coping mechanisms

[B_Nicodemous]

Um old negative coping mechs?: Cutting, hitting head, driving at breakneck speeds, drinking waaaayyyy to much, smoking to much (cigs and weed), having indiscriminate sex with out thinking things trough (see blog on how well that worked out for me:frown, blowing up and yelling at people, usually those closest to me, avoiding, shutting down, scratching till i bleed...

Coping now?: Washing dishes, putting dishes away (speed of accomplishment of task directly proportional to anger level: more angry=faster done, lol), Vacuuming or cleaning house in general, doing laundry (oddly therapeutic), walking, swimming, talking to friends about things (those few of you here who I have spoken with on phone or IM will know about that. You all should receive a medal! LOL), taking care if the pets, weeding, doing the pool maintenance, going for slow drives, masturbating, sex...

I am sure I am forgetting somethings...

 

[MickeyLee]

hm negative for relationships.. good for adventure.. i leave. pack up my car, cash out bank accounts.. roam the earth like Kane.

when i full the homes ties start to strangle, i cut ties and drift.

sometimes i come back, but most times i just start over where i land.


there have been heaps of ill will coping mechanisms over the years.. mostly i keep the destruction to close quarters. i have gone feral and bitten people i love. :frown:

i try not to do that these days.

 

[D_Doe_Ray_Mi]

Exercise, JO, sex, not eating, talking with friends, cleaning and organizing my way cool house and car, distraction with internet and TV.

 

[helgaleena]

hmm i like the idea that i can jump out a high window whenever i want. makes the day a choice, not something i am forced to slog through. until someone/thing gets tired of janking my strings.

You can jump, but as Iago the parrot says in Aladdin, 'you'd be surprised what you can live through'

 

[MickeyLee]

that's one of the reason not to jump :biggrin:

 

[helgaleena]

that's one of the reason not to jump :biggrin:

ML, you have got the very best coping mechanisms in this thread IMO!

 

[Infernal]

I used to hold things in until I made myself physically ill. I would usually end up with some horrible cold or sinus infection. Now I just let it hang out. If someone is rude to me, I let them know.

Therapy is expensive, screaming obscenities is cheap and effective

 

[dude_007]

I swim. Hard.

If that doesn't work, a few I.P.A.s

If that doesn't work: a couple vodka martinis

 

[double_digit]

*De-cloaks in a shimmer of light and logic, yet remains a bit fuzzy, but like a bad analog TV signal*

I withdraw. When overburdened with other people's issues especially - I need to go make home camp in solitude to mull things over carefully. Then, it's a skip and a hop back into reality. ;>

Though, sometimes the needs of the self-repair process can be protracted by unending demands...

*Fizzles and pops back out into being nothing more than memory. Though curious paw prints remain in the dust on the floor...*

 

[Frnkd213]

Lately going on LPSG. Watch the news, I guess seeing others suffer makes me appreciate my situation and opens my mind to solutions.
What else, get into my creative self, paint, piano, music-making not listening.

My mood is reflected in my garden. When it gets weedy well that's where I am, lately I have cleaned it up and it looks great.

Going places with my wife- she likes shopping I'll tag along, I love the company of my wife. Most of the stress comes from work so this is a nice distraction.

Of course sex. LPSG have taught about edging, did not know anything about it. I love to edge. No more of this 3 minutes and it's over. If I can have a minimum of a half our much of my stress for the moment is lifted. Play time with my wife is fun too.

I must say stress whacking, is different from lust and love. It can have a component of anger, hate, and pleasure all at once and it takes the stress relief to a different level. I wonder if anyone else feels the same?

 

[MickeyLee]

ML, you have got the very best coping mechanisms in this thread IMO!

thank ya.
has done right by me for years now, Ms. Helgaleena.

 

[deleted691973]

At one time, sex was coping mechanism. I had sex because I was lonely. I'm painfully shy and having non sexual conversations with men has been really hard for me. I'm still having trouble with talking to men, so I just don't do it anymore. So I decided to work on myself instead.

Now I get out of the house more. I go for a bike ride, or go to the gym whenever I feel sad. I also set some personal goals for myself, like learning how to drive and getting my license by the end of the fall.

 

[LaFemme]

At one time, sex was coping mechanism. I had sex because I was lonely. I'm painfully shy and having non sexual conversations with men has been really hard for me. I'm still having trouble with talking to men, so I just don't do it anymore. So I decided to work on myself instead.

Now I get out of the house more. I go for a bike ride, or go to the gym whenever I feel sad. I also set some personal goals for myself, like learning how to drive and getting my license by the end of the fall.

banana pancakes.....*drool*

I love banana pancakes....chocolate syrup....whipped cream....as a coping mechanism - it'll do for the small hurts :smile:.

Edit: No double entendre. I frippin' love banana pancakes!

 

[D_Ricky Dickardo]

I had some very bad news for my business today. I am going to cope with some Crown Royal and Coke.

 

[Frnkd213]

Crown and coke zero try it. Not to promote alcohol mind you, so drink responsibly.

 

[D_Ricky Dickardo]

not driving anywhere. just panicking.

 

[MickeyLee]

blind panic and surrendering to impending doom *snickers*

 

[hsarge]

I fantasize about the women at LPSG.

 

[BeaverLickinGood]

I use whatever I can. but more recently I've used the following: Spending money on shit I don't need. Marijuana, Ecstasy and what ever I can get my hands on except for coke, heroine, pcp etc. Sex but it's been awhile. Exercise. And just today, for the first time in about a year or so I cheated on my diet... Yep downward spiral...

Edit: Oh yeah can't forget about masturbation.

 

[alteclan2307]

Holy shit , i just realized i don't have an outlet. i just replay whatever is pissing me off on a loop mentally until i find an acceptable solution. masturbation yes but that's not for coping really that's just entertainment