Technique for lasting longer?

[LongNights]

I enjoy using most of the techniques already made mention to here. Some of my favorites are:

1) Switch positions every 5-10 minutes
2) Mental control - distraction theory
3) Edging with pacing control - change the speed/tempo
4) Switch from Sex - Masterbate - Sex - Masterbate ....and so on to switch it up

Hope, all of these great strategies keep the sex hot. Enjoy!


LongNights

 

[lapdog2001]

I enjoy using most of the techniques already made mention to here.
1) Switch positions every 5-10 minutes
2) Mental control - distraction theory
3) Pacing control - change the speed/temp

I edited your reply to what I have used to last longer. The worst thing for me is to start in missionary position and stay there. For some reason I don't last as long in that position. I love to finish in missionary because of the full body contact.

I don't 'edge' during sex as the desire to keep going is overwhelming, but varying the pace and minor shifting of position causes enough of a 'break' to delay the inevitable.

I have tried edging while masturbating. The longer I hold out, the more intense the orgasm. That usually is the same result for intercourse as well.

 

[greeneyes0219]

So, my man has this interesting developement. He can come, fully, with fluids, and actually stay hard and go right away with no down time. Just a quick change of the raincoat and we're good to go again as many as 5 times in a row so far. And I'm not talking about 30 second rides, but like 10 minutes. So in the end I get to come over and over again and so does he and then we sleep great . This goes against everything I've ever known about men, has anyone else ever seen/heard of this?

 

[findfirefox]

I have always been Multi ejaculatory for as long as I can remember, though I always use a condoms, so I swap and go on.

 

[faceking]

I have always been Multi ejaculatory for as long as I can remember, though I always use a condoms, so I swap and go on.

Sometimes I can as well, but no matter what, will stop and give oral on a partner (AKA woman) for as long as the urge subsides. Sure seems the unselfish way to go.

 

[citygirl]

So, my man has this interesting developement. He can come, fully, with fluids, and actually stay hard and go right away with no down time. Just a quick change of the raincoat and we're good to go again as many as 5 times in a row so far. And I'm not talking about 30 second rides, but like 10 minutes. So in the end I get to come over and over again and so does he and then we sleep great . This goes against everything I've ever known about men, has anyone else ever seen/heard of this?

greeneyes,

My guy is the same way, he can last forever and has tremendous staying power. Sometimes I'm orgasmed out and can't keep up with him but then I just put on the clamps and squeeze him until he's done. Works most of the time!

 

[nicolas204]

In my experience, I can assure you there are techniques which can be practiced by men to fully control not only when we come, but how. In my late teenaged years I came accross this book that bescribed some methods derived from taoist practice and became very serious about learning them. I was still a virgin at the time and I really thought mastering these techniques would get rid of the shyness that had been holding me back, or so I thought...

Anyway, I'm very glad I took the time to nail this down at the time and it has served me and my lovers quite well ever since.

In a nutshell, the man must learn how to distinguish orgasm from ejaculation. Orgasm is the series of pleasurable contractions which generally accompany ejaculation. Contrary to what most men I have had this discussion with think, these two things constitute two seperate and divisible occurences. Once a man is able to isolate the very pleasurable contractions which he feels just prior to ejaculation, he can harness and control them by sqeazing the muscle situated right between his scrotum and his anus (can't remember the exact medical name for it). This will provoke one of two things: A) a ''reverse'' ejaculation (the semen is propulsed backward into the bladder, strange but not dangerous), very frequent in the first stages of practice or B) an effective barier against the actual ejaculation and the almost invariable loss or substantial reduction of erection.

When B) is acheived, the man has had his usual involontary orgasmic contractions but he effectively accompanied them with a very volontary and controled contraction of the muscle I talked about earlier on. In this case there is no ejaculetion but the man nevertheless experiences all the pleasure and satisfaction associated with having had the orgasm without however loosing his erection or sexual energy. Basically he becomes multy orgasmic. This is the greatest part of it all. You come to the point where you have full control over the the length of your sexual encounter and the exact moment you decide to ejaculate, if at all.

I guess this is a bit differnt from what your BF practices, but I'm sure there are similarities in the mecanics of it all LOL!:wink:

 

[Gisella]

Taoist practice & methods are very interesting indeed!

 

[philboy]

Hi Studhunter,
I have always thought that the key for a guy was to cum at the right time for his partner`s pleasure. Not always possible but should be the aim and can be sensed with practice (lots of that please!!).
Do not to get carried away with longevity which some women have told me can get boring.
Have some fun! Technical perfection is not everything.

 

[Katiecav_34D]

My boyfriend could definately use some lesons from him
Katie

 

[modernluv]

Hi Studhunter,
I have always thought that the key for a guy was to cum at the right time for his partner`s pleasure. Not always possible but should be the aim and can be sensed with practice (lots of that please!!).
Do not to get carried away with longevity which some women have told me can get boring.
Have some fun! Technical perfection is not everything.

For me it depends on what kind of mood I'm in. Sometimes a nice, intense quickie is in order, and sometimes I prefer a marathon. I don't think I get too carried away with longevity but sometimes it sure is nice to know the guy won't cum till I got mine.:wink:

 

[stud_hunter]

Hi Studhunter,
I have always thought that the key for a guy was to cum at the right time for his partner`s pleasure. Not always possible but should be the aim and can be sensed with practice (lots of that please!!).
Do not to get carried away with longevity which some women have told me can get boring.
Have some fun! Technical perfection is not everything.

Of course technical perfection is not everything :smile: . Lots of women get bored with longevity because they don't orgasm from intercourse. I do(orgasm from intercourse) and don't (get bored with it - EVER :tongue: :tongue: ). Not every session should last all night of course, but there are those times when the guy is hitting my spot and I get on this multi-orgasmic roll and it is VERY nice when he can stay hard long enough to help me milk it for all it's worth :biggrin1: . I realize I'm more the exception than the rule on this issue, but golly I lovvvve those very long multi-orgasmic sessions. :tongue:

 

[younggun]

I've been practicing ejaculatory control since I was fourteen. I practiced a lot of penis exercises. I started just to prepare for the first time I'd be having sex. After a few years, it is great. Now, I can last as long as I want, and I can control ejaculation in the same way a guy can control urination. Even my first time, I have never been brought to ejaculation unwillingly. I can go for hours without feeling the need, and it's only a matter of waiting until the woman is too fatigued to continue. I kinda just sit there stoically and let my penis do the work; all the while, the girl goes wild. As a result I have more confidence in sex. This confidence turns into sexual animosity. So, I'm normally a modest guy but I have this proud, monstrous "ram-em-into-the-wall" mentality during sex. Women are always shocked to see this side of me and they all love it. It works and it's great.

 

[Male Bonding etc]

I want to know more....

 

[9plus]

Ror me it'sbeen pretty simple. Smoke a fat marijuana joint prior to having sex. I've also used the mental re-direct, for instance "Football, Football" being that i've played and presently coach football. Seems to work for me.

 

[No_Strings]

I don't think there's much of a secret to it, as the OP said its just a case of containing yourself when you're close, whether it my tensing, slowing/stopping, or squeezing with your hand... practice when you masturbate. (Pertaining to the physical side of it, couldn't say much about the metnal side)

Ive been doing it for about 2 years now, as I was really nervous about how long I would last, I'm not at 100%, but I can pretty much cum on command, and hold of for a long time (though not indefinitely... yet!) My average jerk is around 3-4 hours of straight tugging, of course its never the same situation as when with a woman, but; train hard, play easy :tongue:

 

[Gisella]

I find that varying the pace, and changing positions can help me last longer. The 'edging' technique used while masturbating also does help you learn to recognise when you are getting 'close' without going beyond the point of no return. Using these techniques, I can usually last about 15-20 minutes, which is great for most women. The longest I went with continous fucking was about 40-45 minutes, but we changed positions (and even rooms!) quite a few times during that session. :biggrin1:

The worst for me is when a woman wants it hard, and fast, and just in one position. I find it very difficult to control much of anything when the pace is fast.
Sometimes I've been able to hold out for almost 10 minutes
Any ideas how to make some improvement when this is what she wants?

I'm glad that I only need about 10-15 minutes to 'recharge' so round two and beyond is always a possibility.

omg...this thread so hot...

Men are different as what to trigger...I experienced that he could use techniques under the book but when I discovered if I touched his balls while he inside me etc..he would loose control, pace, whatever and cum soon.

I love to do my moves my thing, close eyes to feel all of that sensations etc etc..hopefully he would hold as long as I need...but I'm usually cum fast anyways plus I know when I will not cum in that session than I will be more concentrated in his moves and thing. I enjoy to provoke men as I observe the concentrated looking he has going on...I look for changes of his expressions while I do this or that moves - and I trully enjoy to see I'm messing up his act or routine or whatever. Than I do know and feel I'm fucking him...

What I do know is that because penetration banging is the best sex act to me above anything else and I have been practicing my moves, my style, my standing receiving power, pc's etc etc since I'm sexualy active and I do love love love having penis inside me...as much I encouter males who can last longer in 1 single session I trully prefer those who last not so long because of my sex style fast pace (foreskin penis longer sessions to me are the best of all in fast pace sex) and we can get more sessions going instead of very long ones -plus to me the greater thing above last longer is a short 'recovery' hardon and those guys who seems always with semi when aroused.

In the end as much techniques we can have the element of surprises, not predictability and etc is the great fun of sex to me and I do enjoy messing him and be messed up as plans or ideias goes.

 

[Love-it]

omg...this thread so hot...

Men are different as what to trigger...I experienced that he could use techniques under the book but when I discovered if I touched his balls while he inside me etc..he would loose control, pace, whatever and cum soon.

I love to do my moves my thing, close eyes to feel all of that sensations etc etc..hopefully he would hold as long as I need...but I'm usually cum fast anyways plus I know when I will not cum in that session than I will be more concentrated in his moves and thing. I enjoy to provoke men as I observe the concentrated looking he has going on...I look for changes of his expressions while I do this or that moves - and I trully enjoy to see I'm messing up his act or routine or whatever. Than I do know and feel I'm fucking him...

What I do know is that because penetration banging is the best sex act to me above anything else and I have been practicing my moves, my style, my standing receiving power, pc's etc etc since I'm sexualy active and I do love love love having penis inside me...as much I encouter males who can last longer in 1 single session I trully prefer those who last not so long because of my sex style fast pace (foreskin penis longer sessions to me are the best of all in fast pace sex) and we can get more sessions going instead of very long ones -plus to me the greater thing above last longer is a short 'recovery' hardon and those guys who seems always with semi when aroused.

In the end as much techniques we can have the element of surprises, not predictability and etc is the great fun of sex to me and I do enjoy messing him and be messed up as plans or ideias goes.

Gisella, you are hot!

 

[Epistasia]

I don't know if it can be called a technique but my guy says that he is always so focused on me that he doesn't think about his orgasm untill it's happening. Whatever he's doing seems to work becuase he'll last for almost an hour on some occasions. Before I was with him I always felt like a bitch because I wouldn't stand for a guy to be finished until I was. With my fiance this has never been an issue; let me just say I am one lucky girl.


Brit

 

[B_hungnate]

Yeah that's sort of what I do. When I started having sex I used to cum too fast, like in under 5 mins. I was really bummed but it was actually easier than I thought to fix it. First I tried the jerking off thing where I'd practice edging and that worked OK but then the problem is you have to stop to keep yourself from cumming, but sometimes the woman is on her way to an orgasm and I want to keep going to get her there. Then I figured out when I'm close to cumming I move my legs a little farther apart and for some reason things settle down and I can keep going and not even have to slow down. I also get real focused on the woman, like I get focused on making her cum and watching her. I think getting more experience having sex makes it easier too, like I used to be thinking mostly about not cumming too soon and now I can last awhile and not really even have to think about it.

I don't know if it can be called a technique but my guy says that he is always so focused on me that he doesn't think about his orgasm untill it's happening.