Stronzo said:But I don't understand why you'd simply assume the number was 'fewer' especially since you admittedly 'don't have a clue'.
bigbull29 said:Finally, thanks for this thread, Stronzo. You have indeed made some excellent points that would be hard to counter. You seem to have cornered the traditional female bisexuality "myth"..
a theme? projecting perhaps? the gruff misogynism just a shield?Dr Rock said:insecure
dongalong said:Here are some of my observations, these are generalisations that talk about the majority of men and women that I know:
Men are turned on by visual stimulants more than women, that is why we like porn and watching girls lezzing off!
Most women I have met don't like watching porn and disapprove the fact we like to watch it.
Most of the bisexual girls that I know have been introduced into this catagory by their boyfriends, because he wanted to watch or have 2 women at once.
Women are more turned on cerebrally, reading erotic stories is a bigger turn on than watching hardcore porn for them.
Women have different kinds of fantasies from men that are more based on how things will make them feel.
For the above reasons I don't think that watching 2 guys enjoying each other's bodies would give much cerebral stimulation to women. That is why they don't encourage it.
dongalong said:For the above reasons I don't think that watching 2 guys enjoying each other's bodies would give much cerebral stimulation to women. That is why they don't encourage it.
Stronzo said:Interesting observations dongalong. PBS had a wonderful program on last night that suggests the reverse of the "cerebral" myth about women and sexuality and proved conclusively that women are as sexually charged as men. It's, again, socialization which has made you believe the stereotypical myth. Also, from their studies, women have as many sexual partners as men do. They're simply loathe to talk about it since it may label them "loose".
This is what women have to deal with still. It's tedious.
I have a question (since your identity is anonymous here);
As an adolescent did you ever have a male-on-male experience? Please be honest even if you're disinclinced to be.
Maybe I've lived a much more sheltered life than some people on this site, I haven't had a male-on-male experience, I was too shy to get any experience as an adolescent.
I know for a fact (as I've preciously stated - as has madame_zora) that 'cerebral stimulation' be damned. Watching two guys does make them horny.
Who 'doesn't encourage it'?
dongalong said:I haven't met a women honest enough to admit your last statement.
Is that the general consensus or just the opinion of some more liberal and open minded ladies? Those are the kind of women I prefer, maybe my views would change if only I could meet one.
The fact that there are some women willing to encourage MMF action could mean that some time in the future the tables will be turned and us guys will have to suck cock to turn on the women that we desire
:3some: :adam4: :clit:
madame_zora said:You won't meet many either, look at how few women there are on this board and even amoung us there are only a very few who are comfortable speaking frankly about our carnal desires. This illustrates the reality of our behavior though, not our desire. The two things are completely different.
It's dangerous and usually quite wrong to take the opinions of a very small group of people (women who are open about sexuality) and apply it to the masses, though. No one knows how "all women feel" on any given subject, so it would do us all some good to take a step back and realise that women are individuals, just like men. The only way we could "know" if there are as many women as men who would be into same sex exploration by the opposite gender would be to study a society that was exactly like ours, except with the gender roles reversed. Obviously, such a place does not exist.
When women are taught from birth that they are to be "good girls" and keep their pants up, everything in our sexual development is affected by that, and that is social development, not biological in the least. I was lucky- I was in school in the 70s and we talked about birth control options in school. We discussed (albeit very briefly) homosexuality, and our environment was less repressive in general. Bear in mind, I was in a very small rural school- we were hardly as advanced as what I would expect schools in bigger cities were like. Even with the turning tides of the times though, when I got out into the real world, I learned quickly that I was a slut. I no longer mind that title, it only means that stupid insecure men think that a women doing the exact same thing that they do themselves is morally wrong. I'm always happy when they identify themselves, so I know who to avoid (like the plague).
Of course women have as many partners as men! Who do you think the men are fucking? Wow, our society is so horribly hobbled by our insecurities. I swear, I'll say it over and over- this is ALL, EXCLUSIVELY about men's competitive nature, and has almost nothing to do with the women being discussed. Men don't like to think that the woman they are fucking has been with other men and knows the difference between good sex and bad, and this is the basis for every cultural injustice we suffer. Put us down, keep us down so that they can feel better about themselves- it's positively disgusting. If you are reading this, go hug a woman today! Oh, and don't jack off in her purse.
I see this whole bisexuality chic thing as just another in a long list of ways men have objectified us to remove our humanity. It makes me angry, but then it just makes me sad when I see how many women permit it by playing into their hands. Believe me, I'm far more angry at the women who allow it than the men who ask. If we stood up for ourselves once in a fucking blue moon, we might not get trampled on quite so much. Oh, and trust me, we'd be a lot better sexually satisfied.:tongue:
madame_zora said:When women are taught from birth that they are to be "good girls" and keep their pants up, everything in our sexual development is affected by that........I learned quickly that I was a slut. I no longer mind that title, it only means that stupid insecure men think that a women doing the exact same thing that they do themselves is morally wrong. I'm always happy when they identify themselves, so I know who to avoid (like the plague).
..............................madame_zora said:It's dangerous and usually quite wrong to take the opinions of a very small group of people (women who are open about sexuality) and apply it to the masses, though. No one knows how "all women feel" on any given subject, so it would do us all some good to take a step back and realise that women are individuals, just like men.
madame_zora said:...I swear, I'll say it over and over- this is ALL, EXCLUSIVELY about men's competitive nature, and has almost nothing to do with the women being discussed. Men don't like to think that the woman they are fucking has been with other men and knows the difference between good sex and bad, and this is the basis for every cultural injustice we suffer. Put us down, keep us down so that they can feel better about themselves- it's positively disgusting. If you are reading this, go hug a woman today! Oh, and don't jack off in her purse.
madame_zora said:I see this whole bisexuality chic thing as just another in a long list of ways men have objectified us to remove our humanity. It makes me angry, but then it just makes me sad when I see how many women permit it by playing into their hands. Believe me, I'm far more angry at the women who allow it than the men who ask. If we stood up for ourselves once in a fucking blue moon, we might not get trampled on quite so much. Oh, and trust me, we'd be a lot better sexually satisfied.:tongue:
madame_zora said:I see this whole bisexuality chic thing as just another in a long list of ways men have objectified us to remove our humanity. It makes me angry, but then it just makes me sad when I see how many women permit it by playing into their hands.
dongalong said:...there are some women willing to encourage MMF action could mean that some time in the future the tables will be turned and us guys will have to suck cock to turn on the women that we desire.
dong20 said:Tosh..:tongue: I have to disagree with such sweeping generalisations, especially in view of your first comment. You and I can only speak with authority about men or women we have known, have you met every man? I ask as I don't recall meeting you and I'm sure I would.
Stronzo said:In light of your broad knowledge of that poster I suspect you know she'd never make a blanket statement about "all" straight men. However her point is well-taken d20 and I'm certain it's the rule more than the exception.
madame_zora said:Dong, I love ya to death, and I'd never expect you to make it easy for me!
madame_zora said:Yoko and John said it best, "Woman is the nigger of the world". They make us paint our face and dance then complain that we're not worldly enough to be their friend...
madame_zora said:What I like about your generation is that it's a chance to do something better. I often find when I'm talking to a younger person that they haven't experienced the same social stygmas, at least not to the same degrees that I have. There has always been an audience for men who want to watch women "lezzing it up" because it's always been okay to objectify women. I'm not saying men are never objectified, or that all men do it. I'm saying it's socially acceptable for men to do it, just like it's socially acceptable for them to BE sluts without being insulted.
madame_zora said:Yeah, times have changed *somewhat* from when we had to wear As on our chests, but the word is definitely still meant as an insult, just like nigger. Would you say "Sometimes of course they were just niggers?" I know you wouldn't, and I know that that was supposed to be funny, but I'm just pointing out how rampant the gender differences are in our thinking that we don't even recognise ourselves when we are holding women to a higher standard.
madame_zora said:I always like the people who rebel against the commonly accepted norms too though, so I know what you mean. I always wanted to get the know the "bad girls" because they were usually more intelligent- being able to make decisions for themselves and all....