Expecting a girl to be shaved - is it a porn deviation?

[Tattooed Goddess]

And i'll fully admit, im so tired of this shaved fanatisism that i am tempted to grow a huge fucking bush just to say "Fuck YOU" to all the men who expect a perfectly shaved peach everytime they pull her pants down. Yeah well, im expecting some dude to brush, rinse and floss before every kiss. How dare he assume chewing some gum or just simply brushing his teeth and having them clean to be good enough for my lips? That son of a bitch better have straight teeth too.....whatever.

It's like bonfire of the bras, i say fuck'em.

 

[dolfette]

And i'll fully admit, im so tired of this shaved fanatisism that i am tempted to grow a huge fucking bush just to say "Fuck YOU" to all the men who expect a perfectly shaved peach everytime they pull her pants down. Yeah well, im expecting some dude to brush, rinse and floss before every kiss. How dare he assume chewing some gum or just simply brushing his teeth and having them clean to be good enough for my lips? That son of a bitch better have straight teeth too.....whatever.

It's like bonfire of the bras, i say fuck'em.

i wear it how i like wearing it.
as long as a guy is clean, i won't tell him what to wear, how to style his hair or that he should have a six pack like pitt's.
i either like his style or i don't. if i don't then it's my issue...deal or walk away time.
if he can't extend the same courtesy then not going to play nice.

 

[Pendlum]

so true. some skin types just turn all angry red, bumps and infected ingrowns the size of boils!

and some women can't bear having fur.

And it hurts like hell. :tongue: The first time I tried shaving really sucked because the next day I was helping someone move a bunch of their furniture, so there was a lot of heavy stuff being pushed against/near that region.

 

[strutter2]

I keep mine trim but would never shave completely - it just looks too close to pre-pubescent children for me - I don't like men fully shaven either as that just reminds me of the same. A partner once shaved me completely - I thought why not just to see what it looked like and it just looked horrendous - not to mention the itching as it grew back!!

I must admit I keep my self trim underneath as I do have a ridiculous amount of hair which is really thick (like my headhair) and if I didn't it would probably take a couple of lumberjacks and a JCB to find my vagina! I like it if a man also keeps tidy and clean. But like I find completely shaven really wierd.

I tend to wax my bikini line and then shave underneath to a certain extent. However I have to be careful and when I first started waxing my bikini line -I used to come up in red spots, boils and ingrown hairs, so yeah like Mademoiselle Rouge my hair was far preferable to that!! BTW I like the bush growing idea!!! Ha ha.
I must admit the presence of pubic hair has one meaning = sexually mature adult human, whereas absence of it = sexually immature child for me and that's my main objection to taking everything off. However each to their own, as long as it isn't encouraging paedos.
BTW it's interesting to learn that in some Asian cultures where people have less body hair than other races, pubic hair is actually prized, and Mirkin sales (pubic wigs ) are huge!!!

 

[B_Bonky]

the shaveder the better. Love it when it's totally bare! won't watch porn if the girl isn't bare. Dumped a girl recently who didn't shave at all.. gross!!

 

[greatdickismydrug]

At 43, I am actually old enough to say that I started shaving prior to when it became mainstream in porn. I pretty much hate hair in general and I like how clean it feels. I'm never 100% shaved, usually there is a very small, trimmed, patch....key words being very small.

I've never had a man complain.

 

[Ramsey]

For me, I've never had the issue of comparing a shaved woman to a prepubescent girl. The fullness and shape of a grown woman's hips is more than enough to make my brain never even compare the two.

 

[mikejohnson]

shaved all the way is the best imo

 

[Daisy]

I shave just because I like how it feels. I've got very little body hair as it is. It has nothing to do with porn or pleasing a man. I just feel cleaner, and I do it as often as I shave my legs or underarms. Just part of general grooming.

 

[voyeuristic]

As most of you know by now, I don't shave anything - pussy, legs, or underarms. I realize that this makes me part of a very, very tiny minority of women in the US in 2009. It definitely limits my dating options significantly, which is unfortunate - I think a lot of guys are missing out on someone who's fun, cute, and GGG - but it also acts as a good litmus test. I've found that my lovers who have responded well to my body hair have tended to be the most fun, kinky, open, loving, and real. My boyfriend, who is also totally unshaven (I prefer guys who are not only unshaven but very hairy), likes my body hair. I love getting up in his armpits and inhaling the pheremones (yup, that's right. Vomit if you will - he returns the favor.) I love deep-throating him with my face in his bush. I love rimming his furry ass. I love stroking his chest and belly hair when we spoon at night.

The woman I lived with for five years was unshaven too. I loved her soft pussy and leg hair and the way it contrasted her ivory skin. Most of my female friends are unshaven, since I'm part of the punk/activist/feminist/radical subcultures.

Whenever I do online dating, I disclose my unshaven status from the start. I don't want anyone to be disappointed, and I don't want to sleep with anyone who'd prefer a bald pussy and is merely tolerating mine because they want to get laid. If someone isn't on-board with the fur, they can go jack off - I don't enjoy hair removal and I'm not going to alter my body just because the media has decided that hairless is the only acceptable option for the modern woman.

 

[Wtff]

Voyeuristic : I have a lot of respect for the fact that you decide what you want to do with your body and that you dont let society or anybody else dictate it for you(even though the single though of a 100% unshaved woman totally grosses me out lol).

A lot of things I find attractive in a woman fits the ideal of the society but its only a coincidence. Because I like what is mainstream dosent mean society dictated it to me.

 

[greatdickismydrug]

For me, I've never had the issue of comparing a shaved woman to a prepubescent girl. The fullness and shape of a grown woman's hips is more than enough to make my brain never even compare the two.

I feel the same way about guys who are totally shaved in that their bodies are so masculine my brain is thinking MAN not boy. Most body builders shave everything and I love that. They never remind me of boys.

"Back in the day", I had to look for men who had very little hair naturally but, now with shaving so commonplace (at least with younger men), there are a lot more smooth guys out there. :smile:

 

[B_dhedges007]

me personally i stay trimmed very low..not all the way cause it itches wen it grows back..lol...but as far as women..if they're not shaved i dont have sex with them..ive had girls get naked and i see they're not shaved and i left the room or made them shave...my dick has standards

 

[Pendlum]

Thank you Ramsey and GDIMD. The last thing I'm thinking about when I see a shaved vagina is a little girl. Every time I hear that excuse it just boggles my goggles. I'd rather admit to liking hair then saying I don't like shaven because it reminds me of little boys/girls, that's creepy.

 

[sleepiboi]

I mean, we aren't living in the 80's when being hairy was the thing. Today, people are more into grooming and taking care of themselves. I feel like at least trimming should be done. I take care of myself and I feel they should at least show some courtesy and doing the same

 

[dolfette]

I mean, we aren't living in the 80's when being hairy was the thing. Today, people are more into grooming and taking care of themselves. I feel like at least trimming should be done. I take care of myself and I feel they should at least show some courtesy and doing the same

'should'?
there's no 'should'.
i like a man with tatts, but no man 'should' get tatts just because i like them.
i don't like beards, but no man 'should' shave just because i don't like them.

 

[voyeuristic]

Thank you dolfette. You said it. Defining "taking care of oneself" as "removing natural hair" is ridiculous. Taking care of oneself, in my opinion, means eating well, exercising, and maintaining physical and mental health. Some people enjoy hair removal; some don't. I shower daily, take vitamins, work out, etc. - the idea that I'm "not taking care of myself" because I'm not getting Brazilians is silly. I don't like men and women who shave, personally, but I sure wouldn't want someone to change what they like doing because of me - and I'm certainly not going to try to pathologize their preference or make it seem disgusting, gross, or dirty.

 

[dolfette]

Thank you dolfette. You said it. Defining "taking care of oneself" as "removing natural hair" is ridiculous. Taking care of oneself, in my opinion, means eating well, exercising, and maintaining physical and mental health. Some people enjoy hair removal; some don't. I shower daily, take vitamins, work out, etc. - the idea that I'm "not taking care of myself" because I'm not getting Brazilians is silly. I don't like men and women who shave, personally, but I sure wouldn't want someone to change what they like doing because of me - and I'm certainly not going to try to pathologize their preference or make it seem disgusting, gross, or dirty.

i find shaved men very unattractive.
but it would be incredibly childish to think that men shouldn't groom as they feel comfortable just because i dislike it.
clothes, hair, tatts, piercings. i know what i prefer but i don't kid myself that everyone else should feel the same.
...actually, trimmed is the worst IMO. sharp, blunt hair feels worse to me than soft curls.

i dated a guy who preferred a landing strip. i tried it for a week, then shaved it off. i kept thinking my vag has a hitler mustache.

i have to feel comfortable in my own skin.

 

[sleepiboi]

I guess me being hairy since younger, I personally just don't like much hair i guess...but the hair wouldn't stop me lol

 

[D_Suckleberry Hound]

I certainly agree with the sentiment that hair grooming is a personal choice, not something that should be "expected" due to what someone perceives as being in fashion at a given time. My wife and I have both tried shaving, trimming, etc., but find that we both prefer a more natural appearance that involves body hair. Neither of us much like the appearance of the shaved look for either sex, but that's just our personal preference. I can't imagine deciding not to be with someone just because they did or did not have body hair.