What? Really? Again? :(

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Thanks guys. Although it can be hard with low self-esteem. It is easy to get so to speak, but I don't really want that. What you say makes sense and I should do that but I always want some affection.

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I know I shouldn't say this but I think I react badly because I fear being alone again. Everybody does I know, but I want somebody like she was.

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dude, man up, and forget her

delete her from your phone, delete her from facebook, worry about school and get a job, go out and find friends because all this feeling sorry for yourself won't get you anything but more upset

if she texts you, ignore it

if she calls you, ignore it

STOP putting pussy on a pedestal, i don't understand how someone could get so upset over something that is free, not hard to get and there is plenty of it w/ many different varieties

go out and meet new women and stop getting so attached

worry about school and making money and remember this little saying

you will always lose money chasing women, but you will NEVER lose women chasing money

right now you are letting these little girls run your life and its kind of pathetic

pick yourself up, dust yourself off with your chin up high and live life, if you go about life happy not giving a shit about anything other than being happy and being successful, the women will come and instead of crying over one girl who probably isn't that hot, most likely is a bore of a human being and obviously doesn't even care about you, you can pick and choose between various model look-a-likes

Also, follow the advice from this guy's avatar.
 

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Feel like I want another try to tell her how beautiful she is and make her feel loved. Why are my thoughts up and down. It's gone away now, God I'm broken lol.

I'm sorry I do not fully understand enzia?
 

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this may be the furthest thought from your mind but... ever thought of dating a guy once? i've had bad luck with women because they were either yes cheaters, bitches or whores. some guys tend to attract the "nicest" women. so i tried going out with a guy, and i've been happy since then. he's great and caring and nice and definitely loyal. but it's your choice
 

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Feel like I want another try to tell her how beautiful she is and make her feel loved. Why are my thoughts up and down. It's gone away now, God I'm broken lol.

I'm sorry I do not fully understand enzia?

GET TO DRINKING!:smile:

And don't do what you just said.
 

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Don't worry I wouldn't, she wouldn't want to anyway but I have no reason to feel that. It's weird what these emotions do for no reason.

I feel like I'm asking for attention now which isn't my style so if people want this to die feel free. I just needed to talk about it, so thank you everybody!
 

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Here's some relationship advice that I read in a book about Marine Corps boot camp:

Upon seeing one of the recruits sobbing after getting a "Dear John" letter, the DI said, "There's nothing as overrated as a piece of ass, or as underrated as a taking good shit. Get over it!"

My advice: Get over it. You're young. I didn't find my wife-to-be until I was about to turn 40, and I was pretty settled on living single for the rest of my life.

Here's what else I think: Some people are ready to marry in their teens, and some aren't. That's just how it is. The real problems begin when someone wants to get married when they're not actually ready -- or when both people aren't ready.

I also think that some people want a relationship just for the sake of having a relationship, if you catch my drift. They're willing to put up with a partner who's not a good match just so they can say to themselves, "I have somebody!" with starry eyes.

Anyway, that's what I think. YMMV.
 

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This might be harsh, but from what I can tell about your physical appearance (obviously you are in good shape), your weakness completely shines through you. I think it's obvious to probably the great majority of people who meet you that you are probably very nice, but above that probably also easily breakable, bendable, or manipulated.
I can't say whether this is true, but as far as I'm concerned, that's the immediate judgement I passed as soon I saw you. It might have to do with how you look, how you portray yourself, your actual physical body.

I have no advice as to how fix this. Maybe in person, it's not so strong, but pictures are pretty powerful, too.
 

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This all sounds like a bad "Simple Plan Song" time to grow up, get some help, and get over your self. Don't read into things to much, learn to take things easier, and calm down. Also get professional help if you need it .
 

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Woken up still feeling a bit rough, but more motivated. I keep thinking of where she will be, what she will be doing and who with because of the images she gave me during the argument. This is what is getting me, and I reckon it will keep going until January when we are truly disjointed. I also wish I had someone else, I feel lonely again and I know she has somebody.

I never considered her that important to me, it is how it has happened that has got to me. However, today. More food, more water. Kill this cold and get on with some University work. I still feel very rough, but this is natural and I will again come out stronger.

Weirdly, where the first girl truly broke me this time it seems to have fixed me. I feel ready to let myself love somebody again, but I won't look until I know this isn't rebound talk. I hope it is true though.

Whoever said try dating other guys. I have! My God some of the nicest people I know and can get on with are either camp, bi or gay. I know I do not want anything physical with a guy but in terms of having the friendship yes.
 

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Alcohol is a depressant and not really a solution. Thanks for trying to help though.
 

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To the OP....there is only one person who can change how you feel and that is you. The only thing any of us have control over, is how we respond in any given situation.

There is not a person on this board who can't relate to what you are going through. We've all been there and we've all come out the other side and lived to tell the tale.

Read "Man's Search for Meaning" by Victor Frankl if you don't understand the concept of the only thing we control is our response.

If this doesn't work. Buy yourself a one way ticket to Somalia and do some volunteer work there for a year. It's easy to wallow in self-pity (I am guilty of this too, so understand where you are coming from) and sometimes, we just need a reality check to shake ourselves up and realise that actually, life in a free country with all the opportunities we are afforded is pretty damn good.

Good luck.
 

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Well I climbed Mt. Kilimanjaro in Tanzania over the summer while working with a school so believe me I know how hard people have it and I totally understand people have much worse issues than me.

It is just a little hard at the start. Thanks for the suggestion on the book.

Right now I am just struggling to get the image of her and him out of my head - it makes me sick thinking about it because she sent me images to explain it as it was awkward in words. Ugh. Definitely going for a girl with a bit more intelligence next time.

After January things will pick up :)

Thanks MelbourneGirl!