I've been with my bf for about 4 years now and it's kinda open; basically we had the whole 'views on sex' discussion and our views are very, very different. My bf was brought up in an Irish catholic family so family and monogomy are very important to him; unfortuantely due to the way I grew up and being sexually-abused for a few years etc, I have trouble attaching strong emotions to sex and see it as much more of a fun hobby. In the end we agreed to disagree and left it at that; my bf knows that sometimes I get a little sexually frustrated with him, he is top only and I'm a firm believer in 'don't give it if you can't take it', plus he's a little bit of a prude lol.
So now I occasionally get off with other guys, he does know I do it as he's seen me do it a few times in clubs when I'm just ever so slightly shit-faced, but it's one of those things where if you stare at it long enough you can pretend it's not there; we do seem to still be going strong though. I love the man to bits and can't imagine not living with him and sharing my life with him and he seems to feel the same.
I just don't think that sex is everything there is to a relationship, and that if your partner doesn't always satisfy you sexually, that it doesn't mean you should repress your sexuality or that you shouldn't bo going out with them

Maybe our relationship is more 'ajar' than 'open' but as far as I'm concerned it's just a way of dealing with one of our problems
