open relationship

[EllieP]

Sounds like a swinger type relationship to me. Perhaps the woman's husband is the type of guy who gets off watching his wife with other men. I don't agree with this relationship being half-opened since he does have the option to have sex with other women but chooses not to for whatever reason. One thing I don't understand is why the woman's stories of her lifestyle would make you dislike her though.

I guess I didn't explain everything as I didn't want to belabor the point, but she basically told me that I was woefully inexperienced and would never truly achieve absolute pleasure unless I had multiple partners, preferably at the same time. There's a certain "ick" factor there for me. I'm sure for some people it's ok.

The way she described her husband was pretty deplorable, too. She did say he wasn't fond of "stepping out," as she put it, but was OK with her doing it.

Doesn't really jive with me.

 

[D_Kitten_Kaboodle]

See, there was a long time of sharing of fantasies, so it wasn't out of the blue. There was years of trust, and respect. The fact that it was his idea, not for HIM to play around but HER is very soothing. Like...HE is the one who has most to loose, but he is willing to go there in an effort to increase BOTH there pleasures. SO his voicing the idea would not, if I was FP, cause me any discomfort.

Nico is very insightful... if only more people were open minded and less judgmental.

Actually, the first time he brought up the subject, I laughed .... I thought he was kidding... (you know, fantasy... but it was outside the bedroom). So it took him a few times to convince me that he felt this would really be a good thing for us. It wasn't as if he said "Hey I think you should fool around" and I was "OK, let's go!!" No, it was a slow process that took time to think and talk through. It was several conversations where we discussed every possible issue.

I wasn't uncomfortable at all with the idea as we began to discuss it and I realized he was serious. This was something that would enhance our relationship... and it has. My husband is amazing, I've said it before and I'll always say it.

 

[sbat]

Um ok except the woman Elle was talking about wasn't hurting anyone though.

It does sound like Elle perceived that woman's characterization of her own behavior as hurtful to her husband.