i'll come out and say this, guys who try to be 'nice guys' and selfless in bed are crap shags as far as i'm concerned. i, like a lot of women, want a man to grab me like i make him need to consume me right there and then. a lot of guys make the mistake of thinking ''is that good?'' and ''what would you like me to do?'' are always appropriate things to ask. i'm not talking rapists, or twats who try to push you into acts you don't want, or men who treat you like a blow up doll, or ignore your reactions. i'm talking about the guy who is eating you out because he's goddamn hungry! the guy who throws you only the bed and rips your underwear without stopping to apologise. i don't have relationships with guys who treat me badly, but i do prefer sex with men who fuck a little selfish. guys who let the passion take hold.