Why am I attracted to straight men and not to the usual gay guys?

[ILoveGames48]

A lot of gay men… ( notice I said a lot not all). Are attracted to straight men because it’s the idea wanting someone we can’t have .. — unless the straight decided to become curious and experiment ..
Some guys I was with when younger and through the years .. were straight and did a few things if I “ promised” never to let anyone find out..



I’d be like let’s see.. have sex and not tell anyone or don’t have sex because I don’t keep secrets … I think the first one wins


I am sure you’ve had sex with straight guys and all.. but don’t do it forever as get older your wanting the straight type guys Could make you grow up to be an old lonely guy ..

 

[Oldcowboy]

I know it sounds like a cliché, but it's starting to feel problematic though.
It seems that I'm always falling for the typical gym bro straight guy. It doesn't always have to be the over-the-top-obvious sexy guy. But just sometimes the regular sporty one, like the cool friend you'd have. No drama, just chill.

To be clear, I have never done something with a straight guy, I'm not oppost to it (it would still be a fantasy fulfilled), but I respect the boundaries and would never innitiate it myself.
Yet I seemed to be only attracted to the straight guys and not the gays. I can be good friends with gay guys (i have some really good friends), but I can't seem to find myself that much interested in them romantically. Occasionally physically attracted maybe. But that 'bit of extra' always seem to make me lose interest.

I wonder if it's because I haven't fully embraced "being gay" and seem to admire the straight guys that haven't have to deal with thisissue. I dunno... I came out late at only 25. Had GF's before, but I don't think I'm bisexual. Nor do I question my masculinity or think I was born in the wrong body.
It just doesn't seem to work for me
It sucks.

Does anyone have the same issue?

I know it sounds like a cliché, but it's starting to feel problematic though.
It seems that I'm always falling for the typical gym bro straight guy. It doesn't always have to be the over-the-top-obvious sexy guy. But just sometimes the regular sporty one, like the cool friend you'd have. No drama, just chill.

To be clear, I have never done something with a straight guy, I'm not oppost to it (it would still be a fantasy fulfilled), but I respect the boundaries and would never innitiate it myself.
Yet I seemed to be only attracted to the straight guys and not the gays. I can be good friends with gay guys (i have some really good friends), but I can't seem to find myself that much interested in them romantically. Occasionally physically attracted maybe. But that 'bit of extra' always seem to make me lose interest.

I wonder if it's because I haven't fully embraced "being gay" and seem to admire the straight guys that haven't have to deal with thisissue. I dunno... I came out late at only 25. Had GF's before, but I don't think I'm bisexual. Nor do I question my masculinity or think I was born in the wrong body.
It just doesn't seem to work for me
It sucks.

Does anyone have the same issue?

Many-most?—gay acts are subservient. I could very easily be up to my ears in cocksuckers.
‘Almost every guy who wanted me to fuck his wife really wanted me to fuck him.

ying and yang. Alpha and Beta. The people I interact with—bo

 

[Oldcowboy]

both sexes—-want a masculine man, want to be dominated, want to give up control

 

[ILoveGames48]

I have always loved being dominated . .. I have topped and all but I love to be dominated

 

[halcyondays]

Because we're so mouthwateringly delicious?

 

[carlossantiagoinnyc]

Here’s the thing. Does a guy need to be straight for you to be attracted to him?

Or is it a matter of you are more drawn to what society has told us is more traditional masculinity. Because gay men can also exhibit those “traditional masculine” traits. Do you lose your interest in “straight guy” once he fools around with you? You need to determine if it is a straight man you want, or if you want a traditionally masculine man.

if you lose interest in your straight guy after he consents to fool around with you, or if a usually straight guy does some experimentation with you and actually realizes he‘s falling in love with you as he’s getting to know himself and you better, and you lost interest then. Thats something indicative of an issue on your end, possibly what some of the other judgmental members here have mentioned earlier.

if the masculine “straight acting” blah blah that gets you hot loses its allure when you can have him. That’s is some internal work you need to do with yourself.

if you don’t date because you want straight guys or want to turn them and lose interest as soon as they give you the time of day because then (they are no longer straight in your eyes) and you move on to your next unfilled potential, that’s a problem and may have to do with some deeper psyche stuff you need to work out.

 

[carlossantiagoinnyc]

both sexes—-want a masculine man, want to be dominated, want to give up control

I feel like that is an oversimplification and incorrectly ascribed to more people than reality has it.

 

[Oldcowboy]

I feel like that is an oversimplification and incorrectly ascribed to more people than reality has it.

Many things in life are simple. People tend to overanylze and complicate .

 

[hisiff maji]

It feels like too many people assume others have the same sexual/identity preferences as they do. Maybe we just need to listen and believe others when they explain themselves.

 

[justahornyguy174]

I honestly think it's simple, you want what you can't have. It's programmed into all of us unfortunately!

 

[Robert474]

maybe you are more attracted because in the back of your mind it is something you can not have cause he is straight

I think this is a lot of it, even for me being obsessed with my best friend who is straight. I think a lot of the attraction is because I'll never have it

 

[justahornyguy174]

I think this is a lot of it, even for me being obsessed with my best friend who is straight. I think a lot of the attraction is because I'll never have it

Yep, we all want what we can't have. Probably not very PC at the moment but I leant this from the book; The Game. People say it is manipulating women but basically it is just turning the tables. Attractive women get loads of guys coming on to them, so they are curious about the guy who is so cool he's not interested, which makes them want him more. Guess what, it works. Women who think they can't have you are all over you, and the ones you make it painfully obvious you like just aren't interested.

 

[Richard the lionheart]

How do you know they’re straight? Nowadays, most guys are bi, which is the natural sexuality. To be straight is just something that was created by society.

 

[deleted19462351]

How do you know they’re straight? Nowadays, most guys are bi, which is the natural sexuality. To be straight is just something that was created by society.

Most people assume I'm straight, wonder if there's any gay guy crushing on me thinking I'm straight, lol.

 

[Richard the lionheart]

Most people assume I'm straight, wonder if there's any gay guy crushing on me thinking I'm straight, lol.

Of course there is! Last week my physiotherapist, who is married to a woman and has two kids, got up and showed me he had a huge horn inside his pants. He never used to get up and come to the door to say goodbye but this time he did. I’m going back in January, just wondering if he’s going to be braver then… he knows I’m gay

 

[deleted19462351]

The hell

 

[MoeMood]

I think perhaps unconsciously you associate gay men with being less masculine and more feminine so you want this straight man who has no interest in dicks and is that pure alpha type of man whom the girls chase, and f he falls for you, back in your head you would be like: a man whom the ladies crush is all here doing me instead.

 

[Richard the lionheart]

I think perhaps unconsciously you associate gay men with being less masculine and more feminine so you want this straight man who has no interest in dicks and is that pure alpha type of man whom the girls chase, and f he falls for you, back in your head you would be like: a man whom the ladies crush is all here doing me instead.

You haven’t seen what I saw fully grown inside his pants.

 

[bigboaster]

I honestly think it's simple, you want what you can't have. It's programmed into all of us unfortunately!

Don't speak for "all of us". I ain't interested in such nonsense and there are certainly others on this website that would push back on that too.

Also I'm pretty sure psychologists don't agree that it's a good thing to just be ignored. They often associate this with feelings of inadequacy, needing validation, or building your self-esteem. So, self report much? lol

 

[MoeMood]

You haven’t seen what I saw fully grown inside his pants.

I was not even replying you in my reply

However You will always find a sexier dick somewhere sometime else in your life