Gentlemen

It may have been said already but a gentleman is not a doormat. He can be a bit of a cad at times, but never a doormat! Keep things simple, sophisticated, and free of gossip and drama.

Cad: intelligent, educated, often cultured and witty, but suffers from intermittent fits of selfish, perhaps improper or immoral behavior.

Keep a few vices, is all!
 
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What kind of gentleman are trying to be? An actual man of gentle... or just have high standards of proper behaviour?
 
Your ae saying you want to be a beta male. You wont use techniques like Bristol Lair | Pickup Artist (PUA) – Seduction Database to pick up women so will be stuck with the dregs.

You will wear tweed jackets and dress like a 60yo ie A Suitable Wardrobe "Brown suede cap toed shoes became all the rage for sport and country wear in the 1930s after the Prince of Wales wore them "

Study art history like Prince William.

Join the army.

Pass.
 
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Don't do it! Haven't you read my thread, "The Tom Leykis Thread"? Gentlemen finish last man. She'll use you and cheat behind your back if you're good to her. She'll think of you as a friend if you open doors for her and pull her chair out, and return her calls, and buy her flowers, and all that other nice crap.


what a bunch of crap!

This isn't the 20th century anymore dude
 
Don't do it! Haven't you read my thread, "The Tom Leykis Thread"? Gentlemen finish last man. She'll use you and cheat behind your back if you're good to her. She'll think of you as a friend if you open doors for her and pull her chair out, and return her calls, and buy her flowers, and all that other nice crap.

typical...

you don't know what a gentleman is.

A gentleman doesn't get cheated on because he stands up for his core values and his own sense of honor, and does so without making anyone else feel cheap, belittled, or disaffected.

A gentleman also dos not consort with floozies, gold-diggers, bitches and she-its. He spends his time wooing quality women who are looking for quality men.


And, BTW... being a gentleman does not mean you are not as nasty and perverted as your partner's interests or daring might allow...

But it does mean you don't discuss such things with anyone else.


Some other tips...

a gentleman rises when a woman approaches the table and helps with her chair.
A gentleman waits until everyone at the table has their food before digging, in...
and when a gentleman invites a person, or a group of people, to dine or drink with him, he PAYS THE TAB.
 
I got some books on the matter, I'll report back on what it says, but I'm sure it'll tell me that porn sites like this is not cool, so my days on here are numbered. :(

Being a gentleman I think is defined by how you comport yourself in public and the manner with which you treat others. It does not dictate your behavior when you are alone. It does not threaten one's "gentlemanliness" to watch porn in private. However to talk about what one watched to a group of woman at a dinner party would not be gentlemanly.
 
Being a gentleman I think is defined by how you comport yourself in public and the manner with which you treat others. It does not dictate your behavior when you are alone. It does not threaten one's "gentlemanliness" to watch porn in private. However to talk about what one watched to a group of woman at a dinner party would not be gentlemanly.

agree
 
Treating others like you would want to be treated. Gentlemen so respect to all. As far as style, do everything with a touch of maturity. That means your clothes should grow up with you not revert to your teen years. Having manners, like saying "excuse me", or "sir & mam" (although some women will not want to be called mam so pick and choose). A good one is when a lady comes to the table, stand up and let her sit down before you take your seat again. Also when at dinner the lady orders first, then you. If you are with a buddy or a boyfriend or whoever, its best to let them order first. Once the food arrives wait until they take pick up their knife and fork first, then you.

There are many more but these will help you get started. Congrats on taking yourself to the next level.