I have an ejaculation problem

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Hello Jonah:
First of all I'd like to take the opportunity to commend you for having the
courage to speak up about your challenge.
Sometimes life throw's us curves that seem unfair.
I know because I've lived with intense back pain for many years.
It too has interfered with my sex life.
Guess what I'm trying to say is that it's great that you're asking for help.
I'm sure there are many people here who are thinking and praying that
you find relief and release.
Just wanted to let you know that many of us haven't posted before but
wish you the best possible outcome.
When life gives you lemons...make lemonade...
Sometimes it's easier said than done.
Hang in there and expect the best.
Focus on stuff that makes you feel good about you,
and make a list of things you appreciate about your body
and your life...keep doing that and see if that turns things around.
Best wishes!!!
 

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Hi Jonah,

I am not a native English speaker (I am French, so excuse my English...).

First, I would like to tell you the (true) story of this woman who saw her husband in the arms of another woman when she got home. She was very chocked by what she saw and soon after...she lost her sight.

She visited many specialists and all said that they didn't see any problem. Actually, they didn't see any physiological problem. Then, she tried a therapist and they discovered that there was a link between her blindness and the fact she saw her husband with another woman. This event echoed with a long personal history, she had to review. And believe it or not, she finally recovered her sight.


As I see your situation, you are dissociating yourself from your penis.
You don't allow yourself to feel sensations in this part of your body, when you are conscious.

It means that all this area of your body (more particularly the sensitive range) has been rejected in you "subconscious" because it was the best solution for you to solve a deep inner conflict. If you really want to recover this range of sensation, you will have to have a look into your past which possesses the key. Some of your past experiences may need to be scanned carefully.

Then, you will have to release those emotions you keep inside. I think you need the help of a therapist for that. Anyway, you will need somebody else to express your feelings when you will be ready.

Your body is delivering to you a message coming from your subconscious. You need to understand it, which includes being empathic to help release the emotions.

Whatever, be sure you will find sooner or later a solution because it is planned like that.

Be confident and follow your intuition and wisdom, which can lead you to the right therapist to help you to make the shift. And meanwhile, don't forget to live!

cheers
Samuel
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A neurologist is where it's at. When I the first post I thought it was neurological problem. I hope you've told everyone about that dick pull you got when you were 9. The nerves of the penis travel in a bundle along the top of the penis. The nerves branch off from the main bundle all along the length of the penis. When your penis was pulled it could have caused damage to that main trunk, what's commonly called the dorsal nerve.

A few things may be able to happen here. A neurologist may be able to perform microsurgery to reattach the torn nerves, stem cells may be used to regrow them, or you may have to wait until medicine catches-up to you.

Please listen really carefully. Do not castrate yourself. Some really amazing things are going on with stem cells and nerve regeneration. What will happen is you get your nads off and then find a year later that there's surgery to repair it. Ask your neurologist. He or she will be able to tell you what's going on. Tell the neurologist first you have no objection to stem cell research, then ask what it might do for you. It could save your sex life. I fucking hated thinking years in advance when I was young because it seemed an eternity. It isn't. Because of research bans here in the US, most serious research is being done elsewhere, particularly the UK.

Do NOT give-up hope. You can still sire children if you want to, can still get an erection, and can ejaculate, and that's more than half the battle.

Please keep in contact with us Jonah. We're all pulling for you. Let us know how things go with the neuro guys. If I recall, there's an excellent neurologist in the Dallas area who specializes in urological neurology. If you'd like I can see if I can find them.

Take care and remember, it's always darkest before the dawn and, in the case of neurology, the dawn is very close.
 

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Blond Jonah,

Your loss of sensation is very likely an artifact of your circumcision. I know a couple other guys just like you. Losing a degree of sensation from circumcision is not unusual at all. Losing it as completely as you describe at your age is unusual.

There are always the outliers on the bell curve. Some people will be more damaged than others. I'm sorry for your loss. Foreskin restoration is about the only thing I can think of that will increase sensation, other than what others on this thread say about relaxing and taking your time.

I would forget about seeing any more doctors. They may do more harm than good. You've already made sure that everything is medically normal, or unnaturally normal as far as the circumcision is concerned. You've exhausted all possibilities. What else could it be?