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No, i don't think its racism :/

Racism is hating an entire race or thinking one race is superior to another or believing that race plays into whatever "superior" or "inferior" traits someone has. What you're talking about is prefference and its perfectly fine for people to be that way. Me for example, i will date anyone regardless of race but i will more than likely marry another white person (mostly someone else of germanic stock) simply because i want my children to look like me or my parents. There's nothing racist about that. Also people who say that "Were all the human race" and that there is no races are delluding themselves. There are clear biological differences between groups of people just as there is with different breeds of cats & dogs. For you to ignore all of this and ignore those differences....well thats just PC bs. Were all apart of the same species that does not mean we are all homogeneous.

I would have to disagree. Alot of what people deem as a preference comes from what is considered to be more "preferential" or more "superior" than what the person would find acceptable.When it comes to race, alot of it has to do with just that. There are attractive people of every race. But I have seen people turned down because of their race, for an alternative that was basically the same color..ie black v/s some Hispanics. When a person says, I am not attracted to black for example, what is it they are referring to considering blacks come in all shades including that of middle eastern and Hispanics. When a person says" im not into Asians", the same thing applies. What is it about their human qualities that make them unacceptable to the person applying the judgement? Your reference to biological differences, what would those be? I understand your point, but I also think we have the ability to change our preferences when we are willing to broaden our minds and look at what we have in common . The same applies to age, culture, weight etc. Again, I have traveled alot of places, and the preference issue is more prevalent in the US.You rarely see dating sites abroad where people go as to say for example " Not into anyone over 25, no blks no Asians, and fats". Only here does it seem more acceptable to single out people and define what is considered to be attractive and acceptable.
 

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I would have to disagree. Alot of what people deem as a preference comes from what is considered to be more "preferential" or more "superior" than what the person would find acceptable.When it comes to race, alot of it has to do with just that. There are attractive people of every race. But I have seen people turned down because of their race, for an alternative that was basically the same color..ie black v/s some Hispanics. When a person says, I am not attracted to black for example, what is it they are referring to considering blacks come in all shades including that of middle eastern and Hispanics. When a person says" im not into Asians", the same thing applies. What is it about their human qualities that make them unacceptable to the person applying the judgement? Your reference to biological differences, what would those be? I understand your point, but I also think we have the ability to change our preferences when we are willing to broaden our minds and look at what we have in common . The same applies to age, culture, weight etc. Again, I have traveled alot of places, and the preference issue is more prevalent in the US.You rarely see dating sites abroad where people go as to say for example " Not into anyone over 25, no blks no Asians, and fats". Only here does it seem more acceptable to single out people and define what is considered to be attractive and acceptable.


You don't get it though. You being attracted to every group is still your prefference. Not everyone finds everyone aestheticaly beautiful and you just have to accept that. Some people aren't attracted to their own groups and others prefer to stay within their own groups. Ive seen Black guys who preffered non black women. Ive seen Italians blow off other Italian girls in favour of Swedish girls and the same vice versa. Different strokes for different folks. Also comparing other countries to the US just doesn't work, you're comparing populations where the ethnic population of that country is around 98% to a country like America who has NO ethnic majority. White is not really an ethnic group if anything its an umbrella term. Even all the whites in America come from all corners of Europe. You cannot compare America to more homogeneous nations of Europe & Asia.
 
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It's okay to have a preference, but is it necessary to express it in a personal ad for all the world to see?

If they found your personal ad, how would you explain to your overweight friends that your personal ad says you think overweight people are ugly?

If they found your personal ad, how would you explain to your (insert color here) friends that your personal ad says you think (insert color here) people are ugly?

The internet is a visual medium. If you don't find someone attractive for whatever reason, just click the delete button.
 
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Maybe not thinking they are ugly.....but lets face it, if you are black, you are NOT going to be attracted to every black chick... same with white guys......or whatever. Because I am a man, I am visual.....I know what i like.... My wife is black...but my first two GF's were white. I am still friends with my first GF after 41 years. Go figure right? I know i prefer white women who are either have pale blond (scandinavian types) with pale blue eyes, or dark skinned Italians....with Black hair (I love long straight black hair) and green eyes. I love black women.....if they are tall and shapely...some are too big...in the ass department. I really like Spanish chicks...especially the darker ones....Indian chicks...oh yeah....see a pattern here? Am I a racist....I used to think I was....but now I dont know.what do YOU think?
 

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Maybe not thinking they are ugly.....but lets face it, if you are black, you are NOT going to be attracted to every black chick... same with white guys......or whatever. Because I am a man, I am visual.....I know what i like.... My wife is black...but my first two GF's were white. I am still friends with my first GF after 41 years. Go figure right? I know i prefer white women who are either have pale blond (scandinavian types) with pale blue eyes, or dark skinned Italians....with Black hair (I love long straight black hair) and green eyes. I love black women.....if they are tall and shapely...some are too big...in the ass department. I really like Spanish chicks...especially the darker ones....Indian chicks...oh yeah....see a pattern here? Am I a racist....I used to think I was....but now I dont know.what do YOU think?

There's a reason why these guys are featured on this website:

Douchebags of Grindr

Based on your all-inclusive preference for women of all different shapes, sizes, and colors, I doubt you would be featured on the straight equivalent of the grindr douchebags, blendr. Blendr - Social networking just got social.

By the way, I agree with Lilly Tomlin when she said the word douchebag is offensive to women.
 

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I have a hierarchy of preferences in a partner

The way someone expresses their humanity
The way someone expresses their sexuality

I stop there because I have a lot of experience with every race and every type of look, and if this has taught me anything, it is that they are of no significance when compared to the above.

I get the impression that a lot of people's so called "preferences" are based on fantasy rather than wide experience or that they are too shallow to move beyond the ephemeral and skin deep. I don't include genitals, because, like size queens, I need a woman with a cunt that can fuck a big cock hard. There is certainly no racial inclusion or exclusion to that IME.
 

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Preference is not [necessarily] racism. Prejudice, yes, but It really depends on the context.
plus, proper manners are a good move. don't ever dehumanize.

Sometimes we should really ask ourselves why we think we're inclined to find a member of a certain ethnicity sexually unattractive in all cases. You absolutely cannot predefine a person based upon their ethnicity. Everyone is different. don't be close-minded.
Asking yourself the tough questions is a good way to keep learning about who you really are.




and Additionally,

Being close-minded is a tragedy of the close-minded. I could care less if you'd rather live in a fantasy world.

...and I've seen a whole lotta people on grindr that don't have no business being picky. :p lol
 
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Again, says the individual whose username mentions ethnicity/skin color. :rolleyes: Clearly ethnicity/skin color means something to YOU. As I said before, there are ways a person may or may not be racist/discriminating against others. Not everyone who has a preference is a racist. Go figure
 
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As another Asian woman, I think I understand what Fade might mean when she used the word "annoying."

The "annoying" part of being attractive to men with Asian fetishes are the racial stereotypes. For example, some men have thought that I'll be submissive because they believe that Asian women are like that in relationships, that's when I feel like a preference crosses the line over to racist thinking. If I feel like a man not only likes how I look but also likes the fact that he thinks that if we marry that he'll get his way all the time because he assumes that I was raised that way, that's when I feel less like I was chosen as an individual as a partner for him and more like he simply approves of the stereotypes applied to Asian women by narrow minded people. Likewise I think it's a preference if someone finds dark skin attractive and loves a partner with lots of junk in the trunk, but it crosses over the line to racism if someone thinks that black men should talk like Chris Rock but not like Neil de Grasse Tyson, or vice versa.

I don't feel like I'm explaining what I mean very well. I'm trying to say that there's nothing wrong with preferences when it comes to physical appearance, but it gets more complicated if you're also applying racial stereotypes to the person that you're attracted to.
 
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That's actually an interesting observation, the whole "applying racial stereotypes to the person you're attracted to." I read and hear of it, but I never actually really thought about it until now. I for one tend to have a preference for people of mixed races (any race), blacks, and Asians. But it's just what I find myself attracted to. But at the same time it's not make or break for me. When I do get attracted to someone, I could care less about their race. I often find that when I'm talking to my friends or family about a person, male or female, that I'm talking to or involved with, race hardly ever comes into my mind until they ask me. I've also never had a stereotype that my mind goes to with a particular race, whether physical stereotypes or personality. So I think that's why it's a lil' surprising to read that, but at the same time I have in fact been around people who are interested in certain races because of stereotypes. One particular friend was only into black men because of the stereotypes of their dicks.
 

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The definition of racism is the absolute dislike (bordering on hatred) and/or intolerance of people of another race. Saying you prefer to date white guys (if you're white for example) is not an example of racism. It's a simple preference. Like saying I'm only interested in blonds or twinks or bears. Some guys prefer Asian, some prefer black. What's in a name? Seriously. If a black (or white or Asian) guy is offended by this, we have more problems than we care to admit.

Just to add: I've seen profiles on Gridr that say "no race issues but prefer white" written by a white guy. I don't think that's racism in any way, shape or form.
Sorry but that is a form of racism. Why does someone 'prefer' to date one ethnic group over another? I myself am attracted to women from all over the world and would happily date anyone, regardless of race or cultural differences....... or skin color. For people who can't get over that, it is a form of ignorance at its base level. You can make all the excuses you like, it is what it is.

It's like the gay marriage opponents who say they don't have anything against gays, but marriage should be between man and woman. Well, they do have something against gays.
 
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I think if i were totally honest with myself and others, as i said i am colored and far prefer whites, always have.. i think i could say to such an extent that it could be termed racist, towards blacks or coloreds..just dont feel they are at all appealing, sexually or otherwise, tuff talk no doubt, but the way it is / has been

a colored person, partially prejudiced towards colored / black persons...not to the extent of hate, but certainly could be termed a form of racism not a happy thing to admit
and i will say i am quite sure there are quite a few of us out there, just as there may be whites agin whites, similar, but not in a racial hate sense.

as a child and teen i know we 'joked' re black maoris, our friends....geuss i had a little more inner meaning than i let on about it, in all honesty

Also there have been quite a few people in my life who were 'intrigued' re my beautiful colour .. polynesians tend to have a quite ideal golden brownish complexion .. exudes a healthy skin, plenty of english commented on this on my travels, the pale pathetic sickly white skin , they would openly say ( that i loved, secretly hahha still shy and not so much out)
Quite a few ( friends in NZ as a youth) made no bones about being happy to be my friend because of my coloring, not sexual .. unforunately ha
plus i know i was more popular in that sense, than say full Chinese or Indian friends, prevalent races of the 60s, with Dutch / Yugoslav / Dalmatians about the only main ethnics at the time (minimal Italians / Greeks etc, not encouraged to immigrate to NZ apparently) lumped in with white english etc...europeans or pakehas, as Maori call them

and to break the racism talk
THIS
what all Kiwis were brought up on ..at the end of the new thing, TV broadcating shutdown at 11pm or whatever ha
imagine all creeds. colours watching this as youngsters..............late 70s/80s, perhaps earlier?

Goodnight Kiwi - Television | NZ On Screen
 

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I don't think it's racist. I believe being racist is disrespecting another individual because he/she belongs to a different race/has a different cultural background than yours. I also believe being racist is having prejudices about a person because of his/her skincolor or race.

If you don't find another race attractive, it doesn't mean you think less of them as people. It doesn't mean you're assuming things about them just "by the looks of it". It just means that you're physically more attracted to someone with a different race. It doesn't have anything to do with respect...

To me, that's an important difference.
 

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who cares? people discriminate. its what groups thrive on. if you dont want to date a black guy, then dont - someone who does will. and it wont make her/him any better a person for doing so. aslong as those preferences arent made the rule, then its not a problem.
 

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Again, says the individual whose username mentions ethnicity/skin color. :rolleyes: Clearly ethnicity/skin color means something to YOU. As I said before, there are ways a person may or may not be racist/discriminating against others. Not everyone who has a preference is a racist. Go figure

Wow man, where did that come from?? The guy simply says " Well put, " and thats your response?? Just because someone gives a physical description of themselves in a screen name, has nothing to do with whether or not they are attracted to one type of people or not.You are right, not everyone who has a "preference" is racist, though I do think the term racist is extreme. But even in making that argument, does not negate the fact that many who do have certain preference do so because of their own prejudices. I think we tend to want to paint the subject either or when its actually alittle bit of both.
 

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it's not racist at all it's just ultra liberals getting on their knees to suck off a special interest group because they believe it makes themselves look progressive and martyrs in the eyes of aforementioned special interest group. It reeks of self-loathing. Instead they are the ones who are narrow minded and bigoted to actually believe that everyone should think a certain way even when it comes to who another person finds attractive. That if that person doesn't find someone attractive based on racial features and preferences they must be in fact a racist. Thick skull logic at it's best.

One night me and some friends were watching chris rock on tv go on for 5 minutes about why black men are attracted to white women and how black women hate that because not only do they lose out on black men and the possible relationships with them to white women but they also lose out because they aren't attracted in the same way to white men. The audience, mostly black cheered and laughed, black women were seen nodding their heads, "yes, that's true."

a white male in the room remarked well that's not the entire picture as it's a two way street and that white men aren't, for the most part, attracted to black women. That when they are it's usually because they have white feature like, halle berrie (who btw has a white mother). That statement brought a rise of ire from a black couple in the room and they said his statement was racist. It got so heated that it almost erupted into a fistfight with the black male seemingly defending his girlfriend's honor because he believed the white guy called her and black women ugly. Meanwhile we had just listened to chris rock rip white men and everyone thought that was hysterical including the black couple.

Did you get that? :rolleyes:

I didn't say a word, mainly because the black girl, who was a rather big girl, was extremely angry (an understatement), on her feet screaming at the white guy, and i felt she would have beat my diminutive little white ass into the carpet. But what i was thinking was, the black couple are hypocrites and live in a fantasy world of double standards and absolution.

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