Dating Bodybuilders

[AsherStClaire]

Ok, I've (38yo Male) decided to fully embrace my attraction to muscular men and I'm making several lifestyle choices to better increase my odds of pursuing them. This is going to be a couple-years long endeavor but the time is gonna pass anyway so why not try?

I'm not too concerned with where to find these types of men, but I'm more wondering how y'all approached these kinds of guys in the first place. Like, how did y'all ingratiate yourself into the types of spaces where you could encounter these kinds of men in the first place?

I'm not a masculine man, but I have an imposing physique that can be a bit intimidating until I open my mouth (then the purse falls out). I have no problem being "myself" (I can't pass for straight or masc and don't particularly want to try to pass as such) I've learned how to comfortably exist in potentially hostile spaces as a gay man. What I don't know is how to actually talk, flirt, engage with these types of men.

I'm not approaching this from a fetishistic perspective, I truly find muscular/bodybuilder physiques attractive in their own right.

But I guess what I'm asking is how you engaged with these types of men when you finally gained access to them. If you are a bodybuilder, what were you looking for in a partner if physique wasn't the biggest priority

 

[LPSG Simon]

I'm not too concerned with where to find these types of men,

Sounds like you know where you're doing this already, but you didn't mention where you have in mind. I think suggestions depend on that.

If it's at the gym, I'd do it by asking for advice. I think once you get a laugh or a good joke between yourself and them, it gets easier and you go from there.