Well- I have a different scenario- I'm only just coming out now... at age 25... after lots of reltionships with girls, I've jsut come to like guys more over the years- since about 20.
I think it's always been there, but i never really went with it, wanted to, until now. With being gay, are all the difficulties of realising having a family of your own isn't such a strightforeward process- and the possibility thats it just wont happen is ominous- and not nice for me.
I love kids, coming from a big family with many cousins, step bros and sisters of all ages, and having a family has always been something at the forefront of my mind, as direction for my life... and I still like the idea of having a relationship with one woman too- I can still fall in love with a woman, but just don't have the sexual attraction there...
I still get confused with the spectrum of relationships- 'love'- and find that it's just best not to delve too deeply into it and jsut keep it simple and go with what feels good.
I guess I've come to terms with the fact that family may or may not happen, but that it's STILL a possibility.
Right now I'm focussing on a career that makes me happy, and when I'm there, I'm sure other things- priorities- will fall into place...
It's a nice feeling to be 'out' though- def feels good