Polygamy

[ZOS23xy]

PS-
there is no law preventing as many folks as choose to from living together... no law preventing them from punching out babies, no law preventing them from entering into contractual inheritance and co-ownership of property.

With my wife we've lived with another man, another woman, but the times were brief, and the sense of ego was that the other person was "extra", and they wanted a core relationship and not be one of the hangers on.

Perhaps this is why the polygamists wind up with the pen and paddock lifestyles, and the women glassy eyed and vacant...there would be no way an informed individual would go along with it for any length of time.

I've known of a few long lasting triads, but they tend to go bust after about three years.

 

[DC_DEEP]

I'm still having difficulty understanding why anyone thinks they have, or wants to have, veto power over the marriage rights of adults whom they have never met.

 

[powerbook06]

Very interesting thread here. :biggrin1:

I would like first to make a comment about some study conducted in Europe I think. The study showed that in the first 5 (or 7, I don't remember) years of marriage, around 70% of men and women have cheated at least once on their partner. The percentage is absolutely ludicrous and of course it attracted the interest of specialists. Psychologists and sociologists tried to understand the rationale behind this fact and one of the main reasons they proposed is this: humans are by nature polygamists. Now this is probably different from the issue at hand here, but there you have it.

Now a psychological twist, interesting for the people reading the thread I hope. I have a friend (woman) who could not establish a steady relation and she remains single. She wants however too much to have children. More than having a husband or a boyfriend. She told me she would even do it with some friend, with no obligation from his part. Only requirement is to get married with him and soon divorced if he does not want further involvement, so that there is a legal father for the child. She gave me some clear hints that she points to me (although I am not attracted at all by her, but she does not know not care, besides with today's medical techniques the point is moot), but this is impossible in our society since I am already married. Independently, during some unrelated discussion, my wife told me something that almost made fall from my chair: if you wish you can have children with other women too! Now put the pieces of the puzzle together...

 

[B_BeautifulDark]

I think these sorts of relationships should be allowed to exist.

(Sorry, I used the search function to find the subject matter and posted on an old thread).

 

[nakedone]

Marriages like these are based on the fact that men want several women to fuck. It seems to be far more practical for a woman to have several men to fuck her.

 

[freyasworld]

Great idea, I'd marry a decorator, a plumber, a chef and a hairdresser!

hell yes, builder, lawyer, surgeon, banker.....as well!

 

[LGX]

I agree. It is a practice of backward cultures and/or religions and it should not be allowed in the West. Some people like to pretend that all practices are equal and equally good but I don't think that is true at all. A Pakistani peasant family marrying off a 12 year old girl to to her cousin who already has three other wives is NOT equal to other marriages practices, neither are the practices of some strange cults that describe themselves as Christian.

Choice is all very well but you have to balance individual choice with the welfare of other people involved, such as children born in such families, young brides who are often coerced into such marriages etc. Sometimes people seem to not consider the effects, only the supposed rights of people to do whatever they want. Gay marriage in my opinion is different because there aren't usually the same impacts on others.

If people want multiple living and sexual partners that is one thing, I don't think the law should interfere with that, but I don't think it should recognise it as marriage.

What's the difference? I'm sorry, but I'd rather see bill gates with two wives loving them than a guy that works at McDonalds shacking up with 10 girls a week and at least two of them get pregnant. Screw safe sex.

 

[helgaleena]

I think these sorts of relationships should be allowed to exist.

(Sorry, I used the search function to find the subject matter and posted on an old thread).

That is perfectly fine to do!

And such topics never go out of style. The question of legality versus natural proclivity of our species has been 'spiced' by the recent book on the subject, Sex at Dawn.

What is preferable, large scale tacit 'cheating' or codified polyamory?

 

[ManchesterTom]

President Zuma of South Africa, has a whole bunch of wives.

 

[pain4anangel]

As a Domme, I have definitely discussed having more than one sub live with me. My ideal situation is two male bisexual subs in a female lead household. It is possible to have this type of relationship and I know a few households that live this way. It seems to work well for them. As long as everyone is in agreement and jealousy would not be an issue, I think it's a great option. If the roles were reversed and I was sharing a man with other women...yeah, that wouldn't fly with me lol.

 

[sxjTheFirst]

I think just as when homosexuality was not widely accepted the general public was exposed only to the seedy side of it we usually end up hearing only the bad side of multiple marriage. If more people come out and talk openly about living with multiple partners we will get a better idea of what really happens in such relationships.

BTW historically most non-Christian religions have not specifically discouraged polygamy but what's interesting is even with that sanction most people were monogamous.

 

[helgaleena]

I think just as when homosexuality was not widely accepted the general public was exposed only to the seedy side of it we usually end up hearing only the bad side of multiple marriage. If more people come out and talk openly about living with multiple partners we will get a better idea of what really happens in such relationships.

BTW historically most non-Christian religions have not specifically discouraged polygamy but what's interesting is even with that sanction most people were monogamous.

But sjx, could it be that most simply could not afford more than one spouse?

 

[sxjTheFirst]

But sjx, could it be that most simply could not afford more than one spouse?

That's definitely a possibility. Most kings did have multiple queens.

 

[HiddenLacey]

I don't see why the government gets to decide what makes a legal marriage between people. I have no issues with people living with or marrying the same sex or more than one person. As long as you are over the age of 18 I think you should be able to make that decision for yourself and your marriage should be recognised. If I want to be with more than one person or someone of the same sex I'm going to do it regardless of what other people think or say.

 

[sxjTheFirst]

I don't see why the government gets to decide what makes a legal marriage between people. I have no issues with people living with or marrying the same sex or more than one person. As long as you are over the age of 18 I think you should be able to make that decision for yourself and your marriage should be recognised. If I want to be with more than one person or someone of the same sex I'm going to do it regardless of what other people think or say.

That doesn't sound very submissive

 

[HiddenLacey]

That doesn't sound very submissive

You can't assume anything by a name... after all "whats in a name?"

PS... submissives still have minds of their own, maybe your thinking of a slave?:tongue:

 

[D_Cock_Hudson]

President Zuma of South Africa, has a whole bunch of wives.

I don't think his private life should in any way be considered as a role model.

I am also concerned that it is always one man with many wives and never the reverse. Seems a way to repress women.

 

[The Dragon]

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I would be more than happy having more than one man in my life but having them under the one roof one might expect that there would a testosterone driven pissing contest at some point.

It's a fair point. I've played with the idea in my head from time to time and I think that competition issues would certainly raise their head if all parties were strictly heterosexual. There would always be at least one feeling left out or not as included. If one or more of the multiple gender had a lower sex drive competition would be less of a factor.

I think if the multiple spouses were bisexual then they would also be bonded with each other and feel less need to compete for the single spouses time and attention. All parties would then have the variety of sexual and emotional partners within the bounds of the relationship.

Still not perfect, as with a group of best friends there will always be two who more closely aligned than the others at any one time and the dynamic shifts frequently, but I think a more equitable arrangement.

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I was thinking about this thread, Gillette and this post struck me anew.

This ^^^ is what I feel is my personal comfort level but I guess I was looking at the whole polygamy household wondering how I would make it work with Dominant men and the simple answer is it wouldn't.
I have come to the realization I can't live with (an)other Dominant(s) under my roof.
My men would all have to be submissive and I would have to be undisputed head of the household.
I really don't share power well at all and I don't like being contradicted and I don't like power plays that undermine my authority.

I have no issue with my men being Bi-sexual at all just so long as it doesn't get in the way of the rotation through my bed.

If I was to get involved with another Dominant I think he'd need his own household so I wouldn't feel like he was invading my space.
This goes double if he was one of those very rare unicorns - a Dominant, alpha male that actually made me feel submissive.
My own submissives watching me being dominated would put far too much pressure on my power dynamic and they'd start to naturally look to Him for direction.

I have a bit of an issue with the assumption that the Dominant or Head of the house being the the chief bread winner or supporter.
For my mind ALL household members should be employed and contribute to the household expenses.
Being part of a Poly household doesn't excuse anyone for being a mooch.

 

[Hoss]

IFor my mind ALL household members should be employed and contribute to the household expenses.
Being part of a Poly household doesn't excuse anyone for being a mooch.

regarding this item, there are contributes to a home apart from monetary. If a member in the family washs clothes, bed linens, cleans the home, prepares meals, tends the children, that is way to give to the household without formal employment or paycheck and the member isn't in that case a mooch and is actually giving a great deal. 8 paychecks, will not raiise a child or mop the floor.

 

[Hoss]

as to polygamy, my biggest issue is that it's 1 sided and is usually men with several wives and rarely a woman with several husbands, this inequity needs fixing. I can't say I'd be able to handle life in a polygamist unit, either as 1 of many husbands or as husband with many wives.