I have a question about women and what makes them cheat. I've been married for 8yrs to the same woman. Things started off rough at first. She was still in college and me working. We moved after she got her first job which was 8 months after we got married. Come to find out 4 yrs later she was cheating on me 1 yr after we got married with a guy from her work. I had no idea of course. And at this 4-5yr mark we hit another rough spot and I had suspicioun of her cheating this time. I worked nights and it was plenty easy for her to do. Plus my sister and her were pretty close at the time and my sister said some things to me that made me even more suspicious. To make matters worse she fucked him just out of spite because I had found text messages etc. and confronted her about him. She got mad and had him over. All the while she was pregnant with our 3rd child! I was very close to ending this but she seemed very sorry for what she did. She found a local marriage counceler and said that we needed to go etc. So we did. Expensive, but I guess we worked through it. Anyways some of my questions are should I still be in this marriage. I am not sexually satisfied with her. She is very good looking, pettite, and stays in shape. I'm very attracted to her obviously! However, from the first time she cheated, things in the bedroom are not the same. It's like she has sex with me to only please me not herself. She isn't open at all sexually. She can't even touch herself. She hates her small breasts, which are perky and nice. Says that if they were larger she would want sex more! She says her hormones are out of whack and isn't horny all the time or at all. She never lets me go down on her. And she rarely goes down on me. She knows that I like sex, but she thinks I want it every day etc. Which I don't. Every other is ok with me. But when it comes to the day to have sex and she isn't up to it, she just wants me to put some lube on and go to town on her and please me!!! That's not a turn on for me nor do I enjoy just ramming it into a vagina that's not turned on. It's really tight... I'm at a dead end. I've tried talking dirty with her. I've asked her if I'm too small etc. Of course she said no. I'm one of the largest shes been with since high school at 7x5. And the guy from high school was large. He went to my school and I've glanced his way in the dressing room. She says I'm perfect and not to worry. She doesn't like me spanking her. I've tried to get her to touch herself and she has but very reluctantly. We've done several different positions. Some like doggy style she could use her hand and rub her clit and get off, but she doesn't. We've watched porn, hoping she would get some ideas from that. NOPE. Once she asked if it turned me on if a girl was touching herself. I said YES... of course. I enjoy multiple orgasms. After one ejaculation I go down, but I can get hard in 5 min or less from more sex! She's one and done and in the bathroom cleaning up, ready for bed!!! WHERE DO I GO?