Friendship
- Thread starter Ethyl
- Start date
camper joe
Admired Member
- Joined
- Jun 2, 2006
- Posts
- 2,741
- Media
- 0
- Likes
- 777
- Points
- 193
- Location
- North Carolina
- Sexuality
- No Response
- Gender
- Male
Originally Posted by meme0101
This is true, but I have found that when by chance, you are together again time melts away quickly and if they was a true friend the friendship remains.
This is true, but I have found that when by chance, you are together again time melts away quickly and if they was a true friend the friendship remains.
Principessa
Expert Member
Sometimes you lose touch for a good reason, sometimes not...
Sometimes words are said that even when you try to take them back and apologize they don't accept. I think thats one of the saddest types of loss.
I found out who my real friends were when I became physically disabled last year and couldn't work. :frown1: Apparently some people think vestibular disorders are contagious.
Sometimes words are said that even when you try to take them back and apologize they don't accept. I think thats one of the saddest types of loss.
I found out who my real friends were when I became physically disabled last year and couldn't work. :frown1: Apparently some people think vestibular disorders are contagious.
WOw,
I am so sorry, Patsy Ann . I am sure that must have been disappointing.
People do the same thing for recently widowed ,divorced and single women! LOL! :biggrin1:
I am so sorry, Patsy Ann . I am sure that must have been disappointing.
People do the same thing for recently widowed ,divorced and single women! LOL! :biggrin1:
Sometimes you lose touch for a good reason, sometimes not...
Sometimes words are said that even when you try to take them back and apologize they don't accept. I think thats one of the saddest types of loss.
I found out who my real friends were when I became physically disabled last year and couldn't work. :frown1: Apparently some people think vestibular disorders are contagious.
Principessa
Expert Member
I know, that has always been weird to me. Why can you have an extra man at a dinner party but not an extra woman? Widowed women actually get cut some slack, for a little while. People bring them casseroles and invite them out to do things. Nobody brings dinner over when you get a divorce. :tongue:
B_RedDude
Expert Member
- Joined
- Jun 30, 2007
- Posts
- 1,900
- Media
- 0
- Likes
- 135
- Points
- 183
- Location
- California
- Sexuality
- 99% Gay, 1% Straight
- Gender
- Male
Yes, if you're always working at it, something's not quite right. I think the beauty of friendship is that you feel free to express yourself and enjoy the reflection you see of yourself in others.
My friends made dinner for me after my divorce. They also took care of my pooch when I was out of town and called me to make sure I wasn't wallowing in self-pity and haagen-dazs. Well, I take that back. They usually wanted to share my ice cream. :tongue:
Some friendships aren't made to last for ever, and sad as that is sometimes we just have to let a friend go.
Drifterwood
Superior Member
HazelGod
Sexy Member
- Joined
- Dec 11, 2006
- Posts
- 7,145
- Media
- 1
- Likes
- 41
- Points
- 183
- Location
- The Other Side of the Pillow
- Sexuality
- 99% Straight, 1% Gay
- Gender
- Male
I had a teacher who put it into perspective for me many years ago.
He believed that all relationships, platonic and otherwise, arose because the two people (A & B) were at a common point in their lives and each reinforced the other.
The problems, he said, are precipitated by the fact that all human beings througout their entire lives are works in progress, not static entities. Eventually, A becomes A' and B becomes B'. The relationships that endure are those wherein both the direction and rates of change for A & B are congruous.
Something about this simple model rang true with me when I heard it.
He believed that all relationships, platonic and otherwise, arose because the two people (A & B) were at a common point in their lives and each reinforced the other.
The problems, he said, are precipitated by the fact that all human beings througout their entire lives are works in progress, not static entities. Eventually, A becomes A' and B becomes B'. The relationships that endure are those wherein both the direction and rates of change for A & B are congruous.
Something about this simple model rang true with me when I heard it.
I always try to look at the "deeper meaning" in life. I've lost friends, and it's never easy, but I know that it's happened for a reason. I just keep going. No sense holding myself back in life.
Principessa
Expert Member
I've been looking for this poem, since I first read this thread. I'm sure we have all had this sent to us at some time or another via e-mail.
Reason, Season, or Lifetime
Reason, Season, or Lifetime
What are you??? Are you a Reason a Season or a Lifetime?
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON. . . It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.
Then people come into your life for a SEASON. Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind
but friendship is clairvoyant.
THANK YOU for being a part of my life ~ Brian A. "Drew" Chalker
People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON. . . It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.
Then people come into your life for a SEASON. Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind
but friendship is clairvoyant.
THANK YOU for being a part of my life ~ Brian A. "Drew" Chalker
B_Think_Kink
Sexy Member
I'm actually going to have to disagree. I don't take friendship lightly, but because my personality disorder does not allow me to trust people. I don't form bonds that would hold me to any person for any reason. Trust is earned in most cases, but for me trust doesn't exist beyond a basic level. That said... I think I have an idea what the ideal friendship should be like, but I don't think I'm a good representative of it.
B_Think_Kink
Sexy Member
Aw yes... I sent this to Andrew...
Good memories. Thanks you made me smile. :smile: :smile: :smile:
AlteredEgo
Mythical Member
- Joined
- Jan 12, 2006
- Posts
- 19,166
- Media
- 37
- Likes
- 26,273
- Points
- 368
- Location
- Hello (Sud-Ouest, Burkina Faso)
- Sexuality
- No Response
Agreed. I always say friendship isn't friendship until it's tested. Time is a bitch of a proctor on occasion.
AlteredEgo
Mythical Member
- Joined
- Jan 12, 2006
- Posts
- 19,166
- Media
- 37
- Likes
- 26,273
- Points
- 368
- Location
- Hello (Sud-Ouest, Burkina Faso)
- Sexuality
- No Response
It's kind of a tradition among my friends: If you get out of a lame relationship, we will bake you a cake, and throw you a party. There's even singing involved. It's lot's of fun, and hopefully an incentive. I'm known for excellent break-up cake, and so is Entenmann's. LOL Ben and Jerry are usually also invited.
Drifterwood
Superior Member
Being friendly with each other doesn't make you friends.
A friend will think about you and your welfare when they don't have to.
A friend will perform an act of unnecessary kindness and compassion.
A friend will be there when you need someone even if you don't ask.
A friend will be honest if you can handle it.
A friend will think about you and your welfare when they don't have to.
A friend will perform an act of unnecessary kindness and compassion.
A friend will be there when you need someone even if you don't ask.
A friend will be honest if you can handle it.
A friend will be honest even when you can't handle it, if (s)he needs to be.
Similar threads
