attack in the private group forum. You said words to the effect that no one here could provide you with an intellectual discussion, implying none of us could ever be a peer to you.

I had decided to let it lie. I also didn't have time for it. After people desperately wanted to pull me back into the discussion I made it clear that I would only return to the thread in the open forum. After a couple of days, when I had time, I returned to the same repetitions as before. Nothing was dissected. I would not even call it a discussion.

The one thing I can least abide is a useless liar.

You asked me, quite reasonably I thought, to return the discussion to the open forum. While I waited, deciding whether or not it was a discussion I even wanted to have, you began baiting me in the private forum, and then had the gall to complain that WE kept summoning YOU back there. This was not a few days later. This was a matter of HOURS after you asked me to return the discussion to the open forum.

I had suspected there was a deeper issue, that the real problem wasn't the topic, but a personal trigger. That's why I was carefully deciding how I wished to proceed. But you played the part of petulant princess and I decided not to engage at all, which was intended as a courtesy to you.

Now. If I had not considered you a friendly, I'd have delivered a verbal evisceration on the spot. Fucks with me not. I'm known for it. But I do not do friendly fire. I take my time. I find the gentlest way. What you are experiencing now is the last shred of my good will. Everything I understand about you is why I will henceforth ignore you, rather than feed you to the evil shredder that lives in my brain. You're welcome.

Around the time I called shenanigans on your puerile mini-fit, you went off the rails, became inappropriate, and all but shit the virtual bed at the LPSG slumber party. You proved yourself untrustworthy, and were temporarily booted from the group forum. It was meant to be temporary, but here's the thing. You were handing out disdain like it was Halloween candy, so nobody wanted you back.

Oh, that's not entirely true. I advocated for your return. Mea culpa. I soon saw the light.

One of the most bizarre details in all of this is that I was invited to appear before a 'cloak and dagger' secret jury.
I was allowed to choose one person to be present to have my back.
Why the hell would that be necessary unless I was expecting to get chivved in the showers, or dragged away to the gulag?

Good gravy. Paranoid much? I was already on that list, and even though you were being a jackass, I had your back. It's why I was invited. Your behavior was so contrary to what I had come to expect, that I was genuinely concerned for you. You have been through a lot. I thought maybe something was new, and worse. I still do. I just don't care enough about your well-being anymore to pursue it.

Ain't nobody got time for fake-ass drama bombs and their hystrionics. Should have known from your name what a delicate, dramatic flower you really are. I regret encountering you at all. You'll not likely hear from me again.

I hope you will be well.

 

[AlteredEgo]

But on the other hand everyone is here to get validation through likes etc...

Everyone? Ya sure?

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Everyone? Ya sure?

Yeah, I couldn't give two fucks about receiving another "like" anywhere on the internet ever again.

If I woke up and saw my "likes" had all been removed I'd just be like hi huh... Well I still have shit to say. I'm not here to be liked. I'm here because I found people *I* like. Y'all stole my little heart.

 

[LaFemme]

Yeah, I couldn't give two fucks about receiving another "like" anywhere on the internet ever again.

If I woke up and saw my "likes" had all been removed I'd just be like hi huh... Well I still have shit to say. I'm not here to be liked. I'm here because I found people *I* like. Y'all stole my little heart.

Same here. I only use ‘likes’ to show I’ve read and support the message, not necessarily validate the person. I know that there are actually ‘like’ farmers on the site, so it means something to someone. Too bad I couldn’t monetize them!

 

[MickeyLee]

I joined and reached 10,000 posts long before "likes" were even a thing on LPSG. I'm here cuz of a few handful of folks I completely adore.

"Likes" can be nice when you post from a vulnerable place and get support from the folks you care for.

 

[Nexolaris]

Same here. I only use ‘likes’ to show I’ve read and support the message, not necessarily validate the person. I know that there are actually ‘like’ farmers on the site, so it means something to someone. Too bad I couldn’t monetize them!

Is there something like a "Like-farming 101"?

Also, I find likes useful as a form of feedback to see what kind of content was actually enjoyed. It's interesting when a post with gifs of some dudes' ass I posted gets more than 80 likes, or a gif of another guy at a urinal gets more than 60 likes. Guess that fits in with the results of Mr. LPSG's survey regarding reasons why people visit this forum!

 

[LaFemme]

Is there something like a "Like-farming 101"?

Also, I find likes useful as a form of feedback to see what kind of content was actually enjoyed. It's interesting when a post with gifs of some dudes' ass I posted gets more than 80 likes, or a gif of another guy at a urinal gets more than 60 likes. Guess that fits in with the results of Mr. LPSG's survey regarding reasons why people visit this forum!

I don’t really get it, but apparently if you repost or move your pics, they appear back on the front page again, hence getting more ‘likes’. Farmers rejoice!

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I joined and reached 10,000 posts long before "likes" were even a thing on LPSG. I'm here cuz of a few handful of folks I completely adore.

Yeah, I was on hiatus for a few months, and when I logged back in it had changed. It was kinda cool to have a new way to give a quick nod to someone, but it didn't give me any motivation to try and harvest them like some kind of digital hoarder.

 

[AlteredEgo]

I joined and reached 10,000 posts long before "likes" were even a thing on LPSG. I'm here cuz of a few handful of folks I completely adore.

"Likes" can be nice when you post from a vulnerable place and get support from the folks you care for.

This was my experience, and is most of how I feel about "likes". I am happy about the ability to give likes. It's a small, "I see you. I hear you." Very handy when I don't have anything to say, but want someone to know I appreciate their content. It was something some folks joked about getting to do some day. And then it happened. It's neat, but it is far from my reason to be here.

 

[MisterB]

This was my experience, and is most of how I feel about "likes". I am happy about the ability to give likes. It's a small, "I see you. I hear you." Very handy when I don't have anything to say, but want someone to know I appreciate their content. It was something some folks joked about getting to do some day. And then it happened. It's neat, but it is far from my reason to be here.

I share your thoughts. The part I bolded is especially germane to me.

I will usually, though, hit the "Like" and "Reply" buttons for those posts I really like/enjoy and tell the writer how much I appreciated the post. It's kinda like me pressing the "Love" button if we had one.