Sleeping Together

[MagicTongue]

I hate sleeping with other people. I tried for a really long time to like it because it seemed like the normal thing to do, but after many years I've realized that I don't like it. I get hot really easily, I can't roll over the way I want, I can't stand snoring or loud breathing, and it's just all around uncomfortable for me.

I've been married for 6 years now, and we'll cuddle and snuggle and then retire to our own beds, which are in the same room. It seems to work out well for us, much better than the sleepless nights I had before I let myself admit that I don't sleep well with a partner.

I'm not 100% sure that it's related, but I also have great difficulty sleeping in hotels, etc. and generally have weird sleeping habits and have sleep apnea.

Everyone is different. Maybe there's something in your subconcious stopping you from sleeping with another in your bed.

 

[amiegrrl]

I love sleeping next to a girl, but not every position allows me to sleep comfortably (or at all). I prefer to sleep on my back with my arm wrapped around the girl while her head rests on my chest. Women seem to like it, too, because several of them have mentioned that they like hearing my heart beat. I like spooning too, but I can rarely fall asleep like that... my hands begin to wander and explore my partner's body... I can't help it, lol.

lol ... I love that "on your back, arm wrapped around my neck" position. Can't say it's about the heart beat, though.

My BF and I are funny sleepers. He almost always goes to bed before me, and he isn't much for cuddling. I was pretty amused to find out not long into our relationship that I can get him to do just about anything in his sleep, so after I come to bed I snug up to his back or roll him over so he'll cuddle me. I retreat to my side of the bed when I'm ready to sleep, so I get my 'affection' and my space while he gets to sleep soundly. :biggrin1:

 

[DarkAuron]

Don't know if this counts at all, but when we shared a hotel room my ex best friend and I (ex because we're no longer friends as of this previous weekend.. long story) shared a bed and slept next to one another, and he kept rolling over onto me a little. I fell in love with him two years ago and still love him, but I hate him for the way he's acting now..

 

[bluekarma]

Same here :wink:

I do love to cuddle though. I even cuddle up behind my man on occasion and kiss his neck/back/ears in the middle of the night, if he's on the side with his ass facing me. If he's on his back, I'll park myself under his arm and wrap my legs around his. Nothing quite like it. We both just sigh and drift off to sleep until we wake up with one of our limbs asleep our sweating badly.

I love sleeping next to a girl, but not every position allows me to sleep comfortably (or at all). I prefer to sleep on my back with my arm wrapped around the girl while her head rests on my chest. Women seem to like it, too, because several of them have mentioned that they like hearing my heart beat. I like spooning too, but I can rarely fall asleep like that... my hands begin to wander and explore my partner's body... I can't help it, lol.

 

[va_lk_yr_ie]

II prefer to sleep on my back with my arm wrapped around the girl while her head rests on my chest. Women seem to like it, too, because several of them have mentioned that they like hearing my heart beat.

~*swoon*~

Yes, me like... :biggrin1: Not so much for sleeping, but for a really, really close cuddling nothing beats that. Not really sexual, just close and comfortable and safe.

I like spooning too, but I can rarely fall asleep like that... my hands begin to wander and explore my partner's body... I can't help it, lol.

And that is sexy... Having someone snuggle up behind you in the middle of the night. Hands all over. Turning over on stomach. Feeling the other person follow you, positioning himself over you and then that feeling of someone just sliding in...

~*mind wanders off in blissful thinking*

(...and there the Valkyrie is at it again - mind wandering, body aching for release - darn guys that never show up...)

 

[B_Kshelby67]

I love sleeping next to a girl, but not every position allows me to sleep comfortably (or at all). I prefer to sleep on my back with my arm wrapped around the girl while her head rests on my chest. Women seem to like it, too, because several of them have mentioned that they like hearing my heart beat. I like spooning too, but I can rarely fall asleep like that... my hands begin to wander and explore my partner's body... I can't help it, lol.

I sleep like that too. But you know, Im the girl position
I seem to have to keep my legs in a 4 though, so my one knee ends up arcoss his legs or stomach. Then, I usually say "what the hell", and I climb on top of his tummy, my legs tucked on eather side of him, and my head nestled in his neck, my hands rubbing his head till I fall asleep. I can't believe sometimes I can get away with falling asleep pretty much in the fetal postition on top of someone. Though I always wake up soon to a bit of a poke....

 

[earllogjam]

In that case we could never be in a relationship together. /QUOTE]

Never say never

I was so looking foward to bedding another trophy straight guy too. :tongue:

 

[AlteredEgo]

Yup, same here, but if it's the least bit humid don't touch me. I used to date a Jamaican guy who wanted to snuggle no matter what the weather. Can you imagine wanting to snuggle in a twin bed in our Virginia dorm room when it's 85 degrees and there is no a/c?!

Oh no, girl, that would not work for me! If he wants to cudle in those conditions, he'd better run a cool shower or show me to the pool or something. LOL

 

[burns1de]

~*swoon*~

Yes, me like... :biggrin1: Not so much for sleeping, but for a really, really close cuddling nothing beats that. Not really sexual, just close and comfortable and safe.



And that is sexy... Having someone snuggle up behind you in the middle of the night. Hands all over. Turning over on stomach. Feeling the other person follow you, positioning himself over you and then that feeling of someone just sliding in...

~*mind wanders off in blissful thinking*

(...and there the Valkyrie is at it again - mind wandering, body aching for release - darn guys that never show up...)

Good Lord, somebody get this girl an emergency big dick, she's about to BLOW!

 

[txquis]

Because of our completely different work/sleep schedules, my partner and I don't always sleep at the same time...and when we do, it is rarely "spooning" or "intertwined"....it makes no difference at all to our happiness. Like most relationships, the fun part of being in bed together happens when we are both wide awake.

 

[Blocko]

It varies from person to person... some people hate sleeping together... others can't do without it. I personally love it and usually find myself long-term incompatabile anyone who doesn't.

The only bad thing is after you've been doing it for someone for a while, when it stops your bed feels so empty.

 

[D_Coyne Toss]

I find it important too, since it occupies nearly 1/3 of the day. With my girlfriends we are (amongst other things) perfect sleep partners, as we embrace and cuddle the whole night. We both feel perfectly comfortable and in a great sleeping position while doing it.

With my ex it was totally different, we stole ourselves the blankets, rolled out of the bed and so on.

 

[Meniscus]

I've long thought that if I was living with someone, I'd want to have 2 bedrooms: one for us and one for me. I have enough trouble sleeping with a small cat, let alone a whole person.

 

[MovingForward]

Yeah I stole the covers with an ex and rolled him out of bed. With my husband now we both have our own blankets when we sleep.

 

[B_Think_Kink]

I'm very similar. I love to cuddle, but I absolutly cannot fall asleep while doing it. I am a very sound sleeper, but I have a lot of trouble getting to sleep; so if I'm cuddling with someone, any little distraction -- breathing, a small movement, too much heat, anything -- is way too distracting. Once I finally fall asleep, though, he could probably do anything he wanted to me.

This is sorta like me.. I take awhile to fall asleep, and something as simple as not enough of my leg being exposed from under the duvet could cause me to not fall asleep.. only time I was able to.. was when I was high out of my tree.. and I feel asleep under his duvet.. I woke up sweating like mad.. and felt all grosse cause he was still holding me..

 

[sdbg]

I hate sleeping with other people. I tried for a really long time to like it because it seemed like the normal thing to do, but after many years I've realized that I don't like it. I get hot really easily, I can't roll over the way I want, I can't stand snoring or loud breathing, and it's just all around uncomfortable for me.

I feel the same way. I need my own space when I crash. I like snuggling, affection, romance, and hot sex as much as the next guy, but I can't get quality sleep with someone hanging all over me.

 

[SpeedoGuy]

How important is being able to comfortably sleep together in a relationship?

Despite nasal surgery and faddish anti-snore treatments my wife snores loudly. Like a chainsaw. She's also a restless sleeper, tosses and turns, sighs frequently, gets up to use the restroom several times a night, etc.

Exposure to all that was ruining my sleep and, thus, my health. As a result we haven't regularly slept in the same room together in 5 years and, yah, it does hurt the relationship. It makes it very difficult for us to travel together since we either have to purchase separate hotel rooms, or, I just don't get much sleep for the duration of the trip.

This is the largest hurdle my relationship suffers from and its a bad one.

 

[B_Think_Kink]

Despite nasal surgery and faddish anti-snore treatments my wife snores loudly. Like a chainsaw. She's also a restless sleeper, tosses and turns, sighs frequently, gets up to use the restroom several times a night, etc.

Exposure to all that was ruining my sleep and, thus, my health. As a result we haven't regularly slept in the same room together in 5 years and, yah, it does hurt the relationship. It makes it very difficult for us to travel together since we either have to purchase separate hotel rooms, or, I just don't get much sleep for the duration of the trip.

This is the largest hurdle my relationship suffers from and its a bad one.

They say that snoring is caused by being over or underweight.. when my dad lost weight he stopped snoring.. he had all the surgerys done.. back of his throat scraped out.. nose fixed.. and when he gains too much weight he snores again.

 

[SpeedoGuy]

They say that snoring is caused by being over or underweight.. when my dad lost weight he stopped snoring.. he had all the surgerys done.. back of his throat scraped out.. nose fixed.. and when he gains too much weight he snores again.

She has put on weight during that time. Its the one thing that she hasn't tried to "fix" to stop the snoring. And there's no way I can gently suggest she try dropping some pounds. In my experience women react violently to even the gentlest suggestion they try losing weight. I was hoping one of her doctors would suggest it.

 

[B_Think_Kink]

She has put on weight during that time. Its the one thing that she hasn't tried to "fix" to stop the snoring. And there's no way I can gently suggest she try dropping some pounds. In my experience women react violently to even the gentlest suggestion they try losing weight. I was hoping one of her doctors would suggest it.

Yeah that would be a tricky one... maybe find a website that is dedicated to preaching that.. and show her.. with some other ideas...