coping mechanisms

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  1. dolfette

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    we all have them.
    some people take it out on their loved ones, some people withdraw, some people self harm, some people use sex. tell me about yours, about those close to you. the good, the bad and the ugly.
    i've used a few. these days i exercise.
     
  2. D_John Quicky Adams

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    For me its usually self harm. I've tried to OD on pills like 4 times this year and I know I need to stop it
     
  3. dolfette

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    that's not good, doll. not good at all.
    as a former foot slasher i can understand the appeal of a little pain to take away the pain though.
    are you getting any support?
     
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    Spend money, exercise, try to occupy myself with constructive things to do.
     
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    I am on citalopram and I sleep a lot. Also, watch a lot of TV.
     
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    No not really and I was a foot slasher too before I started with pills
     
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    I remember that I have somebody who will need me to look out for them, now and in the future, because they cannot look out for themselves. In my darkest hours, what stops me from shuffling off this mortal coil is the knowledge that I would be doing a profound injustice to somebody who never asked to be born, never asked to be born that way, and will always need me.
     
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    Exercise. Exercise till I cant move anymore, and then keep going.
    And watching movies/tv shows. Starting with the pilot episode, and watching till ive finished all the episodes of the show.
     
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    What are you taking aspirin?
     
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    I cope by organizing. I have my gummy bears sorted my color and size
     
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    It was mainly sleep medication and anti-depressants
     
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    Knex. calming. creative. distracting. OCD gets the lovage when breaking down and putting away my toys.

    in public.. i use my index finger to write words on the pad of my thumb. mostly bits of conversation picked up from passing human traffic.

    i draw.. headphones are a nice buffer/filter.

    my punching bag is love. loud music. rail until my arms are to heavy to hit.

    masturbation.

    video games.

    making tiny lil folded silk flowers.

    knitting.

    at the moment i have heaps of stressors to cope with :redface:
     
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    Many mechanisms, but the severity depends on what level of trying to cope I'm at.
     
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    I used to have a plethora of negative coping mechanisms. Now I use music and cooking as ways of getting out of my own head. Nothing like sliding into the hustle and flow of a kitchen, creating, singing and dancing to keep me out of my own head. Helps me empty the negative and refill with the positive.
     
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    oh... and I play Angry Birds a lot.
     
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    fucking love angry birds

    played it for the first time last night while waiting for someone to show up.
    now.. i get a lil sweaty if i go too long without hurling birds at something.
     
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    I practice drawing, sculpting, and icing skills. I do repetitive drills, and zone out. Or I jog. Or I get on the phone with friends back home.
     
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    I just stop acknowledging people. Stick to myself. Things get weird.

    Something happens. I need help. And am force to us-interact with them for a brief amount of time until I'm able to disregard them once more.

    Nothing rude or obnoxious. Not out to make a point of it. They might not even be aware I'm doing it.

    I do admit though, I spend a bit too much time in my head and it's becoming more involved as I get older. At the same time, I'm not as good at holding grudges as I once was.

    I slaughter people in my head though. Not that that's what I spend the majority of my time doing in my head. That'd be crazy.

    I also speak to people. Not fake people. Real people whom I insert into my head. They speak on their own though. So the conversations are fully legitimate.
     
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    I read another book! and do healing on myself.
     
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